I'm easy going,treat othres as equals,never judge anyone,always helpful,fun and exciting to be with and have a real zest for life.I have been married twice now and no matter what I do,I can't seem to meet a female partner who wants to be with me.I'm no geek but I suppose that I have lost touch with reality.Please can anyone help.
2006-08-20 19:10:33 · 18 answers · asked by keineursache 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is like you.. he is a nice guy.
but sometimes what women need is NOT only just being nice but interesting. to be honest, i rather find my husband quite boring and too straight sometimes, and it really freaks me out. i need something new.. , a candle light dinner surprise would be fantastic or a gift sometimes, not always have to be given on anniversary/ birthday.
my husband lacks some good sense of humor. i like uncontrollable laughing yet he can't give me.
also, sometimes men need to be just a lil' bit naughty.. u know...
i am not sure about u but i just wanna share with u my experience with my husband. sometimes, just being nice isn't enuf.
hope this helps!
good luck!
2006-08-20 19:32:06 · answer #1 · answered by #1 Girl -She's Bittersweet- 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner is easy going - he's so laid back he makes a rug look stressed - which can be infuriating at times, as it seems like he doesn't really care. My ex-husband though was exactly like you, bounding from one day to the next, always helping others, craving excitement, always active and out-there.
I existed - just.
So much of his time was taken up with his 'zest' (and believe me after 10 years bouncing puppies get pretty irritating) that we just didn't have a marriage and I left. I'm sure he only really noticed when we had to move out.
You sound like your focussing on what makes a person attractive to others, but not in the long term. I'm guessing that sooner or later your partners end up dragging you down or holding you back or are disapproving of your outlook.
Deep down, I think you're an entertainer, and it's lonely up there on the stage... Unless you can either tone things down a bit, direct your energy exclusvely or find the perfect double-act you're going to be pretty much doomed to carry on mate.
2006-08-21 02:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by trebs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that saying "Nice guys finish last"? well it's true honey. You are wearing your heart on your sleeve and the girls you are meeting are taking advantage of it. There is such a thing (although hard to believe) as being too nice. I'd start looking for another type of girl. Apparently what you are attracted to doesn't seem to fit your way of thinking. Not too many people "old school" in this day and age. Sign up for match maker.com or something and see if that helps. I heard they match up people by their way of thinking, personality, and desires in life. Wish you the best of luck!
2006-08-21 02:39:50 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you listed all your flaws
women are not equal and will never be
much more thy do not like it that way..
if they did you pay dutch at every meal
they could open their own doors
and when you divorce they would say it's ok, i got my own money i do not need any of yours... but they don't...
you aren't telling the whole story about yourself... after all you attraced 2 women to marry you... so there is something that makes them want out... and that something is you... i know you have some huge faults to make 2 women jump.. either that you have a bad tendency to accept whomever as mrs soon to be ex and marry her anywys,, i suspect you have lower your expectations and thus seek such women.. I suspect you have a lower self esteem, the kind that puts such verbage in dating ads as you read them you say.. hmm a liar and desperate...
2006-08-21 02:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez, for years I used to say out loud to God "please find me someone that can love me the way I can love" Hey Presto !!! Along comes this gorgeous guy - we fell in love and we have had a wonderful marriage ever since - even though he said I was frumpy the other week. - but I still love him we still laugh everyday and phone each other. You will find someone too again, so don't dispair.
Just cos you've been married twice doesn't mean you won't again. You need to learn from your mistakes. Find out what you were doing wrong and don't fall into that trap again.
2006-08-23 09:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think because you try to hard because you wanna be loved so much that you do all these things every women is different ok we dont wont the same things in a man ok so dont try so hard coz you are just paying for all these weddings that dont least long you could of bought a car on a gone on hoilday you will find thr rite one in the end belive me !!!!!!!!!!!!!! DONT GIVE UP
2006-08-21 14:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by gem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find yourself. You will never find happiness in another person. Forget women for a while and concentrate on the things that you like, the things that define you. When you discover who you are and what you can bring into a relationship you are more likely to find a woman that will love you for what you are, not for what you are trying to be for her.
2006-08-21 02:23:11 · answer #7 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. I know the old adage, " Love will find you when you least expect it" (or some variation on that theme), sounds terribly cliche, but it turned out to be true for me. Take the time to grow and be happy with yourself and you will attract like-minded people.
2006-08-21 02:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by Jasmine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayb ur tryin too hard. mayb ur lookin in all the wrong places...just wait...the right women will find u! enjoy being single as long as u can! lol! smile, b urself, tell jokes, have fun! mayb ask a close friend to set u up on a blind date...thats how mi gradparents meet!
mi grandpa's bro set him up with his girlfriend's cousin...both mi grandparents and the ones who set them up...r married! they hav been married for a LONG time!
mayb it willl work 4 u!
good luck!
2006-08-21 10:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by nicklebob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your need is greater than their's, and it comes across. There could be other factors, as well. I tell you that things might not ever improve, as I'm sort of old and they never did for me.
2006-08-21 02:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋