she was living in california and drawing welfare with 3 kids then moved to oklahoma when the tids were to old for her to get any more welfare. so she worked at walmart to pay for her gambleing habit then she quit and started going to school again and with the grant money she went to the casino there went 2,000 down the drain she barly had the money left to buy her books then she had to buy used books then she got kicked out of her apt. but not before all the utilitys got turned off so now shes living with her friend in a dumpster somwhere with nothing to eat and no bath.(they always think they can pay there bills with there winnings ) dont they??
2006-08-20 17:16:10 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Personal Finance
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2006-08-20 17:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure if you want to force her deeper into her addiction, possibly never to return, give her the money. Gambling has the highest rate of suicide of all the addictions. And make no mistake, it is an addiction. They cannot stop unless they are forced to stop or the consequences become so great that they surrender. Gambling is a process addiction and as with all addictions it requires treatment. She needs help and your money will do the opposite. Be warned though, it is very hard to watch someone go through addiction. You will be torn between helping her, being angry at her and just giving up on her. Gamblers Anonymous has a wonderful support system for people that are friends and family of gamblers. Good luck. If you need any assistance do a blind/blind message through the server and contact me. Peace.
2006-08-20 18:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not listen to these meanies, if you are in a position to help someone that you care about that is doing bad you do it and if they mess it up that's on them but don't turn your back on people in need!
As for this person you are concerned about, first of all direct her to gamblers anon or something, the number is on the lotto tickets, and have a serious talk to her about her problem and what she's prepared to do about it. Then decide how much you are willing and able to contribute to helping her. Then whatever you do, do NOT put any cash in her hands, buy some groceries if she really has nothing to eat and pay whatever it is directly for her with the money you would have otherwise given her.
By the way, what the hell is wrong with buying used books?
2006-08-20 18:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No money in this particular situation.
Ask if you can give her a ride to a shelter.
(If she's willing to live in a dumpster and not take showers there's more going on with her than a gambling problem. She needs a shelter, preferably one that would direct her to whatever help she may need.)
2006-08-20 17:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like this girl gambled a lot...if u give her money i think u know what she'll do with it....why dont u just teach her how to get a fish instead of giving her the fish...what dya think? I suggest that let her learn the hard way.
2006-08-20 17:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by pa1773la 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds like me except not that out of control i always make sure i get the rent out of the way and then use the bill money thinking that i will double my money lol its so stupid. if you give her money she is just going to go to the casino but maybe this time she will finally hit the jackpot!!
2006-08-20 17:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should give her money until she gets over her gambling problem. You could give a small amount and make sure she manages it properly but to give her a lot doesn't really make sense.
2006-08-20 17:23:00 · answer #7 · answered by Lolaaaa! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... No... and possibly no... What do you think she's going to do with the money you give her. People only change when they want. And how is you giving her money going to make her want to change? It's sink or swim time. Give her a bath, buy her a meal, unfold the couch, but don't give her money.
2006-08-20 17:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by koob2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In 99% of all cases where the question is "Should I give her money?" the answer is a resounding NO.
Instances where "Should I give her money" is answered with a yes include situations involving Judicial rulings, child support, tipping in restaurants, and situations where "services" are "rendered."
Unless this woman is the mother of your children, the answer is NO.
2006-08-20 17:39:17 · answer #9 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's a friend / relative, I empathize. Help her get back on her feet, without giving her the money. Find a shelter & gamblers anonymous for her. Prayers help.
2006-08-20 17:37:47 · answer #10 · answered by r0bErT4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To really help, you need to help this person get themselves straightened out. Giving her more $ will not do that. You have to help in a way that pushes her toward running her own life in a positive, sustainable way.
2006-08-20 17:24:07 · answer #11 · answered by West Coaster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋