why are you seen as a "gold digger" just because you want someone who is independent and ambitious?

Question

Why should you work hard and struggle especially if you are from a working class background, and then be slated just because you would like your partner to be hardworking, ambitious and have some financial stability too?

Answer 1

as long as you are independent and ambitious yourself, OF COURSE YOU ARE NOT A GOLD DIGGER. insecure men say things like that because so many of them are not independent. It is fair that you get back what you offer

Answer 2

I don't get it either. One of my 'rules' when I was looking for a guy to be with was a job. I think that it's important for people to be able to contribute to the relationship. I don't think that's being a gold digger. I think being a gold digger is someone who doesn't want to work and looks for someone to take care of them without expecting to give anything back. That person has the other buy them everything and doesn't lift a finger to help out one bit. That's what I always thought a gold digger was.

Answer 3

Guys call woman who want a strong hard working man a gold digger because they want to be off the hook. They no longer want to work hard to support their significant other and/or children like their father and grandfather and great grandfather did.

Woman call woman gold diggers because they are woman without a hardworking man that see the said 'gold digger' getting their needs met and they, for lack of better words: HATE!

Answer 4

Why? Because who ever said that was ignorant. If you work hard and have your own money, that's not being a gold digger. A gold-digger is someone who hooks up with another just for money. They don't have their own jobs, money and are usually dependent on the other person to provide everything for them.

Answer 5

To me a "gold digger" is someone who doesn't want to work at all and wants to live off of someone else's gain.

If you are hard working and ambitious, there's no reason why you might want someone like yourself as a partner. I see nothing wrong with that.

Answer 6

To me what your saying does not qualify as a gold digger. gold diggers strictly date and look for meal tickets. They dont want to work just as hard as there mate.....they want to be provided for. They are usually shallow people that date people that can buy and provide financially the things that they want.

Answer 7

Gold digger's are people who would never try to be "independent and ambitious" they'd feel someone else was entitled to do that for them.

Answer 8

WELL, FIRST OF ALL, I THINK THAT MEN WHO SAY THAT ARE VERY SHALLOW-MINDED, SIMPLY BECAUSE, IF WE OFFERED TO ALLOW THEM TO STAY AT HOME EVERYDAY AND WE PAID THE MORTGAGE, THE UTILITIES, THE CAR NOTE AND GROCERY BILLS, I DOUBT IF HE WOULD SAY THAT WE WERE GOLD-DIGGERS! YOU KNOW WHAT HE'D SAY TO HIS BOYS..."MAN, I GOT A GOOD WOMAN, THAT REALLY KNOWS HOW TO TAKE CARE OF HER MAN!" GIVE ME A BREAK...AND OH, BY THE WAY, HE WOULDN'T TELL YOU "NO, THANK YOU" IF YOU OFFERED TO DO ALL OF THOSE THINGS, SO HE COULD CALL ME A GOLD DIGGER, A GRAVE DIGGER OR WHATEVER KIND OF DIGGER HE WANTED TO, IT WOULDN'T MAKE A DIFFERENCE. WHAT I DO KNOW IS THAT I NEED SOMEONE WHO IS EQUALLY COMPATIBLE IN ALL AREAS INCLUDING, FINANCIALLY, SPIRITUALLY, EMOTIONALLY, AND PHYSICALLY...THAT'S IT AND THAT'S ALL!!!

Answer 9

That isn't a golddigger in my book, it's the ones who marry only for money, no feelings, and then instead of being a partner and contributing to the relationship just spend spend spend

Answer 10

To me, that is not gold digging, it is just good common sense. It is gold digging when one person seeks to marry another because of the money--the money as the prime focus. My stepmother used marriage like a grave looter uses a crowbar, to steal everything my family ever owned, and to give it to her worthless sack of sheet drug addict daughter. THAT is gold digging!