ok, i've been with my bf for 6 months, and for about 3 months he hasn't said "i love you." he did for a while and then i told him i had trouble trusting him, as i do with everyone, and he got upset and after an argument decided that it was too soon to say i love you so he stopped. he now says he doesn't know how he feels but that he cares about me and wants to be w/ me. he keeps coming up w/ things for us to do together, he's affectionate, he takes care of me, he's forgiving and generous, he worries about my safety (and i know b/c i crashed a mini-bike and he got all worried about me), he's totally sweet and all, but it bothers me that he doesn't say i love you. i've asked him if he does and just doesn't want to say it but he says he doesn't know how he feels. i'm getting tired of waiting for him to figure it out and i wonder if he just does and doesn't want to say anything b/c it's too soon. any thoughts?
2006-08-20 17:33:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
i think he really cares for you. it doesn't matter if he doesn't say those words. some guys rarely say those cuz they're more shy or conservative. my dad's like this to my mom. you can already tell from the things he does for you that he loves you!
it's the guys who say i love you every 3.5 seconds that are cads(usually). don't trust guys who say those too often cuz they've had practice and are likely to be players.
2006-08-20 17:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by mondo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've only been together for 6 months, the two of you are still learning each other. Probably when you said you didn't trust him he took the cue to ease back on the gas pedal a bit. The trust issue is a must for any long term issue and maybe he knows this. Either way if he makes you happy you should stay with him until he doesn't make you. Take some advice I should have listened to years ago don't let the relationship move forward if you can't trust each other.
2006-08-21 11:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by JJ 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He really do care about you, that is why I think when I read your question. I think he loves you, but he still unsure about your feeling to him, so he decided to do not say anything in first place. I suggest you to take the action first. You can ask him again, does he love you or not.
Human's feeling is deeper than ocean, and hard to predict. If I being you, I would be happy with all his affections to me, although he does not say any love words. Because for me, action is more important than words. Well, you may think differently. But I can understand that you need to be sure about his feeling to you.
After all, all I can suggest to you is, give him more time. Maybe he wants this relationship with you to last longer, maybe until you two become grandparents with happy family. Or you can ask his friends. But usually boys do not show their problems to their friends. But you can ask his friends about what he says about you to them.
I hope your problem will vanish soon, and you two will be happy couple ever after.
2006-08-21 00:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by chiisana_sora 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not that he doesn't know how it feels, he does quite frankly but probably after the earlier thing, he is not sure how to express his love to you, with all your insecurities in mind... Being in love isn't just about saying I love you and from your short description, he's expressing his love for you in many other ways, which are better than just words... Throw out your insecurity and make this relationship work and make him feel loved... not just by saying it....
2006-08-21 00:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by Eddie Raj 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look for the tell-tale signs. suggest a kiss, and if he looks hesitant, chances are he's cheating. =( Good luck!
2006-08-21 00:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by Caitlin P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your narrations, he loves you. But, what else you visualize as love. A simple verbose 'I love you' is not love, you better understand. Acts and deeds reflecting love is also love.
2006-08-21 00:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by mkm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he loves you he could just be nervous to say I LOVE YOU!! though just tell him u love him then it will be all good
2006-08-21 10:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by Alex 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why pressure him? do YOU love him? why can't you just enjoy each other's company until you both know one way or another?
2006-08-21 00:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by warriorn639mr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
definitely
2006-08-21 05:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by vicz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi come here honey,, I love you !!!!!! let me hold you .... ok
good luck
2006-08-21 00:41:58 · answer #10 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋