Planning Marriage. Indifference. Female perspective preferred.?

Question

My fiancée and I are talking about our wedding. She is tossing out all these ideas and I find it overwhelming.

This is her day more than mine, as I just want to marry her. Not to sound cold, but it doesn't matter to me how we do it, just that we do.

I kinda go w/ the flow w/ everything as long as it's affordable.. Am I wrong for just wanting to marry her, or should I push myself to give more input?

Answer 1

You don't sound cold. Wedding day for women is full of dream and fairytale, something some women think about in childhood.Just tell her 1st of all, "I just want you to be my wife.I know this is stressful, but I'm a little overwhelmed a bit. I trust your judgment on all the details as long as it's in the budget." Give her your input on food, champagne, ya know, something like that to make her feel like you are into it a bit. But bottom line remember this "Honey,I trust your judgement."Congrats and good luck.

Answer 2

Not in least is it a bad thing that you just want to marry her. I say you can have the best wedding in the world and it could be really cheap to just getting it done by a Judge. Thats how my parents did it. And nothing wrong with giving your input either, but just let your fiancee know that the bigger she plans the wedding, you'll still love and be with her no matter what as long as you marry. Oh and a side note, usually the bigger and flashier the wedding, I have heard they don't last too long, so just suggest something with family and really close friends.

Answer 3

You are just right! It is your day too, but just wanting to be married to her is a perfect attitude, lucky girl! I would suggest just finding a few things that you might be able to find some interest in (i.e. the music, the food, guy stuff!) and tell her that you want her to have what she wants so the start to your life together will be perfect. But doing some research and offering some suggestions on just a few things will show her that at least you are interested (even if only slightly) and then her making most of the choices will not make her feel bad. Been married 9 years to someone with your attitude, love him! Congrats!

Answer 4

Wanting to marry her is the thing that matters. So I think you are absolutely right

For some people the wedding is important, for other people (like you and me) it's not. It's hard when the two people getting married have different views on this, but I think girls have a tendency to make more fuss about their weddings than guys anyways.

In my opinion, 'Go with the flow' is the right way for you to go about it. Enjoy your happiness, you lucky fellow!

Answer 5

Your right it's her day. I think she is just trying to include you in on all of the planning. Perhaps she doesn't realize that guys are not into all of the wedding hoopla. Just go with the flow as you have been doing. As long as she doesn't notice its all good. If she does notice just tell her baby all I want to do is be your husband. That will make her day and she'll forget all about everything else.

Answer 6

i think it's kinda normal for the guy to not be too interested. ur fiancee ust needs a little bit of reassurance. imagine that u were planning the wedding and u wanted everything to be perfect but u didn't know what she wants exactly. rn't u gonna be stresses out too? there r many little details that she needs to decide on and there are hundreds of options for all of them. i would propse to just sit down with her one day and decide on what kind of wedding u kinda want and then tell her that she can do everything else the way she wants it. when she asks u to choce between 2 things, chose one. if she doesn't agree, she will do what she wants anyways. and get someone to help her with planning the whole event, a wedding planner, her or ur mom.
good luck

Answer 7

You are right when you say this is her day. I do not know too many men who dream of the tux they will wear on their wedding day. I understand how you feel, but try to give her some support. It is overwhelming for her too. Tell her you want to help with the decisions, but you would like to move slower or get a better understanding of what all of the preparations mean...Good luck

Answer 8

I am going through this with my fiance. At first i was offended that he wasn't more into the wedding planning. Really though, the marriage is the important part. He really wants to ne my husband, like you he doesn't care how we get there. It's not harsh, as long as you are excited about the end result. The actual wedding itself is more of a girl thing. Kind of like how most girls don't follow football but look forward to the superbowl! Get it?

Answer 9

You seem so honest and clear minded, I think that you could answer your own question. It is obvious that you are feeling guilty about something about the wedding. Just try to make it right. As badly as you want to marry her, she has been probably wanting this day since she was a little girl. Stand up to your end of the bargain...make her the happiest person you think she deserves to be. Good luck.

Answer 10

i agree w/ u but if u don't put in any input (or @ least try 2) she may think that u r not wanting 2 get married or that ur not as excitied, so continue 2 support her ideas(if u like them) and if u have an opinion put it out there (wheither she listens or not) girls dream about their weddings all their life so just have fun w/ it and try your hardest 2 make the best of it 4 not only her but 4 u 2!