don't get me wrong. I haven't done ANYTHING at all to these girls, yet they don't want to get along with me? why is that?
2006-08-20 14:24:34 · 27 answers · asked by Queen of Halloween 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
oh yeah, i forgot to mention I AM hella lightskinned. but that shouldn't matter tho.
2006-08-20 14:39:00 · update #1
answer nicely please. i did not ask this question to get dumb answers, i'm just curious as to what anyone else thinks. if you're going to answer intelligently, thank you. if u choose to give stupid, idiotic answers, well flush 'em.
2006-08-20 14:47:03 · update #2
and FYI i don't have a 'high-and-mighty' attitude like some people, and i cant help it if i'm light-skinned......
2006-08-26 13:38:26 · update #3
It's all about intimidation I think. Maybe there's something about you they see as threatening. For some reason darker-skinned women have always seem to have a problem with light-skinned women. I don't have a problem with anyone who is nice to me. I had a lot of problems making friends because I'm from Indiana but I live in Georgia so I talk different. I don't try to be better than anyone else but I was taught to speak a certain way. Of course I was accused of trying to talk like a white girl. People are just like that. Be you, that's all you can do and screw anyone who can't accept you for who you are. That's what's wrong with the world now, people need to learn how to accept each other.
2006-08-26 13:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not every white girl wants to be friends with every other white girl either. What makes you think that race has anything to do with it?
I presume you're young, high school or maybe younger, but in your teens so many other, often shallow reasons dictate who someone will hang with or not. How you look, dress, talk, whether or not you get good grades, or your rep can all impact what someone who really doesn't know you thinks.
I wouldn't sweat it though. Anyone that is going to decide NOT to get to know you, before they've given you a chance is screwing themselves over because they just don't know if you'd be a great friend or not.
So consider it their loss and move on by...there will always be other people to befriend.
Oh..and this can be an issue, girls can be petty and competitive well into their 20's (and some never outgrow it). They will often shun any girl they think might be competition for boys, or in the workplace (as you get older). Again..all you can do is ignore them and be yourself. Just be sure you don't give them anything they can use against you, because they will.
This gets better with age though.
2006-08-20 14:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it may be jealousy. I have the same problem. No matter how nice I am, Black girls never truly like me. And in my work place, the young white girls don't really like me either. I have done nothing to anyone except greet them nicely and act respectfully. Believe me, when someone dislikes you for no reason. The only answer could be jealousy or some sort of prejudicial thinking.
2006-08-21 15:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by Do_As_Infinity 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I'd like to apologize for any idiotic answers or suggestions you might get because I saw that you got some already, and the most I can say is this, just be yourself, don't go out of your way to please anybody or make anybody happy because in the end if they don't like you for who you are then they are not your real friends, there are plenty of people in the world to make friends with, it doesn't nessecarily have to be those particular girls, I am 34 years old and I can honestly say I am thankful because I know I have at least 5 real friends that I know of, the ammount of friends that you have is unimportant, first off you need to start with being able to like who you are and being comfortable with yourself, it's the quality and the integrity of the friends that you have that matters, best of luck to you
2006-08-20 14:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that you are prettier then them and you get attention from guys. Girls, no matter what color, are jealous by nature. And it sounds like you are still in school, so it's going to be far worse. Some of them will eventually grow up, but some won't. Find some girls that are nice and be friends with them. It doesn't matter what color, friends are friends.
2006-08-20 14:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by Good Gushy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the exact same problem.One of them approached me once and told me to stop acting so high and mighty. She thought I was thinking I was better than all the other Black girls.
Maybe ,perhaps, they don't approve of the way you act,speak,or dress.But that's okay.You can either continue trying to befriend them or move on.
2006-08-22 10:54:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lycrester 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sure can relate I look everything but black, my moms black and my dad is Irish,german,black and other stuff. My brother and sister are browned skinned and Im very light just like my avatar.
Find your own click of people since black girls don't want to befriend you. Don't mind them they just envy you. Don't waste your time on people like that.
2006-08-20 14:58:14 · answer #7 · answered by FES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of being on here asking us; how about going straight to the source and asking the girls whom u claim don't like you. Sometimes the very things that we feel make others dislike us are the same things that really make us dislike them; in other words you'll probably find that just like you're uncomfortable with these girls, they may also be uncomfortable with you......Try asking them and see what their responses are....best wishes.....
2006-08-20 14:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem too! Alot of black girls don't wanna be my friends, becuz they say i talk like a white girl! so they think that becuz i have good speech, than i'm not down and i don't know whats hip or whatever. I'm not sure about the whole fair-skin sh**, but i don't trip off of skin color! No offense but alot of fair-skinned girls are Bi***s, maybe you come off as that way. I have met alot of fair-skinned blk girls who thought they where better than girls my skin color, but than again i can't say that you are that way for i don't know you hun! To me we come in all beautiful shades of brown.......we should love each other!
2006-08-25 22:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by MYPHARRELL 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter that is light skinned. She has never had any trouble making friends. Maybe it's your attitude. The "I am light so I'm better than you" attitude.
2006-08-26 07:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by robee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋