Can Anyone HELP, We Are About To Give Up HOPE !!!!!?

Question

My husband and I have being trying for the last two years to have a baby, I don't know what to do, nothing we have tried works. We can't afford most of the ways the doctors suggest, we are so desperate that we will try just about anything(PLEASE BE REALISTIC) we are at our breaking point, and I think my husband is getting tried all together. PLEASE HELP !!!!!!

Answer 1

Two years is not very long. Were you on the pill before that? it can take awhile for some to get pg after.

Honestly, quit worrying and just have yourselves checked out, sperm count, etc..

And if you find you cannot get pg, adopt. I tried for 10 years to get pg, we adopted through foster care. It took me until I was 40 to fully let got there was never going to be a baby from this body!

But now, I am fine with it because if I had, I would never have the wonderful 17 year old son I have now;-)

You will be blessed whether it comes from your body or another's.

http://www.clippingers.us/mychild.html

Answer 2

Has your Doctor checked to see if anything was going on? My husband and I are trying to have a baby as well, and when I switched to a different doctor I learned I have PCOS, and Displasia or how ever you spell it. So right now I have to get these taken care of first. I can't afford most of the ways either, but the way I look at it is that having a baby is really important to me, and what my insurance won't cover, sending in $50.00 a month will. Just try to relax a little, I know it gets nerve racking, but there is always a way. Double check with your doctor and with your insurance company.

Answer 3

Ask yourself is losing your husband worth having a baby? Believe it or not many couples take more than two years to conceive. I would recommend taking a break, just enjoy each other and do not worry about getting pregnant for a few months. If you are tense from trying the stress you are causing makes you less likely to conceive. Sex in marriage should be a joy not a job. If it makes you feel better check out some books from the library.

Answer 4

You should speaks to your Dr and see what your options are. What have you tried? Ovulation tests? Tests on your egg production/fertility? Your husbands sperm count/fertility? Do you have insurance? Figuring out if there is a problem may be covered.

If you rule out a problem, than maybe you just need to work on the timing. This is a common cause of not being able to conceive.

In anycase, I am sorry for your trouble. If fertitility is an issue and you cannot afford invitro or other programs, speak to a fertitily specialist. My sister is applying for a program for a new fertitily treatment that if she qualifies, she will receive for practically nothing. Ask your doctor if they are aware of new fertility drugs, if their safe and if there are any options for you and your hub to get involved in an assisted program.

Answer 5

Realize that 15% of women are sterile. Studies in england show that women who use fertility treatments have a huge risk of something being wrong with their baby. There body shuts down and causes infertility if something is wrong with their eggs. If you try to fix the problem, something else could happen. the lord has spoken to me tonight and said you will have many children in your life another way. Its an organization in your area like big brothers and sisters but not exactly. Check into this and dont think about the treatment route. Through this group you will adopt without the paperwork or money problems. It will take some time but you and your husband have strong faith.

Answer 6

I know it can be stressing sometimes when you are trying to get pregnant but here are some things I found very effective when I was trying myself.

- Don't think too much about it...not to be TOO STRESSED out from work or on anything you're doing
- Have SEX every early morning(like 5am or earlier)and make sure to do it everyday
- Have a complete rest, 8 hours sleep
- Eat healthy (Try drinking milk and eat fruits & vegies)
- See your doctor and ask if you can take additional vitamins to help your body

I hope these will help you.

Answer 7

Stop trying. Stop stressing out. Have a 6 month break where you just enjoy each other again and try to not think about having a baby. If you can both relax, there is a good chance you'll get pregnant. Sometimes wanting one too much stops you from getting pregnant. So enjoy each other and remember what it feels like to be happy in your marriage.

Answer 8

I found the most AWSOME tool at my Rite Aid drug store.
Its called an Ovulation Scope and its in a small light purple box next to the the other ovulation predictor kits. its only $30. All you do is rub a little saliva on it and let it dry. Its like a microscope, so when you look into it, you can see your dry saliva. If you are ovulating, it produces a very obvious fern pattern!!! Its completely reusable and you can test as much as you want!!! If your periods are at all irregular or you just want to know your best days when you are ovulating, BUY THIS!!! Its sooo GREAT!! I hope this helps you!!! Good luck!!

Answer 9

If the two of you want to be parents really badly I would consider adoption. Being parents is so much more than genetics. Plus, you never know, with the pressure off nature may take it's course eventually and you could end up with two kids. The more the merrier.

Answer 10

Dont give up! If you cant conceive naturally, have you considered adoption? There are so many babies that need good caring homes, in which they are wanted and loved. I've known alot of couples who have decided to adopt and within two years, the couples conceived naturally. Sometimes stressing out about it can interfere with your ability to conceive. Just know that it will happen and if not now, it will. Just be patient. And don't stress over it. (Though I know its hard not to. ) I wish you the best of luck!