My wife told me the other day that she still loves me but she's not in love with me anymore. We still have sex but she refuses to kiss on the lips passionately anymore, I also suspect that she might be having an affair am I right, I discovered a sms message that she had sent to a male friend of ours which said ( you can come over tomorrow his working afternoon shift and I will give it to you and even cook dinner for you) I confronted her about it but she said it was nothing but still did not answer my question on what it was she was going to give to him. Should I be worried we have had some communication problems but I have tried to talk more with her. And the male friend is known to sleep around and has had several relationships with married women, I still love my wife and want us to be together like we used to be, also we have 2 children aged 10 & 13. Another thing the friend always comes past when I'm at work, he rarely comes if I'm there, my wife says its because I ignore him.
2006-08-20 19:09:08 · 12 answers · asked by mivanov66 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well this probably isn't what you wanted to here but she is cheating i should know my first wife of 26 years said the exact same thing and i finally caught her and i tried everything possible to put it back together but didn't work not sure how old you and your wife are but with your all kids at the age they are i am guessing mid thirties to around forty and that is around the age that mid life has an affect if that is the case not much you can do just start planning for seperation. sorry wasn't more help.
2006-08-20 19:22:19 · answer #1 · answered by prospectorofgold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on what you've described, it sounds as if your wife may be getting her affection somewhere else.
When a woman tells a man
(especially her husband)...
"I love you, BUT I am NOT in love with you.." that's usually the "kiss of death" for their relationship.
If you suspect cheating might be going on,
you can make an excuse to leave work early
( you can always say you're suddenly ill)
which you probably will be, if you come home unexpectedly and catch her inflagrante delicto.
if that happens, then you'll have some hard thinking to do about your relationship.
Good Luck~*
2006-08-20 19:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by DG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, After what you just told us, and your wife will not kiss you anymore, and that email you found.Your right she has all the signs of a woman having an affair.What she meant when she said she loves, but not in love with you anymore,she loves you as a brother and sister would.Am sorry,but once a cheater anyways a cheater.Besides than, shes sleeping around with someone you both know.I would say,your marriages is over.If it was me,i just couldn't take a cheater back.It would hurt me to much.
Clowmy
2006-08-20 19:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that way just becareful and be strong just remember you still have your kids. I think I'm going through something like this right now to I also have kids but mine are younger 5 & 3 they are what is helping me through this the most. Thank god for kids I say and of course my family. Believe me I love my husband and he knows that but mine & my kids happiness will come first if I find out he's doing anything. Just be strong k and take a deep breath and smile. Thats what I'm doing I'm letting it fall in my hands I don't want to walk in on it. 1 step at a time. ; )
2006-08-20 19:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by ~JustKeepSmiling~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That not in love with you crap is just that...crap! And yes you should be worried and I wouldn't have stopped asking until she gave me an answer about what she was giving him. Better yet though I would've said nothing and then come home real early from just in time to see for myself what she was giving him, then there are no more questions about it.
2006-08-20 19:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very worried of this guy. Talk to your wife about your feelings. I hate that "I love you" line..."but I'm not in love with you." Where did the passion in your relationship go? Maybe try going to couples therapy.
2006-08-20 19:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this does not sound normal at all.. i think that it meant that she was going to give her self up to him in sexual ways. try and talk to her get her alone with out the kids on a romanic day take a day off of work if you have to and get a sitter talk things threw.. but honestly i wouldn't trust her.
2006-08-20 19:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by Melinda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might need the help of a theripist to work things out
2006-08-24 15:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by Forsaken Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what is going on
confront both of them at the same time
you will get the answers that you need
2006-08-21 07:21:22 · answer #9 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in denial.....you already know what she's doing....she's cheating on you. Your being played for a fool. Sorry to say it but someone has too.
2006-08-20 19:20:12 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋