Lets say you like your secretary but havn't even kissed her, well, you get to know her real well and then finally propose her(you are married!) You tell your secretary the whole truth and after all that, you divorce your wife. This way, you havn't betrayed your wife b/c you didn't even kiss the other girl and you just happen to like someone else. Completely logical. Is there something wrong w/ that?
2006-08-20 14:01:39 · 14 answers · asked by LLLL O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage is a life long commitment. Pure and simple.
Matthew 19:6 (KJV)
6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
2006-08-20 14:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by extremelyradicalman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong. Divorce itself is wrong. In too many cases, people who should never get married do so before even understanding what they are getting into.
Fewer and fewer people realize what marriage is. It is a vow before God to hold one person forever. It's sad that so many people enter into marriages thinking that it would not be a big deal to divorce if they don't like how things work out (especially when children are involved).
Any by the way, divorcing your wife just because you found someone "better" is still a betrayal. You are betraying the vows you took.
2006-08-20 14:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by i1patrick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's wrong. Biblicly you are coveting, which takes place in the mind. What you did is no better than if you had slept with her. You took those emotions ment only for your wife and directed them to your secretary. And proposing before you are even divorced is the BIG no-no. At least you had the guts to follow through and leave your wife...and that is the only good thing that you did...so stop patting yourself on the back...you didn't find a loophole.
2006-08-20 14:10:19 · answer #3 · answered by Rabbit Ritto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes there is is something wrong w/ this. The bible explains that if a man looks at a woman w/ lust he has commited adultry w/ her in his heart....(paraprasing) .....bottom line...his commitment was already to his wife to whom he took vows w/ already to...love and cherish...in sickness and in health...and lets throw in a few for fun!... in sexyness and sagyness, in playfulness and boredom, in beauty and ugliness....get the picture? Life has a way of happening...to us all...things don't always stay vivacious and exciting 24/7 ....365....for endless years...so, if he divorced his wife and took his secretary...how long until #3 comes along? How can she rest in the comfort of knowing her husband will be happy and content w/ her...knowing what he did w/ wife #2? "out w/ the old, in w/ the new"?
The Lord knows our heart and our humanity and weakness...he gave us so many proverbs to guide us and letting us know about the fading external beauty of a woman...but God lets us know what is really important....the integrity of a woman...the inside beauty. How she takes care of her husband, and her children. How she is kind and loving of others. How she is a mentor to younger woman....and on and on. There is much to be said...and learned....Take a peak at Proverbs 31....God's perfect woman...Best of everything
2006-08-20 14:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by diane b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong w/that, what's wrong is that you aren't ready to be in a serious relationship. Spend some time alone, don't let your secretary move in with you either. And see other people, let her know you aren't ready for a relationship ( unless you've already confessed your every desire) then you are doomed.
2006-08-20 14:21:59 · answer #5 · answered by bittersweet_symphon_y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am not sure what it is your asking? are you looking for people to say yes so you wont have quality feelings. if you are not in love with your wife and you are sure it is over and you have talked to her about it tried everything to fix the marriage. then what is the problem with moving on. and if your asking if you have betrayed any one yes you have betrayed all first by keeping every thing to your self and having feelings for another.
2006-08-20 14:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by just gussing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still cheated on your wife. You willfully involved yourself in an emotional relationship, taking feelings and confidences and emotion that belonged between you and your wife and used them with another woman.
You did betray your wife, in your thoughts and in your heart.
2006-08-20 14:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WRONG! You think because it's logical in your mind it's ok? Dude, women think with emotion and from the descrip. you are unfaithful in heart and emotion if not in body, to a woman that's the same thing.
2006-08-20 14:09:34 · answer #8 · answered by Cyn R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is the element. maximum persons marry in hopes of having toddlers faster or later. Its our spouses attributes that attracted us to that individual contained in the first position, in hopes we are going to be making toddlers which will percentage those similar attributes. i'd not divorce someone over infertility if there became a answer mutually with IVF. even with if we couldn't have the funds for it right now away, i'd placed money aside to substantiate i am going to have the funds for it in some unspecified time sooner or later. even with the undeniable fact that, if my husband stated he did not desire IVF, i'd say "FU*CK YOU!" i extremely imagine the ttc killed their spirits. i imagine there became an excellent type of rigidity, combating, blaming etc, which could have drove them aside causing the divorce. i don't believe of she stated "you could not knock me up, its over". Its the infertility issues that led to different topics of their marriage that ultimately drove her over the aspect.
2016-11-30 21:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by rearic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds logical to me.
but........u did fancy someone while u were with your wife, so it's a little shaky there.
but then again....u didnt screw around behind your wife's back. so kudos to u for that.
either way, as long as your happy. that's what counts.
2006-08-20 14:07:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋