How do i feel comfortable with myself again?

Question

A few months ago, i went to a club with some friends and ended up making out with this guy i had just met, and in a moment of stupidity, i let him feel me up. I've never seen or talked to this guy since then. The problem is that since then, the incident has haunted me and i have felt very self-conscious about my breasts. They're not exactly small (but they're not huge either - a large B/small C), but even when I don't wear low-cut shirts, I still feel very self-conscious. Am I ever going to feel good about my breasts? This is a real, honest problem - so please, no perverted answers.

Answer 1

Is there a part of the female body that has not yet been fetishized? I'm a guy and I gotta tell you, I feel sorry for you ladies sometimes. All those dumb magazines and ads and damn-well near everything else giving you a complex about your looks from the minute the doctor says "it's a girl!" Talk about a mind-fuzuck.

In such an environment, just feeling OK about your body is an act of radical rebellion. Not having any body complexes is like throwing a molotov cocktail into a Madison Ave. window. Man, fuzuck all this stupid junk that society and media shove down your throats. Just... just ignore your chest. Treat it as special as you would any other reasonably non-sexualized body part like your knees or your elbows.

Nobody ever thinks about because we take all this *programming* from society and the media for granted, but these messages shunt the human experience down a very thin tube of allowed experiences. Forget fitting in. Fitting in is a lie. It's a lie because you're still responsible for the choices you make - irrespective of if you believe you have a choice or not.

As for the getting drunk and making out - don't let it bug you so much. If you ever do something embarassing, just remember that you used to poop and piss your diaper on a daily basis, so this can't be much worse. It's a learning experience. So yeah, just keep in mind that alcohol is a dis-inhibitor, it kinda makes you more likely to do crazy stuff like dance on tables, etc. It's all good, you survived just fine and you got a free lesson out of the whole thing.

Feeling self-conscious happens to everyone. Just try to be confident, concentrate on having fun (safely).

Answer 2

How old are you? I think you are being too hard on yourself. During the process of growing up most of us did things we regret, or things we wish we hadn't done. Chalk it up to experience and move on.

I am a large C or small D and I much rather be my size than to have next to nothing. Think of all the boob jobs going around and be glad that Nature endowed you with good breasts. Besides, after having children and breastfeeding them breast tend to shrink a bit, so be glad that you started out with enough to spare.

Be kind to yourself sweetie and that includes accepting and being proud of your body.

Answer 3

Very few people feel that way I guess. Maybe because you have alot of self respect. I think your shouldnt let small things affect the way you feel. It may seem like a big issue but I guess its experience that makes us all stronger.Keep your head up. Don't let people take that away from you.
Hope it helped

Answer 4

you will, but you have to work at it. look at it this way, if they were any different size, it wouldn't suit your body type. look at yourself in the mirror and think what you are most proud about your body and take pride in it.

Answer 5

I don't see what the guy thing has to do with yourself consciousness with your breast.

Answer 6

Don't worry, your breasts are good. Enjoy them!

Answer 7

It isnt your boobs that are the problem, its your conscience. Its in the past, forgive yourself and move on.