see now here the thing i am 13 and there this other 13 year old girl at my school but the problum is that i love her and i care about her very very much but heres the real small problum i am not going out with her (i haven't had a girl friend in 10 years) but i wanna and here is the medium problum she lives by me like 5 houses down but here is the major problum she never goes out side so i can't ask her out in privet can you guys help me plus to make matters even more bad i sometimes cry because of it i am not brave enough to say the words "chelsea will you go out with me'' give me advice on how to ask her out please
2006-08-20 15:25:58 · 14 answers · asked by John H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't be sweating "going out". Get to know her, and be her friend first. Do things like ask her for advice. Don't be too quick to speak, instead, listen to her when she speaks. Girls like guys who are confident, who have a good sense of humor...who show they care by listening to them. Going out is nothing. Being friends is everything. Tell her that, if you believe it.
2006-08-20 15:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey honey,
Ok first of all good for you! You were brave enought to put up your true feelings on the internet! Thats a great step! Ok now for the problem. Hmm... Some Ideas that I have for you are...
1. Send her a letter letting her know that you think shes really cool and you would like to hang out sometime.
2. Talk to her at school.
Ok now the big problem that I see that you are having is that you are to scared to actually ask her out so dont... I mean eventually you can but you should get closer to her as a friend first this should take away some of the shyness! Then later on you can ask her when you feel more comftorable with her around! Good luck to you and I hope everything works out with you and Chelsea!
2006-08-20 22:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by maes_quest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a girlfriend at 3 isn't a girl friend... and as to your other problems, if you don't tell her, she will be taken by some one else, and whenever you see her boyfriend, you will be hurt inside, either way you do it, the worst thing that could happen is to not go out with her, so why not go for the one with the possible better rewards? Just go to her house, knock on her door, and ask if Chelsea can come out for a few minutes. When she comes out ask her to go on a walk with you, then just go somewhere private, and tell her that you REALLY like her, and that you want to go out with her. DON'T use love, it will most likely scare her. Now you just see what she says.
Best of luck to you.
2006-08-20 22:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by Matt M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the type of person that like to receive gifts or even surprise her.
This is what you do, do a secret admire letters, give one each day out of the week. Start on a Monday and end on a Friday...and that say last day write a time and place you want to meet her (still leaving you identity a mystery) you surprise were with what ever form of gift you want as a way to break the ice good.
This way of approaching the situation will allow you the opportunity to get yourself prepared as to how you really want to approach her.
Good luck
2006-08-20 23:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by Divine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
John, you are so young sweetie. I know young love is very powerful. Why don't you give her a call, and ask her to go for a walk. If you don't have her phone number and can't get it...walk over to her house...be brave...all she can say is no....knock on her door and ask to talk to her. I wouldn't come on to strong. Just be friendly. Be Chelsea's friend first, the other stuff will come if it is meant to be. Good Luck. I hope it all goes very well for you. Just be yourself. Smile and be friendly. Remember 13 year old girls are just as nervous as you are...
2006-08-20 22:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by sleepless in the ATL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first at school you should write a note to her and have a friend give it to her in the hall and have writen if she will go out with you and if she says yes then just hang out with her take her places like you live kinda by her take a walk with her like maybe once or twice a week
2006-08-20 23:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by ~Katie~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slip her a note. asking her to meet some where private or just write how u feel on the note. but if she had feelings for u i think she would have started hanging out side not inside away from u.
2006-08-20 22:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by soloman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a card with the question inside
2006-08-20 22:31:49 · answer #8 · answered by revmerly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait......you're 13, and you haven't had a girlfriend in 10 years....so you were three. Ok grow up then ask us. Take care
2006-08-20 22:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by Ali 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are you kidding? You, a 13 year old, no date for 10 years? Honey you are too young to be in love, but you do have a crush though. Just go over to her place, ask her to come over to yours or something like that, or ask her out to the movies, I dunno kid
2006-08-20 22:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋