Just need someone to listen?

Question

Ever feel like your the only one out there. Like everything you do is completly far from the normal. Im going into my last yr of highschool and i have so much going for me, but right now, there is nobody really to hang out with, i mean, who wants to spend there time with someone who gets kicks out of feeding the homeless, or working at a soup kitchen? When you could be out drinking? or.. smoking it up. So cool. NOT. I cant understand why there isnt more teenagers out there like me. And the more i try to tell myself that its going to be okay and all that. It just isnt. Everyone needs someone to talk to. And it makes it a hell of a lot difficult when you are surrounded by people with completly different interests. Does anyone else out there, even feel a little bit like this. You gotta know its bad when you friggen post something on here, hoping to God someone knows what your tlaking about.

im in my youth group, but its all aloy younger kids, and im in a smaller town, so our church isnt very big. I do alot of volunteer work, but majority of the people i do it with are alot alot older.

Answer 1

I'm listening
You sound as though you have your life on straight.
Stick to what you love to do girl - it will never ever backfire. And you can meet other people with similar interests - you have alot of experience helping others, why not investigate the possibility of taking a short term humanitarian trip to another country. There are lots of groups out there looking for a together, outgoing person like you!
ps - I think there are lots of kids out there who feel just as you do - the hardest part is being willing to avoid the peer pressure. How big is your highschool? why not consider starting a club for kids who enjoy the things you do? You'll surely meet kids with similar ideals as you.
Hope you have a great senior year!

Answer 2

Finding a community to fit into can be hard. For you the best place to start might be a church, you will find suprising people there not just the average Christian sterotype. Loosing hope in humanity is easy I am still struggling with it, I want to believe in the better good of the people, sometimes it seems like people strive to present me with evidence to think otherwise. One thing to help is perspective, sometimes things are not as bad as they look, othertimes a new way of looking at something can present a solution or it can reveal that things are more complicated. I spent every summer of my high school years alone, till my senior year, the onset of summer still triggers a mild depression for me every year, I graduated two years ago. In high school I had only a few friends who really understood and stood by me, I was an outcast to all groups, and to most an oddity. Things change, some people will mature and realize that not just their way of living is "Cool", some people become more tolerant and diverse in their social habits. The trick is finding these people. Hard question to answer, my best suggestion is to try the local churches, approach them with an open mind, and try many diffrent churches and youth groups. May God help you to find the community that you need.

Answer 3

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. What you need to know is that there are so many other teens out there who feel exactly the same way you do. But something else you should know is that many people in your position have become successful at life and love what they do. Keep at it, don't give up. When you're feeling down, talk to a friend, a parent, even seeking help from online like you are doing now will make you feel better. There will always be someone out there who cares about you and how you feel. I'm proud of you for helping other people and staying away from the pressure of drugs and alchohol. You could also join a club that intrests you to find more friends. But kick up conversation with the people you already work around. I know, this is cliche, but never give up. I want to give you a website that has a very nice community who will accept you for who you are, and will always be there for you when you wish to talk. I hope you begin to feel beter soon. And stay positive. For every negative thing you think, think of something positive. Hang in there. Oh, and I'd be your friend. :-)

Answer 4

Sounds like your intentinions are in the right place, but is it possible that some of your peers could consider you a bit stuck up? You should create a little time in your life for fun, and that doesn't mean start drinking and smoking. You seem a little maturer than some of your peers, but there are some that probably wouldn't mind hanging with you in one of those soupkitchen, as long as you hang with them in the mall for a change. You got a bulletin board at your school???, Post something about your work there, maybee you will find some people interested. Just don't get overzealot about it. If you need to talk my name is my e-mail.

Answer 5

I believe you are on a good course in your life. The first thing that I see about you is that you have compassion for others. Sharing what you have is more important than what you have. You see you may be a person who sees the invisible, feels the intangible and achieves the impossible. I would also reccomend doing volunteer work, maybe at a hospital or anyplace else that you might make new aquaintances that are more in line with your way of thinking. Friendships will follow and this will give you the kind of recognition you are deserving.

Answer 6

I know how you feel girly! I'm not in high school, BUT I felt the same way at work. People made fun of me and said I was boring because I don't like to drink or go to parties. Well excuse me for doing more important things with my time!

Don't worry, you are not the only one. There is probably someone in one of your classes who feels the same way. Maybe someone you have never talked to. The only way to find out, is by talking to them. Just strike up a conversation and ask people what they do on their spare time or what they wish they could do to help others.

I'm sooo sorry you are having a bad experience, but it is only high school. When you get to college it's a whole nother world! I wish you the best of luck. And more power to you for being YOU!

Answer 7

Been there, done that. I understand what you are going through. I know it sucks terribly now, but know that when you get to college things will be better. Those people who go out drinking and smoke pot dont last for more than a semester or two. Plus there will be a wider spectrum of people available for you to make friends with.

You said your a senior now, so just keep the end goal of graduating in mind and know that it can only get better from here. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

Your not alone and posting on here is a great way to find others like you. FYI, I think that volunteering your time feeding the homeless a very noble, honorable and caring thing to do. We need more people like you in the world.
So thank you, for your time, effort and the compassion that you have shown to others.
I don't know where you are from but, if you go to

www.craigslist.com

find your city or one that is close to you
they have a listing for volunteers and It may be a great place for you to find others that share the same interests.

Good luck and Thanks again

Answer 9

Yes. I'm just going into high school, and sometimes I feel so different, it makes it hard for me to socialize. I, too, have a lot going for me, but with very unreliable friends, who have been known to cut, drink, have sex (hello, we're 14!!!), smoke pot, and a whole bunch of really interesting things, it's hard when they want to go do that and I want to go raise money for a sick kid! It gets to the point of desperation, I totally agree. It just sucks that there aren't as many kids like us out there. Try joining student council or leadership at your school...I've have found so many friends there who, while they may do some of that stuff, agree that it's stupid and we shouldn't be exposed to it this young. Good luck and I hope you find someone you can talk to. =)

Answer 10

We all choose different paths in life an it can be hard when the one we take is slightly off track to what everyone else is doing. You should consider joining a youth group in your area. You will probably find people with similar interests or at least people who aren't only concerned about where their next drink is coming from :)