My husband is Muslim and he asked me to cover my hair when I am out in public because that is part of the religion. Now, I have not converted to his religion but, I do love him and want to make him happy. The hair covers are not that bad but, not really sure what I should do. Please advise
2006-08-20 15:35:07 · 20 answers · asked by mexichic5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I completley understand that you are in a loving relationship and want to take his feelings into consideration aswell as his wishes/customs... but you dont want to compromise your own personal religious or other beliefs if you are unhappy wearing these hair covers in public express it to him, but in such a way that will not offend him that way there is a better chance for open communication (which is crucial in any strong lasting relationship)
2006-08-20 15:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go by your own customs dear . It only has to be done by those women who have converted to the faith
Before you go any further in the relationship. You owe it to yourself to find out just what you have gotten into .. Now if you convert to Muslim that is a different thing BUT if you have not and don't intend to .. run to your local bookstore and pick up
Not Without My Daughter by Betty Mahmoody
It is a serious faith that you have gotten yourself into. The men are different in the way that they treat their women. If raised in it that is one thing BUT to marry into it and give up yourself is wrong. the women are treated as property, they dont even eat at the same table children dont either ( eat with the men that is )
It is not a matter of you loving him . HE is living in America and needs to follow the customs of there or piss off back to his own land. and IF you have any children dont allow them to go over there or you have lost them ....
Truth..stranger then fiction but truth
All the best ..
2006-08-20 16:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by MrsDave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur husband that u really love him and would do anything to please him but usually hair covers r so guys will love u for who u r not for what u look like and u just want to make sure he trusts u around other guys. but the hair cover is up to u. other people can't answer this for u they have different opinions. I wouldn't wear it but u might feel different. Follow ur heart want do u want to do?
GOOD LUCK WITH UR DECISION =]
2006-08-20 15:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by macluvzlabs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you understand WHY your hair must be covered when out in public, AGREE with that and CONVERT to his religion you will only be fooling yourself as well as him !
2006-08-20 17:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you think is right... if you don't want to cover your hair in public, he should understand that if he really loves you with all his heart.. but if you want to follow his religion then go ahead! It's always nice to try new things.. just to see if you like it. but just do whatever you think is right!! Good luck!
2006-08-20 15:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to cover your hair then dont cover your hair. If you live in the US explain to him we dont treat our women like second class citizens here.
2006-08-20 15:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by noname 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your religion? Maybe you should have thought about that before you married the guy. Tell him you worship the no balls god and he needs to cut his off. Do you think he'd do it? If you are a christian you are unequally yoked or married.
2006-08-20 15:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by iamiandme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you knew what you were getting into when you married a muslim so shouldnt even be asking this question...if you want to make him happy then cover your hair
2006-08-20 15:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by lippygloss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you are not converted he cannot ask you to do anything associated with his religion.
Personally I would tell him that I will wear whatever I want. And tell him to get a life.
2006-08-20 15:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have not converted to his religion, I don't believe that you have to compromise your own values and beliefs for anyone (including him) and lose yourself in the process.
2006-08-20 15:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋