I don't mean only to lovers but just anyone you feel that way about. I think it should be so easy as saying "Good Morning"
2006-08-20 18:28:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it may depend on ur family culture. if u grew up a household where u dont say it much (although u guys do love each other to the bone) then its a little harder to come out. its natural
2006-08-20 18:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We live in a world where it's very easy to reject people or say no. No one likes to be rejected.
Love is considered a sacred thing by many. So to be able to say "I love you" means making yourself vulnerable.
You also have people who come from different backgrounds. Some households, whether they mean to or not, create an aloof atmosphere.
Guys are taught to be tough and express any such pain. On top of that, you have the women that are looking for strength in a man. Weakness can be a turn off.
Society doesn't have an official instruction manual on appropriate and inappropriate expressions of love. Some people do it well and others do it badly.
It's the people who do it badly that ruin it for everyone else. The people who abuse love, make it harder for others to reach out and love the ones who got burned.
There's also the aspect of where some people may not reciprocate feelings of love with the same intensity that someone else does. That's another form of rejection or why people would prefer to broach the subject of love.
In a perfect world, it should be that way. It's the same way people should in high school should be honest and up front if someone is not their friend rather than smiling to their face and tolerating them.
To parents the answer would be to just tell the person. However, for the teenager who has to go to school and put up with running into the person whom they just spurned in a friendship, it causes a problem.
It should be as easy as saying "Good Morning," but that greeting is more simplistic than "I love you" because the latter has so many different levels.
When you say "Good Morning," it means just that. When you say "I love you," it can mean so many different things to different people that you have to be careful.
It's like attractive women who refuse to make eye contact and smile at men. They know that if they do that, they'll get unwanted advances from guys because men will assume that's an automatica invitation to approach.
So attractive women learn at an early age to be cold and abrasive so that they don't give off the wrong signals to people. Just like "Good Morning," women should be able to smile warmly and make eye contact like everyone else, but they can't because of the complicated Social Politics that go with such an act.
2006-08-21 01:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by "IRonIC" by Alanis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easier to say it if you really are in love or far from it and just jacking with someone. Much tougher for those in the middle, at least those who prefer not to lie, even though it'll make the other person feel better (in the short run).
Now if you feel that way about someone, it shouldn't be too tough unless you were brought up in a family which didn't express itself much. If that's the case, it'll take a bit more effort to get past the quietness.
2006-08-21 01:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by Yada Yada Yada 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is a strong word to use, believe me, i fell in love hard and i am hurting because of it. in order for you to say i love you, you have to truly mean it and you have to prepare for the emotions that come with that word whether it be happiness or heartache. you can be very happy when you're in love but heartache is a ***** when the person you love, ends the relationship.
2006-08-21 02:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by drew46759 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's hard to say it when u r not sure about how the other person feels towards u!!!
but when u love someone and that someone loves u it's not hard to tell him i love u!!!
2006-08-21 01:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by Musty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i also agree with you that it is so hard to say someone i love you even we can say eassily to someone a harsh world like i hate you i think it depends on your nature and it vary from persin to person and also if a person is having strong believe that the person to whom you are going to say wll not mind it he can eassily say
2006-08-21 01:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by preaty khan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!! it's not hard!!! if u really love your lover say it please bleave me if u really love say it don't keep it but not say many many time boring!!!
2006-08-21 02:34:41 · answer #7 · answered by nonglnalak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for some people it will always be hard to lie
2006-08-21 03:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by acid tongue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is b'cos U are not sure if it is really LOVE.
2006-08-21 01:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by me_imah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say it fast
2006-08-21 01:32:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋