why do people always give people presents based on what they got for them for their birthday?
ex. If Marie got Jessica a $15 dollar certificate to Starbucks for her birthday, and when it's Marie's birthday, Jessica gives her $15 worth of accessories or something.
(bad example i know :D)
you guys get what i'm saying right? why do people always give people presents based on what they got for them for their birthday last year?
i don't know about ALWAYS...but it seems like it with my friends...:/
2006-08-20 16:51:24 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The giving of gifts shouldn't be about how much it cost or any feelings of obligation just because the other person gave you a present. It should be about the thought put into it that counts. Eg. A handmade card with your own verse inside which didn't cost anything is more thoughtful than something that cost $15 which you didn't even want in the first place. It'd be interesting to see what your friends would give you in return if you gave them something handmade...
But anyway I think that when people do what you said your friends do, they are giving gifts as an act of duty (obligation) rather than because they want to give you a nice surprise or because they saw something they knew you'd just love. That doesn't mean they don't care about you though. Some people are just hard to buy presents for.
This goes hand in hand with what Lcmcpa said about people spending the same amount of money as you spent on them. Also, if you're in a large group of friends and everyone gets a present for everyone else, everyone thinks about how much money so many presents are going to cost them.
2006-08-20 17:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sindri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't answer that based on what you've said. That just doesn't happen with me and my friends.
For example, for years, I gave my friend and her son at least $150 worth of Christmas presents each year because I was making the money and could. I wanted to bless them because I love them and could do it. Meanwhile, their best to me and my children was maybe $30. But, it wasn't about how much we spent. It was trying to get each other what we knew the other person wanted the most, or would make them the happiest, or meet their needs.
Then, circumstances changed. She got remarried and I got divorced. And, not that we discussed anything, but her finances improved while mine diminished. As a result, she started giving probably $300-$400 or more in gifts to us, while it got to where I was able to give them less than $20 combined.
Nobody ever said a word. It wasn't about the money. It was knowing that each of us has ALWAYS done our utmost to bless the other as much as we could to show our love for each other and each other's families.
Take the greed out of the picture (and I don't necessarily mean "you") where you stop watching the price tag and you enjoy each other's expressions of love so much more.
It doesn't matter if everyone never tops a $20 gift. It's the thought that counts. And that's NOT a cliche'.
2006-08-20 17:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by Proverbs31Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people are just trying to be fair. They don't want to give you a $100 gift if you gave them a $15 gift, because that would make most people uncomfortable. They don't want to spend $1.50 on you even if that is all they can afford, if they know you spent $15 on them.
Lighten up and enjoy your friends and gift giving and receiving.
2006-08-20 17:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋