my husband was dancing with my freind last night at the bar and i was there and said it was ok but he liked it to much like i wasnt even there and he was getting down on it i think thats wrong
2006-08-20 17:41:27 · 26 answers · asked by pudding_pops2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So why did you tell him it was okay? Talk to him and explain that what he did was unacceptable.
2006-08-20 17:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would probably upset me too. Normally I'd say you had a right to yell at the hubby, but honey, you gave him the "go-ahead". If it was getting too close or they were getting too chummy on the dance floor, that was your clue to go and cut in or drag him off the dance floor by his ear, while you kicked her in the knee. (Sorry, as your friend, she should have known better) But if you didn't, you missed your turn to make it right. Chances are alcohol was involved too, which tends to intensify any situation. In hind site, nothing happened and I hope you learned something very valuable from this. Talk to your hubby, say your peace, tell him how it made you feel and let it go sweety. You sound like a newly married couple and I don't think this is how you want to start off your marriage. I'm sure your husband is a very loving and considerate person (have to be...he asked permission first), he'll do what he can to make it right with you.
2006-08-20 17:52:52 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are looking too far into the subject. Did he go home with you? Why didnt you go dance with someone else?
men have a different outlook than women.
i have been in your husbands shoes before. i am willing to bet if you bring it up to him he will give you the deer in the headlights look. because he just saw it as a dance and you told him it was OK.
now remember if he stops making love to you, or he tries to pull away, or he starts acting real odd then it is time to start getting worried.
my wife flipped out on me for that same exact subject. i was very angry with her.
I am sure he still loves you very much but you could put a wedge between yourselves if you continually get jealous. he will begin to feel trapped and will soon begin to try to get free.
how do i know? it ended my mariage.
so please do a favor for the both you. unless it is something that is blatently wrong... just let it go. but be sure he gives you room to breathe too. remember marriage is a 2 way street. there is no double standard.
2006-08-22 19:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by mig_killing_pigs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have something very wrong with your question, First off, I wouldn't let my Husband dance with any of my friends (Not that he would, he don't love and care about anybody but me), When us women throw our men to other women and let them interact in a very animalistic sort of way (dancing), we make it easy for them to screw up. Second of all, I wouldn't ever, ever take my eyes off them. I wouldn't even have gotten to my second point, because I would have been there squashing any "oh, hunny can I dance" crap right then and there. My friend would have one painful face if she tried to pursue it. You both were drinking, things got out of hand, you aren't totally to blame, but you could have noticed that there were bells and sirens and clicks and everything possible with that senairo. I wouldn't let it happen again. If my husband was to do that, I would see red so fast that he wouldn't know what to do, and neither would my friend, I would make it a personal point to not go to a bar and drink heavily ever, ever again.
2006-08-20 17:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by Lyndsey H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would totally be jealous and never trust the friend or him again. Because if he was willing to grind away with her in your eye sight who knows what could happen if ever you guys had a fight. He might just run over to the friend's house and have sex with her or something. I also hold grudges like nobody's business, so I wouldn't allow either of them to be put in that situation so I would hate them both. If he wants to dance it will be with me and if the friend wants to dance find her own bf or another single guy.
2006-08-20 17:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't make a big deal out of it as that will only aggrivate the situation.Do you trust your friend ? You might try turning the tables on your spouse by dancing with one of his friends let him see what it;s like.
2006-08-20 17:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is all part of socialising.
If you cannot accept that, then you shouldn't be partying away at the bar with him.
Why wasn't you on the dance floor with him.........probably you are too square to turn him on or you are plain anti-social?
2006-08-20 17:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and that is what you should say to your husband. It is different if all parties didn't have a problem with it. But you need to let him know how you felt. Be honest with him but don't yell just have a talk with him.
2006-08-20 17:48:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't like it you should have said something. It's hard not to be jealous, but on the plus side you can "dirty dance" with some guy if you want and he can't say ****.
2006-08-20 17:47:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how drunk was he? Does he always act like this? Let him know how u feel about this and if it happens again get out of dodge... life is too short to waste it on men that dont give a S*i* about ur feelings
2006-08-20 17:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by GRISSIOM PURE GENIUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep its wrong. Friends will stab you in the back in a heart beat over two things,, money and your husband. ALWAYS keep both closely guarded.
2006-08-20 17:47:58 · answer #11 · answered by Bree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋