is it strange for me to surprise my husband with a stripper and a night out at a strip club with the fellows. i will even get a lap dance for us both. but my friedns do not agree with it. am i wrong and will this end my marriage?
2006-08-20 15:24:51 · 30 answers · asked by cmac 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. Your the coolest wife. Ever.
2006-08-20 15:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by Shadow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby will LOVE you for it! My hubby surprised me with a trip for our anniversary last year to go to a museum I had really been wanting to see. On our last night in town, we went out to dinner and off the the strip club for a few lap dances. Had some of the best sex afterwards. As long as you are comfortable and that you can assure yourself that what you see won;t upset, then there's no problem!
2006-08-20 22:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by lilmizzaniml 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as i hate to say. that will not end ur marriage. the reasons ur Friends are saying this is because they are jealous, envious & a few other emotional traits that are not worth mentioning. since i do not know how much u know about men. u may think u know about men[i not talking about the sex part of it] i am talking about how they think in any given point of ur life. what it means to u & only u. in order to know some one else u to be one w/ur self. being able to live w/the ugly things about ur self. & keep them in proper place in ur mind & keep them there. those are the things that will destroy every one around u. then turn on u & consume until there is nothing left. if u can except what ever happens & know before hand what will be the most logical, & only then u will know & have ur answer! good luck.[just kidding because luck has nothing to do w/it]
2006-08-21 02:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its an interesting question. Please don't be offended, but I kind of think you might becoming too much of a "pal", kind of like one of the guys, rather than as a Wife. Heck yes a husband likes a passionate and sexy wife, but I think there is also a part of his mind that pictures his wife as a temple of virtue, so to speak. I don't think most husbands want a wife they can get rip roaring drunk with and cuss with and tell dirty stories with, thats sort of just for the guys if you know what I mean. I do think there is a very nice part of a guys mind that idealizes his wife, but thats just me. Anyway, good luck!
2006-08-20 22:33:33 · answer #4 · answered by jxt299 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm more worried about your emotional impact than his... if you're comfortable with it, I would be too, but most women don't have that much self confidence. I'm friends with three girls who routinely go out with their husbands / boyfriends to strip clubs, but it works great for them. Most of the other girls I know would have a hard time forgiving their boyfriends / husbands even if they took them out to a club. Guys, on the other hand, would be cool with it 99% of the time.
2006-08-20 22:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by Ketel One Up 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a man, but unless your husband is positively against stuff like that, NO I don't think its wrong. A bit weird maybe, but
who cares, you do whatever you like. Don't listen to other people, after the night out he comes home and you get the benefits.
2006-08-20 22:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! This wouldn't end your marriage at all! In fact, it shows how comfortable you are with him, and also confident in the relationship the two of you share! Women who would willingly allow this are few and far between - and a true gem to find! If you're ok with it - go for it!
2006-08-20 22:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Giving another women to your husband will make him happy but its u who he should be looking at not some stripper.....he is gonna like it of course he will he's a guy we all would but U are his wife not her
2006-08-20 22:30:18 · answer #8 · answered by amidamaru989 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, I'm K.G.B. and I'm a man, but I'm answering this question for you , OK? it's not very often that a man has the opportunity to experience a night out on the stripper scene with the one he has devoted his undoing love and admiration for. this outing could turn out one of two way's, on the one hand it could turn out that you both walk away with a deeper appreciation for one another, or either one of you could walk away with the girl ,while the other one of you walks away with a resentment, animosity toward the other party. this could be a blessing or it could be a curse ,I have a question for you, who are you doing this for,Him or Yourself?
love ya, peace.
2006-08-20 23:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, my husband love's it when we go to the strip clubs. we have had great sex afterwards. and we never had to have a stripper help. i think that it turns a guy on to see his wife admire another woman!
2006-08-20 22:30:44 · answer #10 · answered by ally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you are being fair to yourself. if you are ok with this & you are sure your hubby will be ok with it, then why do you want to put yourself at stress level by asking your friends what they think? i mean, if their reaction is negative you are going to start thinking like them, and you dont want them to live your life for you do you? go for it & forget about what your friends think. dont ask them anymore for advice. if i was your husband, i would gladly accept this time out from each other & enjoy the night. after all, variety is the spice of life! your marriage wont end, but i would end my relationship with some of those friends of yours! enjoy !
2006-08-20 22:41:11 · answer #11 · answered by rje46805 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋