dose anybody feel the way i do?

Question

i feel liks the older i have gotten the more realistiic i get about love and the less optimistic i get baout it i ues to say things like we will be together for along time and now i say well ill see where it goes. is it only me that feels with age the more realistic you get about your love life
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Answer 1

I'm sure lots of people feel the way you do. I know I do.

As you get older you incorporate your experience into your decision making process. You aren't just saying what feels 'best' anymore (Hey, if it's based on NO experience it's just feelings), you're considering a situation based on what you've encountered and learned to expect. If you've had multiple relationships it's only natural to be cautious, it's not like the others were permanent after all?

I know that didn't actually help, but I was bored, so there's that anyway.

Answer 2

You are obviously paying attention! Yes, the older you get the clearer picture you have of people and situations. You start to realize that it takes a lot more than a wish that things were a certain way. You start to get a clearer picture of what you want in life and your life begins to take shape. This is very normal and though it's not easy, a realistic picture of life will keep you from making a lot of dumb mistakes. Good luck in your search.

Answer 3

It is not only age, it is reality. You have probably been hurt and are naturally more cautious. Plus, you might not want to lead anyone on, you seem like you don't know where you are at in your life and don't want to make big promises. I used to be all giddy and stuff when I met someone new, and when I met my BF it was like, oh, hmm, okay, he's nice, we'll see where it goes. I was not ready and it took a lot of time and getting to know each other before I knew we were right for each other. Plus, being hurt in the past I wasn't willing to open up and trust right away.

Answer 4

I think more realistic. I used to have that dream.... we will be together forever... that house with the white picket fence.... well, I got divorced in 1990 and have been a single parent since... I have been engaged 2 times since 1990.... but never remarried... guess I was just too able to see what I was going to get myself into and stopped myself before I made another mistake. I think as people get older, if they have been disillusioned by love, they can look at it with their eyes open....

Answer 5

Well yes, you do get more realistic as you mature. I now look back and think "was I really in love with that Dude?" But otherwise I'm still optimistic and a "romantic" at heart. Also pessimistic thinking can set you up for failure.

Answer 6

I think if everyone over the age of 30 was honest, they would say the same thing you just said... I think your love changes as you get older... When you are young you have not experienced all the things that comes with love... When you get older you see things differently because you have experienced life. Believe me... you are not alone in your thinking... you are just an honest person.

Answer 7

Certainly
As we grow we our responsiblities too grow with us. This makes us come out of our imaginations and think about the consequences of or acts on our daily life.

Be it love or any important decisions

When we are young we are bound to make mistakes also we have the time to correct it but as we grow older our experience makes our decision making more on the right path

I am with you
best of all the luck

Answer 8

A persons feelings change with experience and time, it happens to most people, but never lose hope.

Answer 9

Yes, it is part of being a "mature grown-up"

Answer 10

BOTH AND THEN THERES THE TAINTED OR JADED LOVE THAT WILL PUT YOU ON AN IDEALISTIC TRACK