How would you react if you had a guy friend that all of a sudden decided to not speak to you anymore? How would you react if he never returned your phone calls?
2006-08-20 17:03:26 · 16 answers · asked by ladetina 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Take the hint! He obviuosly doesn't want to have anything to do with you.
2006-08-20 17:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone like that. Once he has assured himself you're his friend, he stops making an effort to keep up the friendship. He may even ignore you in front of others, and he like in your question he hardly ever returns phonecalls unless it's business.
Now this guy is just like that with everyone, both his male friends and girlfriends. The latter usually do not stay around for very long. So you either accept it, or stop seeing this guy. He is aware that this is a heavy burden on the friends that decide to stick with him, but he says he can't change it. Most of his friends consider him socially impaired.
Would counselling be a solution? Not where he lives, we're not talking about the USA or Europe, and there is no counselling whatsoever. But even if counselling were an option: would he be interested? Probably not.
So he's a kind of difficult package deal, with some good sides and some bad ones. I respect him very much and I've learnt to deal with the downsides. I know that leaving a message on the answering machine does not lead anywhere, I know that he may let me down unexpectedly. But I still appreciate his good sense of humour, his sharp views on many things, his generosity etc. He's very precious to me, but I wouldn't want to be his girlfriend or wife.
If he sounds a bit like your friend, maybe this makes sense?
2006-08-20 22:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by julia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a situation like this. A friend of mine who was a guy, and he was truly my best friend. However, he had more feelings for me. So when I got married he took it to heart and stopped talking to me out of the blue. At first it didn't really bother me so much, then the hurt set in because I thought he was a better friend than that regardless of the situation. After I found that he didn't want to talk to me I left him a couple of angry messages. Then I just let some time go by and I contacted him through email. I took a totally different approach like "If I never talk to you again I hope things are going well for you". He finally responded, and we do talk now-just not like before; but we have forgiven each other and that is the important part.
2006-08-24 14:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by cardiochick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would want to know why...maybe its something he heard and he didnt bother tryin to find out if its true(from me) or he's just confused about something and he needs time alone to figure it out...i dont know too little details, what was the cause?
sometimes, arrogance seperate sus from loved ones, dont let that happen to you...maybe you shld give him some tym like ...1 week and then inquire from him what the problem is, why he's stopped pickin his calls( u go and see him, if he's in the same place) and etc...but if he's not, well thats gonna be harder but you can send emails and all that...the wonders of technology!
2006-08-20 17:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by Ziyah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone really loves you, they don't drop you like that. I would just let him go. Never settle for anyone unless they really love you. Love is the only thing that will keep you together for life.
2006-08-20 17:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by Ven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might be a bit hurt, but I would move on. It wouldn't do me any good to obsess about him not calling or speaking to me.
2006-08-20 17:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say well forget u too and move on. if he's not man enough to give a reason for not wanting to be around u anymore, he's much of a man b/c he has no balls.
2006-08-20 17:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing u can do is let him walk....if he's angry at u for some reason, this isn't a mature way to handle it....so i'd say let him finish his moodiness elsewhere...then he'll know where to find u when he's done.
Good luck
2006-08-20 17:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by xqueenyx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would want to know what exactly happened. What is the deal, you know??
Did I do something to offend you?
Now, once all of that is over. . . . . . I'd be about my bizness!!
I don't know. . . . . maybe his pants are too tight!!
Move on and forget about it, already!!
2006-08-20 17:28:42 · answer #9 · answered by geminisista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be like fine screw you asshole and get on with my life. i would make an attempt to contact him in about a year to see how he's doing
2006-08-20 17:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋