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When ever i ask my boyfriend something even for a cuddle he gets mad and says yes grumpily. I know i probably ask him too much but i cant stp coz i do so much 4 hm and wnt him 2 do the same. This is the only problem wth our relationship and it annoys me so much. He knows i do a lot for him as well but says i always seem 2 b on his case about everything. How can i get him 2 do mre things with me or at least show me he cares without asking him for stuf all the time

Answer 1

Girl it is so funny that you ask that! I just got threw that stag with my fiancee!

Listen, one day I just asked him "lepolion why dos it seem that every time I want affection from you, you make me feel like its work for you, or that I am inconvenient to you? Is it me what?" His response was, "baby its not that, I'll honestly Tell you, I like to chase after you, I like having to work for YOUR affection, your attention. You know how we first meet, you made me chase you. And baby I'll Tell ya, I love it. Its something about it, know don't get me wrong its no that I want you to ignore me all the time, at home mostly, but not in public. You know that Sean "a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets" (for us b/c we're Christan - the sheets), baby it just that. I love the Chase."

Girl when I thought about it, I did do Little to much smothering b/c that's exactly what I was doing.

Now, He really has responded that me laying off Little, he gives that wanting desire of affection that I have been wanting, Girl i Tell yeah I love it.

That's all it is, just lay off a bit, let him work for your attention, affection, just like when you first started dating.

Answer 2

Some people feel uncomfortable with open displays of affection, usually this stems from the past where the family were not affectionate physically and often verbally. Instead of asking initiate and see how it goes from there. Often people feel uncomfortable when challenged about their behaviors so maybe you making the first move might be a help. Don't expect miracles change can take a long time.Don't keep on about how much you do for him it is not meant to be a chore if it is then you need to evaluate this relationship.As for showing he cares for you sit back and really think about it if you cant come up with too much then ask does he really care for you or is he in the relationship for convenience. The pendulum often swings in relationships but if it is swinging too much too often his way then you really do not have a relationship.

Answer 3

you have got to get a life of your own he feel smothered back off a little. I found out the hard way about this but you can save your self a heart ache if you fine something you like to do and ignore him for a while if he loves you he will be begging you for some of your time. believe me he will start missing all that love you try to force on him

Answer 4

Confront him about it. Just let him know that you feel that the relationship is one-sided and you don't feel you're getting as much as you're giving. And tell him that you shouldn't have to ask for his affection if he really cares about you. Then if it still doesn't work out, I would have to say find someone who actually appreciates what you do for them.

Answer 5

Either get a new boyfriend who likes to show affection in the same way you do, or tell him that it really turns you on when you think about cuddling with him.

Answer 6

When you stop asking he will start doing cause he will wonder why you don't ask anymore it will be hard but act like you don't want him to touch you either and when he get mad show him that's how he made you feel.. se guys can't take what they ditch out and that has been proven over and over again so you stop don't ask him anymore act like you don't care be his twin and he will see!!

Answer 7

You are in a very unequal relationship with this guy where you do everything and he does nothing, and that grudgingly. You should think about whether you want to continue this relationship or whether you want to find someone who genuinely cares about you. A man who genuinely cared about you wouldn't have to be asked to hold you and do things for you; it happens automatically.

Answer 8

You need to sit down with him one night and explain it to him. Tell him that you aren't trying to get on his case but you just feel that he could help you out a little more. Or could be more understanding and thankful for what you do. It's all in the communication, just tell him without being rude what is on your mind.

Answer 9

The problem is that you can't give with the expectation of recieving. You can't turn him into something he's not. Some guys just aren't very affectionate and don't do a lot for their girl, it's just their nature.

Answer 10

Get a new bf. Or stop nagging him and go off an do things on your own and if he still doesn't come around then difinately dump him. YOu need a guy who will appreciate what you do for him and not be cold.