Do you think couples with children are more likely to get divorced?

Question

Besides the couples who only stay together for the kids...do you think kids deteriorate a couple's relationship over time?

Answer 1

I think it depends on the couple. Having our child brought us close in a whole new way. She brings us so much joy, gives us something to do, something to look forward to, something to work and want to improve ourselves for. Before, our lives were meaningless and selfserving, but now we are very fulfilled. I think the key is marrying someone you truly believe would be a good parent. Imagine that person being your parent, would you have liked that? If not, then you dont want them to be the parents of your kids. My husband and I are really good about not fighting about silly things too. Before we even got married, or had our daughter, we knew we wanted the same things in the future, and share similar values. Not much to fight about, actually a lot more to smile about. I think kids have little to do with divorce rates, What should be examined is the quality of the relationship before marriage, and the reasons for getting married. If a relationship sucks before marriage, it certainly isnt going to get any better. It also takes commitment and understanding that a spouse is not someone meant to please you all the time. Rather just someone you choose to have as a witness to your life, the good, the bad, and the mundane. Anyone who lets kids ruin their marriage, shouldnt have gotten married or had kids in the first place, because they obviously werent mature enough. Actually, one of the major divorce factors is living together before marriage. Studies consistenly show a 85-100% increase in the chances for divorce in couples who co-habitate premaritally. To keep a marriage healthy, especially with the challenges of children, it takes a lot of work and love, not to be taken lightly, but to be seen with a sense of humor and maturity

Answer 2

No... kids can't deteriorate a couple unless the parents are taking sides and choosing favorites, etc.... so unless the parents are playing a part in the deterioration with the kids, the kids probably are just innocent bystanders who feel the guilt backlash a lot.

Answer 3

I think having a child before a couple is ready and has spent a couple years just as a husband and wife can really strain a relationship. I've seen the more succesful couples have children after they had been married for several years.

Answer 4

That became an really tremendous article that I study through, and all the way down to some lame remark through LBE. Adoptive households welcoming in an adoptive new child to the kin are a lot less in all probability to divorce than a kin who has experienced an undesirable or unplanned being pregnant and positioned the youngster for adoption. This is going for common regulation and casual relationships that breaks up after an unplanned being pregnant besides.

Answer 5

kids don't make break up the relationship. but if your relationship was weak and then children are brought into the picture, it can create a stressful situation. some think kids will help to mend a weak relationship but it does the opposite.

Answer 6

Not if there is enough love, and hopefully there would be if there are children. i think you might have to just make sure you take time out for just the two of you or yes it could happen where the children make them lose that relationship.

Answer 7

I think kids usually make the relationship better

Answer 8

No ways ... children are the major detterent for Divorce...

Couples tend to adjust cos of kids...

Answer 9

No! Depends on the circumstances of adaptability and mutual trust and love between the both, where children play no role.

Answer 10

No, just make damn sure you have a secure relationship before you have a kid. Most people have kids together before they really know eachother or know themselves.