2006-08-20 14:12:19 · 62 answers · asked by Valerie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is EXACTLY who you should marry if you are both in love with one another.
This is your best friend ( your life partner should always be your best friend in life)
This person knows you inside and out, knows all your faults and all your good points.( Is not going to be in for a lot of surprises)
Evidently yall have a lot of the same goals in life, have a lot of things in common.
So I would say YES, YES, YES ......as long as you are BOTH in love with each other as well as being best friends.
2006-08-28 14:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one....do you take the chance for possibly the best relationship of a lifetime with the chance that if it goes south, then lose the best friend of a lifetime????
Every good marriage I've ever known has always been built on a very deep friendship.
My advise: just make sure that the love you feel for this person is not a deep friendhip love but the passionate kind. I've had friends that I've been intimate with but I knew I never wanted to marry them...even though they were great people. Don't marry because you're tired of looking and you can 'settle' for this person because they are convenient and comfortable. That would not be fair to either of you...especially if it doesn't work out. Friendships (really good ones) are very hard to find and they are even better when they are your mate.
If you opt to try a serious relationship and want to move toward marriage, ease into it carefully....you could lose your best friend and a mate all in one move and that would be so very sad. I hope you find what you're looking for.....
2006-08-28 10:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by N W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first question would be: How old are you? The second: Have you dated anyone else in your life?
The suggestion to live with each other is a bit misdirected. Living together cheapens a relationship and breaks down the respect that a man generally has for woman. If someone is so special to you that you would want to live with them and share your life, why not marriage?
I think marrying your best friend is the best person you could marry. Who else knows you better than anyone? Also, when times get tough (and they will - that's a promise) who better to stand by you than your best friend.
Our culture today cheapens the value of marriage and treats it as a take it until it doesn't suit you any more, then throw it away situation. Unfortunately, that couldn't be farther from what it needs to be. If children are involved, generations are effected by the results of such harsh decisions. Trust me, I am a result of a divorce 40yr ago.
There is nothing wrong with marrying your best friend! I think it is really cool. Just make sure you are ready to make the life long commitment.
2006-08-20 14:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by bees_4_u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not one of those crazy deals you make with your best friend at school, is it???
You know, the one where you both agree that if neither of you are married by the age of 35, you'll marry each other...
It sounds like you're not completely sure, just by the fact that you're even asking this question. With a divorce rate of 50%, I'd say we ALL need to take our time, and be as sure as we can before we make such a massive leap of faith. You have a lot to lose, so take your time, and most of all, be honest with yourself.
I was in a similar situation once, when I was young, although it didn't involve marriage thankfully, but I found myself being coerced into the situation by him, and also well meaning members of our families. Because so many people seemed to think it was a great idea, I began to second guess myself, and push aside my doubts. I ended up going ahead with the relationship, but it didn't work out, leaving him broken hearted, and me disillusioned and confused. Luckily though, we were able to get over it and remain friends, thank heavens...
2006-08-28 01:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by SierraSydney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? if you know the true meaning of marriage and you are willing to be his wife then why not? He is your best friend for years and both of you know each other well. Go ahead, it is a wise decision. Good luck.
I don't agree with the opinions expressed by some people here that you should date another guy and then decide. No don't do it.
Follow your instinct. You are lucky. Now be wise and happy. Your best friend can be your husband. Nothing wrong with that. It is a natural progress of your relationship. Be sure you are mature enough to decide.
2006-08-26 08:04:27 · answer #5 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the very best of marriages, the spouse is the best friend, so maybe you have a head start, which can only be good if everything else is there. If you are settling because nothing better has came along, you are doing both you and them a big disservice. Do you have physical desire, mutual goals, respect, common interests? Look into and frankly discuss this. I think discussion before marriage will save at least a solid month of argument for every hour you spend. I wish you both happiness, whatever your decision.
2006-08-28 11:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by choo-Choos Mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that. Are you compatible? Do you love each other enough to get through the tough stuff? Are you thinking about marrying your best friend just because you known each other so long?
As with any other dating and/or marriage relationship, make sure the motives are pure and right. If so, I'd say absolutely! Go for it!
2006-08-28 11:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by Madeamove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is, you were friends first and layed a good foundation, also, as long as you are in love with him, why not. You already love him as a friend, and you both know each other very well. If you are afraid that getting married might ruin the friendship, then you need to discuss this with him. How do we know unless we try. If you are aprehensive, then wait a while until you are 100% sure either way.Good Luck
2006-08-26 20:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by bootaboutit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you two know each other so well i presume, marrying the person wont be harmful. For starters, you have known each other long enough to know the person's weaknesses and strengths, so you would be able to tackle trials during marriage..but you must understand that marriage life is not an easy road, there'll be ups and downs, not perfect but you will survive.
2006-08-28 13:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine did that. They were friends all through grade school and into high school and there seemed nothing more to do than to get married. My friend told me the marriage was boring and they divorced after 15 years.
My friend and you are different people. You know what you should and shouldn't do. Follow your heart.
2006-08-20 14:28:27 · answer #10 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋