Can someone please tell me why my husband allways tell me he is too tired for sex. Hello?! It only takes him 5 minutes, so what is 5 minutes out of his "busy" schedule. P.S. I know he isn't cheating
2006-08-20 14:24:13 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well here is another part to the story, he doesn't like oral sex! Giving or receiving!!! What man doen't like a BJ?! He tells me to get a boyfriend, then when I asked him whjat he would do or how it would affect our relationship, he says it will "kill" it. Well i thin with no sex, that pretty much kills it!!!!
2006-08-20 14:35:26 · update #1
He is a police officer and he does work A LOT! He also says i want sex too much. I don't have an incredibably high sex drive, but geez, I want it more than once a month!!
2006-08-20 14:41:37 · update #2
Could be he is actually "too tired"...and mentally "too tired"...minutes may have nothing to do w/ it. Try to have some time together w/ no sexual expectations....take a shower....smell good, be smooth and soft...and assume the "snuggle" position and don't ask or request and be quiet and gentle...you'd be surprised what turn around you might get?
I have been married for 22 years....and have learned thru the power of the Lord, and prayer and quiet time..how to learn the needs of my family and to try to put them first....sometimes it's hard when you feel denied....but the rewards are great when you can get into a place of prayer and ask the Lord to show you what you can do for your family to meet their needs and bring your family closer together....
Best of everything....
2006-08-20 14:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by diane b 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He obviously doesn't want tom have sex with you for some reason. Either he's having erection problems(due to stress or illness), or he really is too tired from being over worked, or he is having an affair (I thought my ex was being faithful too. Swore up and down he was true blue...when he turned out to be a lying cheat) Has his libido changed over the time you've been together (is this a recent problem) Some people just have different sexual needs. TALK to him-But not when you want sex. Some other time when he won't feel threatened, while you're both working on a project together. Ask him if there is a problem and if you can help. If he refuses to talk to you and keeps pushing you away, I would start taking stock of his schedule and any other changes. Better prepared than not. I hope for your sake it's something simple and Innocent. But please don't close your eyes to signs now or in the future. Best of luck.
2006-08-20 14:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by ShellRe' 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How could you not have known this before you married him? Of course you deserve sex more than once a month. As for not wanting to give or receive oral sex.....that is fuc*ed up. I couldn't be married to a man that didn't want to pleasure me orally, and I would think something is wrong with him if he doesn't want even a BJ. He can't be gay because he wouldn't object to a bj. I hate to say it but cops are notorious for being cheaters. Maybe he has something on the side. Would he be willing to go to a marriage counselor? I don't see how you can possibly make this work under these circumstances. If the sexual relationship is this messed up in a marriage, its going to be an uphill climb all the way.
2006-08-20 15:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When a guy doesn't want to have sex with a girl, or even get a BJ, then that means he has totally disconnected himself from you emotionally. There could be a hundred reasons why this has occured, but you need to see a marriage counselor (ASAP). No husband who is in love with you would ever tell you to go get a boyfriend. Your not wrong to want to have sex more then once a month. If you were in a healthy relationship you should be having sex on average 3 times a week.
2006-08-20 15:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five minutes is NOT long enough to satisfy anyone, even once a month. Since he says he's not cheating, it must be something else.
I have no idea what that could be; you know him better than we do, so you have to be the detective now. Are your instincts telling you anything? If they are, can you afford a private detective to follow him? What about that show "Cheaters"? Can you contact them? Maybe they can help you. Good luck.
2006-08-26 09:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to sound mean i THINK he is just not into you or the relationship. I had a guy b/f who over time was just less and less interested in being sexual we broke up 2 months after it became clear he was not into the relationship. He was not cheating "that i know of". A guy who is involved loves you and is intreasted will WANT SEX. My hubby now is always ready we've been together a long time my kids are 10 and 8 i'm 21 weeks pregnant. The guy who lose intreast in sex with me said he still liked me still found me attractive his actions were LOUDER THEN WORDS.
2006-08-20 14:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is the condition of his general health? Has he had a checkup lately? He needs to get some lab work done because at one point I was in the same condition. I had high blood pressure, high cholesterol and high triglycerides. All of these problems caused my sexual appetite to diminish. Once I was put on medication and brought everything down to satisfactory levels my sexual desire became much better
2006-08-20 14:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by Gary D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop "asking" or suggesting sex to him. Wait him out; let him suggest it next time. You will soon be able to tell if he is interested at all.
There could be something physically or mentally wrong with him, but it sounds as if he may enjoy having you "ask" and then turning you down. Don't let him get away with this.
2006-08-26 02:30:35 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard one. cuz yea, having a sex buddy wud giv u instant satisfaction, but ya gotta really search ur soul b4hand and make sure the guilt wont stop ya. guilt sux, and it easily can destrory ur life.
i luv sex too, and i wish it cud be with the variety of women as wen i was single. but its not, i made decision to get married. will i ever stray for that variety? i dont wanna, but it'd have to be the perfect scenario and guilt cant play a factor.
i hear ya girl. gud luk.
2006-08-23 07:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by mex-o-funk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is how I acted with my ex. I didnt want much to do with her because I didnt feel attracted to her anymore. There was another women at the end of the relationship( 3 days before we seperated) but the damage was already done from all the fighting and argueing in the past. We just grew apart
2006-08-20 14:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by noname 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋