2006-08-20 15:28:04 · 10 answers · asked by steelerguy92868 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
do both but put your children before anything
2006-08-20 15:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by Jessie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you have been focusing on your children. While I think that's great that you have been caring for them, have you asked them how they would feel about it? They could possibly be missing a mommy in their lives and although she is not the true "mommy" perhaps they may need a female too to balance their lives. While I'm sure you are doing the very best you can, some questions can best be answered by the oposite sex. I think one step at a time which is dating, and then serious dating. It's going to be important that your children accept this person also. They have had you without sharing for a long time. I think if you take it slow, talk to your children, you should be able to have the best of two worlds.
2006-08-20 23:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by Tweek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little bit of both, because if you focus too much on your kids and not on your needs then you will end up alone in the end and resent not taking time out for you. But don't go hog wild on dating either. Keep it simple and balanced. You will have a better life if you take some time out for yourself once in a while and not spend every waking moment on your children. You are a person just as much as they are. Also don't go find some ho that wants to send your kids away either. Good luck and I hope you find this helpful.
2006-08-20 22:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do both. Sometimes you need a special somebody to talk to or confide in. You can be in a relationship and still be a great dad. And sometimes the best way to ease into the idea of a Step-mom it might be best if your children feel like they are involved like what they think is important to you even if it's a small thing to you.
2006-08-20 23:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by Cinderella79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do both. You have all your life to focus on your kids.That's going to come naturally.but one of the desires of the heart is companionship and you should not cheat yourself of that.I trust you can remarry and focus on your kids too.After all, you are a divorced man with kids...That's not an easy task.!!! Good luck to your future and God bless.
2006-08-20 22:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by ladyt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading some of your prior postings, I'd suggest you focus on your children. Stop the drama about dating - there is time for that later.
2006-08-20 22:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that can be tricky. you need to find happiness for yourself, but have a woman with no resentment for your past or your kids. everything can be cool in the beginning, but jealousy and possessiveness may come into play. you cant let that happen, you will be alienated from your kids and they will lose respect for you. i wish for you the good luck i didnt have. you should be able to focus on both, if you cant, dont do it.
2006-08-20 22:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by chris l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for your kids' sake you should remarry, cause this is actually from a kid's point of view. I'm only 11.
2006-08-20 23:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by ~flippy~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you aksing us? It's really all up to you. If all you are looking for is someone to take cae of the kids, no. If you are looking way beyond that, then you must decide.
2006-08-20 22:36:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can answer that question ........ if it is the person that is right for you, your heart will know it . . don't look for someone just to get married . . . focus on your kids and ms. right may just fall into your lap
2006-08-20 22:33:58 · answer #10 · answered by wfgrg15001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋