Is it because I am real ugly? Real boring?... Or real shy. I has have trouble finding the right words to say. I am SOOOO stupid socially.
2006-08-20 15:27:46 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Make a decision that the opposite of all that is true. Keep making that decision even when the evidence points otherwise. It's the only way out.
2006-08-20 15:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A social life to me means being with those you care about... it can be family or friends. Let's focus on friendship. Have you made an effort to make friends? This often means joining and organization, club, or sports activity... friendships begin easily because you have common interests from the beginning. True friends will care about you no matter what... I truly doubt if you are ugly (God creates beauty), boring (not being with people you share common interests with might appear to you that way), or real shy (you probably just need time to warm up to meeting new people). So do something positive TODAY... start looking for that organization (volunteer work feels good), club (maybe you like playing cards) or sports activity (co-ed bowling is always fun and you don't have to worry about being good... it's all scored by your average anyway). Good luck.
2006-08-20 22:37:58 · answer #2 · answered by Mike S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r feeling that way becasue u don't love yourself. once u love yourself than u will be able to deal with life. beauty is only skin deep. it doesn't matter what someone else thinks of u because everyone is unique in there on way. it doesn't matter if u can't find the right words to say, hell i'm 42 and i still have trouble finding the right words to say. i'm no *** kisser, and i can't get off saying things that another person want to hear. people tell me i'm pretty, but i don't except it because i'm just learning to love what is inside of me, not for the outside. i rather tell the truth then to lie and feel bad. now days everyone wants to hear things to make them feel better, instead of excepting the truth. if u have no social life then do something that u enjoy that makes u feel better, because there is someone that shares the samething that u like and they will be a better friend. beside stay away from people that makes you feel stupid.............that way u want be so stressed out...............................
2006-08-20 22:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by koodie64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well out of my personal experience. its because i face social rejection from since childhood and now that sense of rejection is creeping back at me every time i need to talk to a crowd or i try t make a friend. My mom once tried to force me to make a friend, from those same people that rejected me but that failed. So it affects some of us too. Look back into the past and see what went wrong. And try to change all of that and make it better.I know I have to if I want to get ahead in life in High School and even in college.
2006-08-20 22:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. What you are seeing around is a bunch of people who have a water-tight compartment of differentiated behaviour in a group, being conscious of how others rate them !
Once you identify yourself as a part of the society as a unified whole, then there is only a comprehensive life (the way you are)!
2006-08-20 22:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just a little shy. Just try to to open up socially with people you know first, and work your way out to new people. Also talk about what you know a lot about, so you will feel and build confidence.
Good Luck!
2006-08-20 22:35:37 · answer #6 · answered by oh-so- Laid-back 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of i think you can take classes to be better publically, yes they are called speech classes. OK but seriously i had some issues you like that i would always say something dumb or out of place. I just have to constantly keep watch on myself to not say anything i know is dumb, just pay attention and seriously think about what your saying and you'll get better. It may seem stupid but practice and think about sitations and what the right things to say.
2006-08-21 00:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by Swansen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking US if YOU are 'ugly', 'shy' and/or 'boring'. I don't know, dude! I never seen you nor met you! I can't say that.
AS far as your question is concerned, well, do you think you are 'ugly' and that is why you don't socialize? I think you know exactly why you don't do it, but for somereason you don't like to admit it. Admiting it is the first step to help yourself. Be honest with yourself and work on your 'problems', that is my advice!
2006-08-20 22:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lacking confidence. Try joining a group or course of something you interested in (eg films, books, photography etc) so at least when you meet up you have something in common with other people.
It sure ain't because you are ugly - not everyone is shallow! You
2006-08-20 22:34:19 · answer #9 · answered by Keira 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-20 22:51:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋