i visited a doctor yesterday and he said it is not really good to postpone having babies for too long. he said i'd better not have pills and my husband should not use a condom! he made my life so complicated!
what should we do so that i won't get pregnant and none of us would get a disease or pills side effects or whatever... what is the safest way?
2006-08-20 19:06:10 · 23 answers · asked by bluemarine 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i'm 26 years old
2006-08-20 21:59:19 · update #1
Are you sure this guy is a doctor? He sounds like a quack. No, make that he IS a quack.
2006-08-21 22:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by joker_32605 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a new doctor. This guy sounds like a whack-o that should be reported to the AMA and your state professional licensing department.
2-3 years is not a long time to postpone having a baby unless you are in your 40s or 50s. It is a wise decision to postpone having babies until you have been able to spend a few years together. Once you have children, you won't have as much time or energy for each other.
Go to Planned Parenthood or a gynecologist and get on the pill before you accidentally get pregnant.
2006-08-20 19:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off you need to find a new doctor. The birth control pill is very reliable if you take it regularly. How old are you? I would recommend waiting a couple of years unless you're like 35 or so. Even then you probably wouldn't have too many problems. It just sounds like your doctor has his own agenda. You should both be tested for diseases before you have any more sex. Of course if you are both virgins this won't be an issue you don't need any testing. You will have to use a condom until you find a new doctor, preferably a female one!
2006-08-20 19:15:55 · answer #3 · answered by psycho-cook 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well depending on your age the risks of becoming pregnant can vary- but most complications do not arise until a woman is over 40. However, it is most important that you are your husband are ready to have children. If you are worried about diseases I recommend that you and your husband both get tested for STDs and as long as you both test negative and remain faithful to each other your risk is very limited. I am not sure why your doctor advised you against condoms or birth control but you may want to get a second opinion. Ultimately you need to remember that this is your decision and you and your husband should do whatever you are comfortable with.
2006-08-20 19:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by girlinlove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would ANY doctor recommend this type of action??? Doesn't make much sense.
If you are allergic or older then yes you probably shouldn't take the Pill. There are many other alternatives.
The Pill, Diaphragm, IUD, Foam, Condoms, etc.
Make another appointment with a NEW OB/GYN. That way you will have another opinion on the matter.
2006-08-20 19:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by jennifersuem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to your doctor. The pill and condom (safest) is the best way for you not to get pregnant. If you and your husband is not ready for a baby why do you think a doctor can tell you that you are?
2006-08-20 19:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by samoan2456 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 06:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you need to change Doctors ASAP! No, Doctor I've been to in the last 4 years has told me such things, in fact they have encouraged me to take the pill while we wait to have children. Unless either you or your husband is allergic to laytex, there is no reason you can not make that an option instead of the pill.
2006-08-20 19:17:44 · answer #8 · answered by amaris 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, unless you are past 40 I would say you can wait a few years.
Second, get a new doctor. He sounds unprofessional to me.
You just got married, give yourself time as a married couple!
Geez!
Edit: I just read one of your questions that said your hubby is 30. You are not old and I personally think you should wait and get a new doctor!!!
2006-08-20 19:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't use any contraceptives I suggest using the menstrual cycle method and have you husband wear tight fitting underwear also having a very hot baths before sex helps in reducing the potency of sperm these method have been used for centuries with good results they are not always effective
2006-08-20 19:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by libraintiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what age u r ? If both of you r working persons then same prob came after 2 or 3 year latter. So why not now ? As per doctor opinion it is true after all its in your & your's husbands
hand
2006-08-20 19:20:32 · answer #11 · answered by san 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋