should i get an abortion?

Question

i am 16 years old and i am pregnant. i dont know whether to have the baby or get rid of it. please help!!

Answer 1

You are only 16. Have an abortion and save your future.

Don't listen to the judgemental pro-lifers on here.
"Pro-lifers" (or ANTI-CHOICERS) are ignorant, uneducated, and CONTRADICTORY. They are not really pro-life as they claim to be.

If they were pro-life, they would NOT support a war killing thousands of REAL, INNOCENT children as opposed to an insignificant embryo or fetus. (The majority of pro-lifers are conservative republicans who SUPPORT the war.)

If they were pro-life, they would not support killing animals just to satisfy their taste buds, or to make a fashion statement (furs, animal skins, etc).

If they were pro-life, they would not kill insects.

If they were pro-life, they would not support "pro-lifers" who bomb abortion clinics, kill doctors who perform abortions, harass innocent employees at abortion clinics, nor would they do it themselves.

If they were pro-life, they would not support the dealth penalty.

If they were pro-life, they would adopt many many children since they supposedly "care so much" and want to make sure that all people considering abortions carry the pregnancy to term and give the child up for adoption.

If they were pro-life, they would NEVER make statements like "you should have been aborted".

If they were pro-life, they would be genuinely nice and understanding, and they would NEVER gossip about people, insult people, or hate people. Why are some pro-lifers SO mean? If they really cared about the lives of others, would they be mean, and judgemental? No, they wouldn't! Why aren't they nice to everyone? Since they are mean to people and hate people, that means it wouldn't matter to them if those people died, So why do they care about the lives of certain "people", and not others? That's not fair, and that's contradictory.

MY body, MY life, MY reproductive system, MY fetuses and embryos, MY business, MY choice.

Since when is a piece of flesh more important than a grown woman? Who cares if it has a heartbeat? The fetus or embryo may have a heartbeat, but that is NOT life. It is not a baby until it is viable. It can not survive without the mother's body, and the mother should not be forced to have her body used as an incubator. It's HER body. Forcing a woman to carry a child she does not want is more disgusting than rape. Statistics show that women who had forced pregnancies and gave their children up for adoption suffer more than women who have been raped. Rape is a quick thing. If you were already sexually active before being raped, it will not be so hard to deal with. But having to carry an unwanted child for 9 months and then having to give it up? That's extremely painful physically and emotional. That is over 9 months of physical struggles, and a lifetime of emotional struggles.

Also, the fetus may be "alive", but is it life? No! It's not. It is not yet living a real life. It is just a piece of flesh with a heartbeat. I can think of MANY more things with a heart beat which pro-lifers do NOT care about.

Did you know that illnesses are LIVING ORGANISMS? Yes, AIDS, and CANCER are LIVING. Does that mean that you should live with them, and let yourself die?

Did you know that tumors have PULSES? Yes, tumors have pulses and they are LIVING ORGANISMS. Does that mean you should let the tumor destroy your body?

I have plenty more examples showing how pro-lifers are contradictory, but I won't waste time.

We all know pro-lifers are uneducated, ignorant, and the only purpose of their life is to follow their bullsh*t religion so they can get to "heaven". They haven't got minds of their own, and are gullible enough to believe what the bible has to say.

The arguments pro-lifers make about abortion are wrong, anyway. They ALWAYS mention "God" when debating about abortion. WELL PRO-LIFERS, GUESS WHAT? You're wrong! There is NO proof of "God" therefore the "facts" you provide are FICTION!

Every pro-lifer should get a life, and leave everybody alone. My body is none of their business. My reproductive system is none of their business. My fetuses and embryos are none of their business. Have they nothing better to do than harass people all day? Are they THAT pathetic, and bored?

ALL pro-lifers are contradictory and their arguments are ridiculous. They say the stupidest things like:

"Why kill an innocent baby when you can give it to a family that wants kids but can't have kids?"

-First of all, other families are none of my business. Why should I waste 9 months of my life going through physical and emotional hell just so I can make a random couple happpy?
Second of all, There are already SO many unwanted children in this world. There are so many orphanages and foster homes, and NOBODY cares about the children in them. If there were really "SO many people who want kids but cant have them", then there wouldn't be any unwanted children out there!
Why bring another unwanted children into this already over-populated world?
Also, why don't pro-lifers adopt a few children themselves?
...I just proved that pro-lifers don't know what they are talking about and that they are CONTRADICTORY.


"if you're not ready for a child, you're not ready for sex! if you're not ready to face the consequences, don't spread your legs!"

-That is NOT true. Sex is a natural, beautiful, pleasurable thing which everybody should experience whether they are ready for children or not. Having children is not the only purpose of sex. If sex existed solely for reproducing, then orgasms would not exist! Sex is here for us to enjoy, not only to have children.
Also, there are SO many people who already have a few children, are happily married, but are NOT ready for more children. For example, Would you say that a middle aged woman who has children and is married but is NOT emotionally, physically, and financially ready for another child is not ready for sex? Of course you wouldn't! But of course that woman still has sex despite the fact that she's not ready for more children.
...Once again, I have proved that pro-lifers don't know what they are talking about and that they are contradictory.


"if you saw somebody trying to kill their child in the street of course you would do something about it"

-Yes, i'd do something about it, but that is totally irrelevant. That has NOTHING to do with abortion.
You can NOT compare a real child to a fetus or embryo.
Who cares if you terminate a pregnancy when the fetus or embryo can't feel anything and is NOT aware of anything occuring as opposed to a child that can feel and is aware?
It has been scientifically proven that a fetus can NOT feel anything before 20 weeks. 90% of abortions are terminated long before 20 weeks; long before the fetus can feel anything.
Even if a woman has an abortion after 20 weeks when the fetus can feel, who cares? The emotional and physical pain the mother goes through is much worse than the pain the fetus is going through. The fetus will only "feel pain" for a short while as opposed to a woman who will feel pain and discomfort for over 9 months. Also, the fetus's brain is not developed enough to acknowledge the situation. Why do you think nobody remembers being in their mother's stomach?
...Once again, I have proved pro-lifers wrong.

"what if your baby wouldve found the cure for aids or cancer?!?!"

-There are "what ifs" in EVERY situation no matter how minor or major it is. You can NOT justify something or say something is wrong based on "what ifs".
Here is a question I have for you, pro-lifers: "What if the baby would've been the next hitler?"
...Once again, MY argument WINS.


For the men: You don't have a right to oppose abortion, and you do NOT have the right to speak out against it. You also do NOT have the right to criticise women who have had abortions.
Let me tell you when you will be able to oppose abortion. You will be able to oppose abortion the day your PENIS turns into a VAGINA, the day you GROW A UTERUS, the day you get a MENSTRUAL PERIOD, the day your body CHANGES TO ACCOMODATE AN EMBRYO OR FETUS INSIDE OF IT, and the day YOU GET PREGNANT. That is the day you will be allowed to speak out against abortion. Too bad that will NEVER happen, so keep your ignorant opinions to yourself.

Answer 2

Aww, you must be scared. Whatever you do, calm down - this has happened for some reason and now you have to deal with this. Don't panic, don't harm yourself or the baby. Consider these things:
Can you talk to your mom or family?
Was this your boyrfriend or was it a guy you don't really know?
- can you tell him & what would he want to do if so?
Are you in any kind of position to have a baby?
Are you ready to give up your adolescense to take care of a baby?
Did you have plans in life that this wouldn't work out?

Now - abortion is not your only option and should never be a method of birth control. If you had contacted Planned Parenthood within 72 hours of the sex, you could have gotten Plan B Emergency Contraceptive which would have prevented the pregnancy. (18+ though so you would have needed consent). I am telling you this now so if this happens in the future to you or a friend, just know that if you had unsafe sex (which you never ever should) that you can take these pills to prevent pregnancy within 72 hours of it.

Ok - there is adoption - tons of families are looking for babies that can't have them. I don't know if that is a possibility - that is hard for women though because it grows inside of you and then to give it away is a very hard thing to do. Abortion is a personl topic - and not everyone will agree with your decision and if you do decide to get one, you will need parental consent most likely and you have to make sure that the place is a reputable, well known place - don't just go anywhere to avoid telling someone cause you could die from complications if they don't know what they are doing.

It is important that you talk to someone now. Call Planned Parenthood to talk to them about this - just know that if you choose abortion, you may struggle for the rest of your life with that decision if you are not 100% sure it is the right one. Some regret it and some know it was the best thing to do for them at that time - that they couldn't offer a child a good life. Whatever you choose, that is your right to choose - it is your own personal choice so don't let people get you upset. Often, there are protestors outside of these abortion clinics so be prepared for that as well. They cost over $1000 and you will need someone to drive you there and back and take care of you.

You need someone now - in your life to talk to. This will be one of if not the biggest decisions you will ever make and you don't need to go through this alone. Talk to the guy, talk to someone in your family, talk to Planned Parenthood and think it through - could you live with yourself, could you live with a child, etc - consider these things heavily and seriously. But whatever you do, don't hide the pregnancy and then do something to the baby. Don't do that - there are too many options out there to do that.

Good luck~

Answer 3

I was 16 when I got pregnant. There was only 1 girl in my school who was ever pregnant and EVERYONE made fun of her. I couldn't be humiliated like that, plus I knew I wouldn't marry the guy. I am now a sophomore in college and I look back and know that I wouldn't be where I am now (financially and academically) if I would have kept the bastard.

I would say it depends on what type of school you go to (if you'll be humiliated everyday or be supported) and if you want to be with the guy. Nothing could be worse than having a child grow up without a father, or even without his/her real father.

Plus, fetuses miscarry everyday. And it's not a 'living, breathing human' yet until it is actually born. Do what you feel is right for your future. But please take this as your 'second chance' (if you do end up getting an abortion)... don't use abortions as your form of birth control.

Answer 4

OK.

I am a boy, so please keep that in mind. I'm not necessarily certain that I, or any other boy (including the father) should be making the decision.

First of all, what does your gut tell you, in one word? Remember it.

Next, you might want to decide who your support system is. This is important. Who will you make this decision with?

-Your Parents are usually an excellent choice, and most often it is definitely worth telling them. The only way that I wouldn't tell them is if you think they could be physically abusive with you. This is an impossibility for most parents, of course.

-The boy. The boy probably deserves to know. Does he deserve to help you in the decision? That is up to you. If he means well and cares about you and your future, then he may be very helpful.

-Any very close friends. They must be very close, and not gossipy.

-Any religous figures that may be important to you, or other similar role models.


Okay, so you decide who can have input. The decision is still yours, though. Are you capable of raising a baby well? Most 16-year-olds are not. However, you could be an excellent mother to the child later in life if your parents could help you in the beginning. Is this an option?

What about your future? What are your sacrificing to raise a child and can you afford it?

Regrets? Will you regret your lost youth or your lost baby more? Which would you be more thankful for?

Adoption? 9 months and your baby could go to an excellent home. Is this an option?

Remember your gut feeling.

Answer 5

Have you told your parents about you being pregnant? If that's not the option you can always try your local Planned Parenthood. It's confidential and nurse/doctor's there will be able to assist you. Even if you're low income, they will be able to assist you for free of charge. Everyone has their own opinion about abortion and as for me I'm totally against abortion. I mean, a person is pregnant and abortion is like killing an unborn fetus. Like I said, "This topic can be discussed back and fourth. I highly recommend of visiting your local Planned Parenthood for help. If you decide to have the child, but don't want to keep it, you can either put your child on adoption or you can drop off your child to any Hospitals, Fire Departments and Police Departments. You don't even need to explain yourself. Local authorities will understand and won't ask you questions. Just don't trash your precious child okay? I hear stories on the local news station all the time and breaks my heart that mothers can do such a horrible thing to their child.

Answer 6

First off don't let anyone talk you into something that you don't want to do!! As for abortion!! I personally do not believe in it..
You are young and there are other alternatives besides abortion.
You need to talk to your parents about it after the shock wears off.
Having a baby is a huge responsibility and if you are not ready and don't want to be a Mom then don't because you may just regret your decision and resent the child later.
Just remember it is your decision and you will make the right one.
Good Luck Sweetie!

Answer 7

Don't get an abortion. If you are conflicted enough to even ask this question I would say you would regret it later. If you feel that you can't raise this baby there are much better options. There are so many people that want a baby so badly that can't have one. Giving a baby up for adoption is a loving sacrifice. Congrats on the baby. Every baby is a blessing and should be treated like one.

Answer 8

This is a tough spot for you, but there are alternatives. However, no matter what decision is made, YOU MUST INVOLVE YOUR FAMILY AND THE FATHER. Afterall, you did not create this baby on your own.
I will not pretend to agree with abortion, I don't, unless there are seriously extinuating circumstances, and frankly, unless your health is compromised, or that of the baby, I am going to advise you NOT TO HAVE AN ABORTION. That being said, I do respect your right to choose, but you are not the only one affected here. The father is, the grandparents are, and society as well, for who knows, you may be carrying the next President, or the next Einstein.
In any case there is always adoption. I can quote you statistics after statistics on the rate of teenage mothers achieving no more than a minimum wage jobs, and the future of the children born of such mothers who for whatever reason decide to keep the child. That in and of itself is yet another horror story. All you have to do is find a Section 8 housing project and you can see for yourself.
I will spare you and I both of that, but having a child a 16-17 yrs old is insane. Obviously you have put the cart before the horse on birth control, but the decision you face is going to be the hardest you will ever make, handsdown. Are you ready to give up your dreams of a career, traveling, of a LIFE that you fantized about? Are you ready to endure the hardship of raising a child when just 5 short years ago, you still were probably playing with dolls? Are you ready to forego you senior prom, your possible college experience? Are you ready to stay home, taking care of a baby while all your teenage friends are going places and doing things you wish you were doing. But, instead, you are at home, changing diapers, getting little sleep, and having to find ways of making enough money to buy the baby's things instead of the shoes, clothes, or cd you wanted? Or do you think welfare will be enough? Don't kid yourself on that one. Are you really ready to give all that up? Think very carefully before you answer these questions for it will be the next 18 yrs of your life AND THE BABYS'.
On the other hand, there are wonderful families out there who would love to have a child but can't. Did you know that you can now actually pick the family to give your baby to? There are many places you can go, for free to you, that will allow you to screen parents for your child. Parent's who will provide all the opportunities that you will find very hard pressed to accomplish on your own at your age. You will also find peace in your heart knowing that you gave life, and you saved your own in the process and there is NO SHAME in that.
I have no idea what your beliefs are on abortion, but I do know that 90% of young girls in your situation HAVE repeat aborions and they end up regreting it more than you can imagine. You may disagree with that at this point, but I assure you it's true, just ask the women who are now older who have now gotten married and want a child only to find that the abortion messed them up physically and conceiving and carrying a child is difficult as a result. If you want proof, just go into any planned parenthood and talk to them, they will tell you and SHOW you the truth to what I am telling you.
I could also tell you how having sex a your age is what parents pray doesn't happen, for you now know why. Dosent it make a least a little sense to you now, that parents know and understand more about life than a teenager and that just maybe, listening and trusting their judgement might not be such a bad idea?
Think about this, you could be called, "mommy" in about a yr or so, my God, doesn't that scare the hell out of you?
Get help, talk to your family, a counselor, an abortion clinic, and an adoption agency. Get the facts, but do it quick, you don't have very much time to make the decsion of your life.
I am so sorry that this has happened to you, but it is now time to put everything you ever though you knew, and everything you ever wanted aside. You have a human life inside you, and you MUST THINK DIFFERENTLY NOW. Your life will never be the same, no matter what you choose, but then neither will the childs.
God Bless you honey, in whatever choice you make.

Answer 9

If u weren't raped or have a serious medical condition that will harm u or the baby then no u shouldnt get rid of the baby. U were woman enough to lay down then step up to the plate and take care or your responsibilty. God doesn't make mistakes and this baby wasnt a mistake so handle your business like a woman ( cause that's what u are now) and take care of your child.

Answer 10

Abortion is murder. Baby is well alive on the inside of the womb as well on the outside. Anytime a woman has sex, there is always a chance of pregnancy. Life is a serious matter. This baby will either live at your hands or die.

You should find a trustworthy adult who will help and support you throughout this pregnancy (i.e. a pastor, teacher, aunt, mother, father, etc.) . Adoption may be an option. There are plenty of men and women out there who are infertile and can't conceive. Bless them with the child.

Getting pregnant shouldn't be taken lightly. You need to see an ob asap.

Answer 11

KEEP IT! I was 16 when i found out i was pregnant. i am now 17 and still pregnant with the same baby. It isnt as bad as you think. take responsiblities. Dont kill a baby just because you didnt use protection. It will all be worth it when the baby is kicking your belly, and you hear the babys heart beat. Dont throw it away. You will regret it.