Any of you that answered my other question - the answers were GREAT - but it is my friend and I am at a loss of how I can help her thru this.
2006-08-20 15:34:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am going to answer this because I have been in your girlfriends shoes. I was the one who had a cheating spouse and I had a very good friend who tried to help me and sometimes she did but other times she made it worse. All she needs is to be able to talk about it and get moral support, I didn't want her telling me to leave him because I felt like it I choose to take him back then I would feel like she was against me so you just need to support whatever she wants to say and do. If she thinks she wants to work things out with him then help her decide how. Just be a friend, not an advisor. I wish her luck because it was the 3rd time he had cheated on me and we still find it hard to go on without them. It don't mean she can't or won't but it is hard to let go of what you think you had. I had spent 21 years with this person and knew what he was so just keep agreeing with her and let her heal on her own with your kindness and she will love you all the more when it is over. Hope it all works out.
2006-08-20 16:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by 51ain'tbad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to confort ur friend is basically to be there for her it will take time to heal the broken hart take your friend out every now and than join a gym together that will get her out of the house build her confident and le her now ther are other people out there
baicaly listen to her give her positive advice to move on its a very hard time for her right now and she needs to devorce her husband so take her out every now and than join a gym and lend a hear and shoulder
2006-08-21 00:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it happened twice and she's still there, offer a referral to a counselor. Then stay out of it.
2006-08-20 16:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by Stargatebabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to give a friend advice especially if she intends on taking him back. She needs to find someone who will appreciate her and keep his dick in his pants!
2006-08-20 17:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight out. Get as many facts, details, and proof that you can. It will hurt she may say you are lying, but wouldn't you want to know!!!
2006-08-20 15:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by ab3mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her how many times is she going to put up with such behavior. Tell her she deserves better and to divorce the bum.
2006-08-20 16:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by yooper guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her when she needs to talk and vent.
2006-08-20 15:45:43 · answer #7 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eat ice cream....dont say anything to her...the last thing she need to hear "leave him" or "i told you so"
2006-08-20 15:42:47 · answer #8 · answered by just2wild4ya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
advise her to leave him pls
2006-08-20 15:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by he 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋