2006-08-20 16:58:34 · 19 answers · asked by â?«â?¥â??Born in the Wild lifeâ??â?«â?¥ 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
When someone lashes out at another in a way to try to make them feel inferior then in most cases that person has very low self esteem. It may even be so bad that they are doing it as a way of survival. Could be work related or it just could be a latent condition that has been baggage for a long time. The parent could have said things like, "you'll never amount to anything." Or in conversation they may say something to the effect that Johnny is just one of those kids, ya know. I sometimes wonder if he is at home at all.
These types of statements to a young child or even a teen can pop up later in relationships when they start to believe the things their parents said.
You can however keep a peaceful attitude and simply say that you prefer that he does not talk to you like that, it is uncomfortable, or something to the effect. Eventually you will get him trained and perhaps end up with a better relationship then many that never discuss things. Just don't start believing the things he is calling you unless they line up with what God calls you.
2006-08-20 17:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by happylife22842 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There seems to be a lack of communication between you as husband and wife. Notice you are not asking him but asking others?
Both of you are in the same boat as many couples who stop communicating their true feelings once they are married. As soon as a couple gets married many new factors arise in their relationships. Examples of these are:
1. Lowering of each others guards that were put up before marriage and living together.
2. Each party begins to see the weaknesses of the other party and without honest communication, may start to retaliate or become intolerant.
3. Children who enter into the marriage will affect the relationship. Either one may pay more attention to the children at the expense of their attention to the spouse. There will be differences in the way either party deals with the children. If not discussed, these differences can cause untold unhappiness between the couple.
4. In-laws could be another factor in the marriage.
The list can go on depending on the couples involved. As there'nt any specifics, you can try all sorts of solutions but they will just be experiments. You have to therefore get to the root cause of the behaviour of your husband, by discussing with him sincerely.
2006-08-21 00:23:53 · answer #2 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently because you let him get away with it and don't confront him with the behavior from him you will accept. (This goes for both spouses, whichever spouse is negative).
2006-08-21 00:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him,not us. It's that simple. He may not realize it. Is he under stress and taking it out on you? Is it serious put downs? If so, that's emotional abuse and tell him you will not tolerate it. good luck, dear.
2006-08-21 00:05:13 · answer #4 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to be a little more specific. If he loves you he wouldn't talk to you in any way that would hurt you. Have you told him how you feel???
2006-08-21 00:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by leylu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me dont know but is it cuz u talk like tarzan?
2006-08-21 00:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by Heat seeking missile 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you allow it.
2006-08-21 02:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by Temple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, marry me instead.
2006-08-21 00:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by Just_curious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE WAY PEOPLE TREAT OTHERS IS A REFLECTION OF HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT THEMSELVES....
2006-08-21 00:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i find it best if one keeps their husband outdoors.
they can be such a nuisance.
2006-08-21 00:04:48 · answer #10 · answered by ricky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋