i want to leave this town. but not sure if it'll mess up my whole life.?

Question

i just made plans with an ex-boyfriend that at the end of this school year (our senior year), we're just gonna drive away from Boston... like, to cali or something. we're already saving up for it. i have close to $600 in the bank, with another paycheck coming soon. and then i start working at my old gym 3 days a week. and i'll probably still get another job too. and he has a job. i think he's serious about this. i'm not sure if i am, but it sounds good right now. seriously, if i stay here; in this town, i don't see anything in my future. so when we get out to wherever we're going, we'll spend all summer there. and at the end of summer we're gonna see if we even WANT to come back or not... what happens if we don't wanna come back? what if i move to cali right out of high school? do you think i'd be making a huge mistake if i did that? just, leave and not know if i'm gonna be coming back or not.

...obviously we would both get jobs wherever we end up. and, honestly, i'm not really planning on going to college right away.

and there's no telling if i'd even have a place to come home to if it doesn't work out there. i dont get along with my parents, which is why i want to leave in the irst place... i guess you have to understand my relationship with my rents... and it's complicated =/

Answer 1

You wont be able to afford it out here. The average rent on an apartment is around $1000. With both of you working minimum wage jobs ($6.75) you wont even be able to make enough to get by. CA sucks.

Answer 2

Well I moved to California right out of high school, and it was fine. So if you're asking will this automatically end in disaster? Of course not. But you need some more direction or else it REALLY could. For starters, you'll need a WHOLE lot more money than $600. Try 5 times that amount, and then you can be safe. After all, you have no idea how long it'll take before you get a job, and nowhere will rent to you if you don't have first and last months rent to provide right away. And then of course you'll need furniture, food, household bills you may not even take into consideration now. And second of all, you need to know where you're going if you want to be able to be a sucess at this. Yes, it might sound fun to just drive around and stop where you like, but how can you plan like that? When I moved, my boyfriend already had a full time job lined up, we rented a place we saw a few months in advance, etc. . . .So, sure, it can work out, but just be aware of how much work it is and how difficult it can be. Best of luck whever you end up. (After all, if you hate it and want to come back, just rent somewhere in MA, same as you'd be doing out there, even if you don't get along well enough with your parents.)

Answer 3

I live in California. If you want to make it here you need LOTs of money. The cost of living here is tremendous. Gas, at a minimum is $3.15 a gallon (at the cheap stations). You need to drive because it's spread out, unless you plan on moving to a part of Cali where the public transportation is really good. That would leave out LA. You have to have a car there.

Rent is extremely high unless you plan on moving to some podunk town out in the sticks, but you won't find a job that'll pay much in the sticks. Groceries are extremely high so you'd be living off of Ramen noodles. Even Goodwill has the nerve to be expensive. I bought a two old-*** jackets and a pair of stupid looking shoes for a costume party and it cost me $40.

$600 might get you through a week and a half here in Cali unless you'll be sleeping on a friend's couch and paying no rent. Then it might last 3 weeks.

Answer 4

Okay, I'm going to try to answer in the best way I can...

So you want to drive to Cali with your ex-boyfriend for the summer, you guys have jobs, etc. How close are you with your ex? It's tough trying to travel somewhere with another person when you're unsure of what's going to happen next. Do you have a backup plan like say, if he just dissapears on you and you're in Cali by yourself? Do you have any friends or family members that you can talk to or maybe live with them? How are you going to earn money out there if something happens?
Now, let's say you've got the answers to all this. I would say go ahead and see what happens. If you make a mistake, get up dust yourself off and try again. But who knows, you might become sucsessful out there in Cali.
Are you planning on going to school? I would say try some courses at a local community college and see what happens. And as for your parents..I don't know what the relationship is you have with them but I would say at least try talking to them sometimes. They might be a pain now, but you never know when you're going to need them. Hope everything works out.

Answer 5

My thoughts...Cali would be way too expensive to live for someone who's just out of high school, not unless you want to live in WallMart's parking lot. I hear WallMart will let people park there overnight for free, so there's a start to keep the price down.

Try not to worry about "What happens if we don't wanna come back?" Just don't make any big decisions about moving there just yet and wait till you're there for a little while. Just try and keep enough money so you have the option of returning back to Boston.

Answer 6

To leave your home town when there is no future for you would not be a mistake, but I would line up a job first. Have you considered moving to a closer location where there is more opportunity, just in case you need to go back home?It is going to be hard to save enough money to come back, when you are living on your on and paying your own cost of living.
I think you may want to consider extending your education first.
Check out the place you are thinking of such as; possible employment rates, pay rate, standard living expenses like....housing cost,utilities, groceries.... and most of all check on crime rate.
I would really investigate my plan before carrying it out.
Good luck and be safe....

Answer 7

I was in my late 40's and moved with my boyfriend from Boston to South Carolina. We stayed there only 2 months because it was terrible. We left and drove to Illinois. Now we live near Chicago. It was the best thing ever. You're both young and it's the best time to do it. Try to see a lot of the country before you settle down. There's affortable appartments everywhere.

Answer 8

Sometime you have to take chances. That is fine as long as you have a back up plan. What if you get stranded and need help?

The best advice I can give is to always use your head. Sounds simple, but you would be surprised how many otherwise intelligent people do very stupid things when they are out of their normal environment.

Always do what is best for you. Take some risks--not all risks.

Answer 9

listen im a boston girl and ive been there and done that.....there is noplace like boston...you will get homesick.....if you just need a break dont go too far the first time you know what is a cheap place is NH dover is awesome.....rent is cheap, apartments are nice, its country but city at the same time, plus what if you break up and your stuck on other side of the country think it through before you go, plus can you afford the gas to get out to cali?

Answer 10

If you want to move out to Cali, then do it as a college student living in a college dorm at a Cali college or university. That is the best choice that I recommend to you!