we have been together two years get on great hes caring and affectionate but he will only have anel sex and receicve oral sex but wont give it back is this normal or do i need to worry
2006-08-20 18:17:49 · 43 answers · asked by jenny 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
tell him if he doesn't have sex "the other way" you will think he is gay. see what he does...
2006-08-20 18:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by *Kali* 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would ask him why - if you have been together that long, try to talk to him and say how you are feeling - like why don't we ever have "normal intercourse"? Why won't you please me like I please you?
I mean he could be gay - or he could have some kind of thinking related to a woman's vagin* that makes him not want to - you know what? I don't know - he may be gay. You have to talk to him and if you guys can, go see a relationship or sex therapist.
I am suprised you have been with him two years like this - I would have asked right away - I would not have done anal before "regular" ever with a guy - so talk to him.. find out why and if you have and he doesn't tell you, tell him that you feel like he may not really be attracted to women because of this and that you want a bf that will love all of you - your whole body and please you like you do him- that isn't right. Sex isn't everything but it is how you physically express your love and what he is doing - or not doing, is not right. Be direct and just tell him how you feel - at this point, there is no other way to approach it. Or, tell him that there is no more anal or bjs and then see what happens and don't let it happen at all. But I would talk to him - why waste more time?
2006-08-20 18:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually have a friend with a similiar situation only in her case there is enough additional signs that he probably is gay and simply deeply uncomfortable with coming to terms with it. In your case, I dont know. Have you asked him straight out in an accepting way? Are there other indications that would lead you to believe this? Are you prepared to deal with it if he is? Are you satisfied with the way your sex life is with him? Because that is important! - for you to feel honored, desired, and satisfied as a woman.
Its not exactly "normal" in that I think its rather unusual and yet there are many many "unusual" preferences about sex that people have. We are all different. he may also have some serious phobia about pregnancy, who knows? Ask him. COMMUNICATION is key. Good Luck
2006-08-20 18:31:54 · answer #3 · answered by Milk Maid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just trying to perpetuate a myth that gay guys like anal sex more than the population at large.
Maybe he doesn't want to look at your face when he fcuks you, or maybe your breath smells.
I don't know any gay guys that would do a woman up the front or back bottom.
2006-08-21 03:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by n2mustaches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he does not want to get you pregnant. As for the not wanting to give oral sex, I think the rest of the male world think he is a nut job. giving oral to a girl is way better than dying and going to heaven.
2006-08-20 18:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by Tony T 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lots of guys enjoy that kind of stimulation and are very straight. If he looks at other guys with that "look" then thats a good hint. If he seems to be avoiding contact with you period thats a dead give away. This is coming from my own experiance, coming out to my girl was the hardest thing in the world. If your really that concerned discuss it with him. If hes worth keeping everything will work out. if he dumps you, he wasnt worth the energy.
2006-08-20 18:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by imunalia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that a relationship is about giving AND receiving. If he doesn`t give, you should ask him why not. Anyway this is not something that would mean that he`s gay.
2006-08-20 21:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by kaszika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to worry about making up questions for the internet.
2006-08-21 02:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by bobbi b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell he's not gay he's just been spoiled. If you want another test you could buy a cool sex toy and see where all he wants to put it.
2006-08-20 18:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by der_grosse_e 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is gay or he had so much natural sex that he got borred from that and was in hunger of anal and oral sex... so find out by your own what is the fact.OK hon shammi1070@yahoo.com
2006-08-20 18:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by Shammi 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
uhh I dont know.. and you allowed to be treated like this for two years!!
Amazing what women will do... I mean that part of your body is exit ONLY!!
You need to ditch the boyfriend because it looks like to me he using you to fulfill some crazy fantasy...
2006-08-20 18:23:28 · answer #11 · answered by Giggagirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋