it desnt matter how many times that i think about it i still cant make my mind up. i want to get in contact with my old flame but dont know how to tell him that i wanted to be friends. i want to say soory for everything that hashappened but dont know how to. i would really like to catch up and see what he is doing. what should i say? should i send him a text message and see what happens from then or should i go and see him at his parents house? what would you do and why? should some one be friends with an old flame or should they just leave it alone? he wanted to be friends with me a few years ago but i just didnt want anything to do with him then becuse i needed to sort my self out. i had so many things on my mind. what should i do? my sister says that he wants to be friends and see what happens from there. what should i do? i have had this on my mind for a while. please help.
2006-08-20 17:52:09 · 9 answers · asked by been there done that 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he is still in the area and i see him every now and again. i can see in his eyes that he still wants to be with me. i may still have feelings for him but i am not stupid to cheat on my bf. should i walk up to him when i see him again or should i go and see his mum at work and give her my number for hm. what is the best way to stay in touch with him?
2006-08-20 18:07:57 · update #1
First, stop chickening around - it would only scare people out (and him, too).
Try to take it easier - there is always a sense in what happens to us; regardless, whether you get him or not. Look at this as just another chance, not a decision of all your life.
As for the contacts - the texts are so easy to discard and often misleading. A personal contact is preferred at all times, because then you can always fix the mess right away and then peretend that nothing happened. Whereas after texting you'd spend another sleepless night, guessing whether he got it or
he lost his mobile,
or the phone company didn't foot the utlitity bills and was disconnected
or he deleted it
or he doesn't know what to do;
or the phone was stolen;
or there is another natural disaster in the area...
or...
Okay, you've got the point.
Wish u good luck! :)
2006-08-20 18:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. I say give it a shot. The worst he can do is say no. And then you are back were you started. Life goes on no matter what happens. Contact him a way you know he will answer. If he only checks his e-mail once every three years that is not the best way to contact him. Go for it. You only live once after all.
2006-08-21 01:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Charis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are cheating on your bf if you contact this past boyfriend while still dating your present bf.
1. Break up with your bf
2. Wait one month
3. Contact the old bf
4. Wait to see what happens
2006-08-21 01:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you describe,its seems like that he still have feelings for you,he may just like you,just wanting to be friend.You are not cheating on your bf because you just be friend with him,step up to him face to face to avoid any misunderstanding.If you sms him,and your bf saw it and that time,you and ex still aren't friend,imagine the chaos...........Be natural,if you could be in love with him,having him as friend would be beautiful,isn't it??As in friendship,not an affair
2006-08-21 01:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know his address, write a letter. Don't use SMS. It is impersonal and harsh. Draft your letter carefully and make sure it says exactly what you want to tell him. Then wait for an answer. If he doesn't answer you, then accept that he has found someone else and he doesn't want to resume his relationship with you.
2006-08-21 01:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sending him sms is a good start and see, if he replied then the next step is to catch up things and chat. This is then the start of friendship. Try it!
2006-08-21 01:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by Heaven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it - if there's a chance- why not try. The worst thing is perhaps looking back in time and saying "what if"... Life's about taking chances. Best of luck to you. :)
2006-08-21 01:07:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its good that you are making and effort to be friends with him, but if you havent communicated in a while with him, he will get the impression that you want to get back with him. thats how guys are, he wont think that you just want to be friends. him saying that he wants to be friends and see what happens from there, he is sayin he wants to be friends and get back together. its up to you though
2006-08-21 01:06:05 · answer #8 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make sure you have communication between you two.
2006-08-21 01:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋