Fear of rejection?

Question

I have a fear of rejection, how do I overcome this?

Answer 1

same issue bur gotta get through

Answer 2

It sounds weird, but keep getting rejected and don't give a crap about it. I'm serious! I used to suffer from bad depression (still do, but not as bad) and after a while, rejection was nothing. It's just like getting over any fear you had as a child, like...ordering a pizza for the first time. It may seem scary at first, but after a while, you'll get used to it. Good luck.

Answer 3

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I could never understand how some men have no fear of fighting, parachuting, bungee jumping, mountain climbing, and even going to war in times of need. Yet when it comes to approaching women, their jaws lock and their knees start to wobble.
What is it about a woman that makes some of the strongest and courageous men freeze in their tracks? Is there some kind of chill in the air? Do women have some kind of secret weapon that makes us tongue-tied in their presence? Of course not, men are just too proud to risk rejection.


the big fear

The number one reason most men panic when they approach women is their fear of refusal. This is a very natural preoccupation, as it is human nature to fear the unknown, or at the very least, the inexperience of making first contact with women.
So why is it that today's men don't practice as much as their forefathers? Probably because there is a lot more pressure for a man to succeed, as well as repercussions if he doesn't.

Over the past three decades, women have become more independent, liberated and are no longer afraid of making demands. And if these demands are not met, most women won't hesitate to move on to the next best thing (whatever that may be). This has left a lot of men feeling confused and lost as to how to approach a woman without scaring her off.


too much pressure?

Most men believe that they're expected to make the perfect first move; you're expected to do it respectfully, gracefully, yet not too aggressively, otherwise you'll be labeled a pervert, a pig, or even be accused of sexual harassment. This pressure, in turn, has grown into a great monster, which leads a lot of men to avoid the hassle altogether.
Most of the shy men I've encountered have the same grievance; "I'd like to meet more women. But I'm scared of being rejected. Today's women are too eager to hit the 'reject' trigger, because they assume that any man who approaches them is a pervert



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Answer 4

Fear of rejection can come from many sources; from being rejected as a child, or feeling abandoned or unloved.

It can come from being repeatedly rejected in other situations, but regardless of the cause, it can create real problems in the ‘here and now’.

Fear of rejection can lead to obsessiveness, clinginess or jealousy in relationships.

It can make you become too serious too soon, driving others away.

It can cause you to reject others to avoid being rejected yourself; overall it is a very damaging pattern of emotion and behavior that can cause real hurt to relationships and your enjoyment life in general.

And in addition, people often spend a lot of time looking for, and finding, ‘evidence’ to support their idea that they are being rejected…
A partner talking to someone else can be transformed from an innocent chat into a 'sure sign' that they are about to leave you.
Lack of contact from a friend can lead to feelings of anxiety and anger as you assume they don’t want to spend time with you.
The most important thing to understand about fear of rejection is that it is driven by emotion.

It is not thoughts that cause you to act this way, but rather the way that you feel.

Hypnosis can help you leave this old emotional pattern behind by helping you become calmer around the issue of rejection, and re-educating your unconscious mind in a more healthy and helpful way of going about relationships.

Answer 5

Decide ahead of time what you are going to do, then invite others along, so to speak. Don't regret your choice -- how the heck would you KNOW it was wrong if it was?

Know what you'll do if you get the rejection -- and make it a positive step. Yeah, it hurts to be rejected, but sooner or later EVERYONE will, so don't take it personally.

Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Just think of rejection as a part of life. Life is one great learning experience. If you never love, you'll never have to face being rejected. But if you don't love, you aren't really living. It's worth taking the risk of rejection to experience love and friendship.

Answer 7

I am like that, sometimes that stops you from doing a lot of things, like start a new friendship, a new relationship, etc, etc, How can you overcome that???...well, what I do is have the idea that what ever happens...happens and If I don't take the risk I would never know what happens, and if doesn't go the way I expect it....well so be it!!....

Answer 8

Ask yourself in any situation, "What is the worst thing that can happen here? Are they going to imprison me and stick a cattle prod in my pants?" So you might get embarrassed for a few minutes. You may feel uncomfortable and out of place. So what? It will pass.

Then ask yourself, "Why do I consider other people's opinions of me more important than my own?" Has someone in your past told you that you are stupid, ugly, strange? So what? Usually the person who finds fault in you is the insecure one. They belittle you so they don't feel weak, strange, stupid, ugly, or whatever.

You are a beautiful creation of God. He knew what he was doing. You are perfect in every way, and the product of millions of year of select evolution.

A day spent judging another is a painful day. A day spent judging yourself is a painful day. You don't have to believe your judgements; they are simply an old habit.

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Answer 9

Think positive, project self confidence, join groups at church etc. Read books on the topic. Talk to others who feel like you do today. Pray to the Lord to guide you and give you what you need and feel is missing. He does work wonders in peoples lives. Remember you are just as good as anyone else.

Answer 10

Face your fear and it will go away. Try just taking a friend out to lunch or dinner. Test the water it may not be as bad as you think. Good luck.

Answer 11

To realize that the only person who can reject you is yourself
and that no one can reject you with out your permission.