I have put up with so much from my baby's father, he left me alone during my whole pregnancy, got a girlfriend throughout the whole time. He made it seem he wanted a family so i can forgive him meanwhile he was still with her. Cheated on me with many other women and always denies it by swearing over his daughters life. I have tried to cut him off my life but everytime he wants to see my daughter he always manages to convince me to forgive him and i end up doing it for the sake of my child, but he never changes. What can i do to keep him out of my life completely but at the same time get along with him for the sake of my daughter. He makes me feel really sad and depressed because he doesnt respect in any way, shape or form and i'm fed up! HELP!!!!!!!
2006-08-20 15:50:25 · 11 answers · asked by CONFUSED!!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should not maintain a friendship with this man. Why would you want to? You should NEVER discuss anything with him except your baby. He has treated you very badly but you willingly went along with it. He has no respect for you as a woman or as the mother of his child.
Sounds like he only wants to see the baby when he wants to jump your bones. Please have more respect for yourself than to allow this to continue. You should never allow him to touch you in any way, not a peck on the cheek, NOTHING. You obviously have no will power. Although, why you would want to allow such a pig to touch you is beyond my comprehension.
You should have an AIDS test and also be tested for STDs. I don't believe you "forgive" him. I think you just want to jump into bed with him again. How could you forgive a liar and cheater, especially when the lying and cheating is continuing.
Don't discuss your past, present or future with him. You want things to be the way you think they were, so you are willing to talk to him about it and let him tell you lies again and again. You need to understand they were never the way you wanted them to be and they never will.
Put it to bed for your sake and certainly for the sake of your daughter. Please don't raise her to have no self respect. She will then repeat your mistakes and let men use and abuse her. Don't do that to her. So, if you can't give up on her loser father for your sake, do it for her sake.
Remember, no personal conversations with him. Perhaps you need to let someone else handle the visitations until you are stronger and more determined. That way you will not have to see him.
You might consider calling an abusive help line and see if you can take a class that will teach you how to not allow yourself to be abused in the future. Good luck. He will never change, but you can.
2006-08-20 16:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be firm and completely resolved that it is time for him to get out of your life. No more SEX for that sucker, he plays with you and you give in, You have to tell yourself over and over again NO MORE of that crap. He treats you like a worthless person, you are better then that. You can tell him that he can come on certain days to visit your daughter, make sure you have a friend in the house that day, so he'll leave. He can use his charm on some other dummy but not on you any longer.
Your not a doormat! Remember that! Should he get mad, get the police and see a lawyer, then he can get visiting hours established by the court, but he has no parental rights anyway because you're not married,
Stop being a doormat, you're a good person. Kick that bastard out.
2006-08-20 16:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look this sounds way too familiar. My boyfriend did the same thing to me and to top it all off everyone told me he was married and had a daughter. Just find a way to let your daughter see him without being there. If there is a family member that you can leave her with so you don't have to be around when he picks her up or drops her off. Stay away from him. I know you love him, but it never ends. I know my little girl is 2 yrs old, and I still can't let him go.
2006-08-20 16:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sexy VP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no court order saying he has certain visiting times, don't answer his calls or call him. Cut him off. You can go to court and get a legal order saying he has visits but can't contact you. A third party or visitation center can handle the visits, you don't even have to see him ever again except for court appearances. You will have to tell the judge why you don't want face to face meetings with about your daughter. Get a lawyer or try free legal aid.
2006-08-20 15:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop her. greater clever to be on my own than taken care of like airborne dirt and dirt. human beings will cope with you the way you enable them to. forget approximately her, you're superb and don't need her. do no longer invite your self, do no longer enable them to work out you cry. you may post a wall - and smile. you in basic terms do no longer supply a sh*t. that's the only way you could win. you will locate different sturdy human beings (she appears like a loser, what 40 365 days old mom has to cling out with human beings of their 20's? a woman who's in basic terms too immature to have pals her very own age, that would desire to inform you some thing). keep taking your daughter to the park, keep being friendly yet do no longer debase your self for those trash human beings.
2016-09-29 12:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate my sons mother. She has watched to many daytime soaps and became scandoulous. Anyway, My son is 7 now and I get to see him often and I call him a lot. My ex sometimes try to talk things and I never give her the chance. If its not about my son then I have nothing to say to her. That way we don't even argue. She knows now.
2006-08-20 16:04:29 · answer #6 · answered by Your MOM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to allow him to see his child no matter what. If you want to be with him then see if he is willing to go to counciling with you. If he is then take the chances, if he isnt then dont waste your time even being friends. Let him see his daughter and thats it, nothing between you guys.
2006-08-20 15:59:16 · answer #7 · answered by TAWNIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are not fed up yet. Friendship? He is a loser and if you don't kick him to the curb, you are a loser. What is there to discuss? "Hey sweetie let me see if you are still as stupid as you were last time?"
2006-08-22 20:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by arejokerswild 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs to grow up. There isn't much you can do if he won't respect you. I feel sorry for you, and your child being influenced buy this jerk.
2006-08-20 15:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by iamiandme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him see his kid, but dont discuss anything personal at all, keep it strictly buisness
2006-08-20 15:55:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋