Last weekend I had to return my son (10 yrs) at a mutual place to his mother (ex-wife) traveling from Ca. My wife now and my step-son were going along in the trip. It happened to coincide with the anniversary from when we met (my wife now). Unusually we drove to the rendevouz point instead of flying. I normally fly my son to the West coast and drop him off to his mon. The flying time allows for him and I to spend the time together on our last day until the next school break. The day we traveled we celebrated my step-son's birthday and soon after we started our journey. During the drive I ask my wife if she would mind if I would share one of the beds with my son and she would share the other bed with her son. She said YES, but asked why. I said I would like to spend the last evening with him. Later that night when we were in bed she got upset and went to sleep in the sofa. Next day assuming she was mad I decided not to mess up the last day with my son and enjoy the park.
2006-08-20 15:31:49 · 15 answers · asked by F G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Was I wrong for sleeping with my son???
2006-08-20 15:39:04 · update #1
i dont think it was wrong. As long as your son is cool with it.
Ask her how it made her feel. When she says upset or pissed off or hurt, ask her why it made her feel that way. Try NOT to defend yourself, just let her rant for a while and TRY to see it through her eyes.
im thinking it's jealousy and NO woman wants ANYTHING above her in a mans mind. (just to say that as a woman, and some women dont really realize it. I believe it holds true for a man too.. as many baby books have chapters on how to deal with it when the man is feeling left out or jealous of the new baby..) To her, this is always going to be YOUR child.. something you share with someone else..
2006-08-20 15:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by senacia 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are many ways to bond with your son. At this point, independent sleeping is a better way - bonding with your son the next day, would be better. Your wife comes first, always - is this the second time your married? Don't louse this one up.
2006-08-20 16:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by floridagirl2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 12:08:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people even some parents don't understand the bond between parent and child. I have three children and sometimes they all climb in my bed. Sometimes they are scared of a storm, and sometimes they just want to sleep with us. They grow up so fast soon they won't even want to talk to you probably.
2006-08-20 15:40:36 · answer #4 · answered by iamiandme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U was right and u was being a good parent. She stay with her son so she does not know what it feel like living without her son. Sleep with him nexttime.
2006-08-20 17:08:22 · answer #5 · answered by sazzybmt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she needs to respect the fact that you have a relationship with your son. If she has a problem with that i think yall need to sit down and talk.
2006-08-20 15:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by Jessie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing.. I wounldn't want to hang out with a moody women either. Don't worry about it, it'll all get figured out with some time. good luck!
2006-08-20 15:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, there's nothing in the world wrong with this. Come on. She just needs to relax, it's ok.
2006-08-20 16:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, she needs to just step back, and read this. She's wrong, man. Glad you didn't let it ruin your day. Enjoy as much time as you can get with yours, man...
2006-08-20 15:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by longhair140 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ummm....your son is ten years old and you are still sleeping with him? Parent bonding is great but think about that one just a little please.
2006-08-20 16:00:11 · answer #10 · answered by teacherg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋