Has anyone else told their lover they are bad. Am I being too mean?

Question

I am married and my husband is the worst in bed. I even..?
tell him out of the 22 guys I've slept with he is the worst. I don't mean say the worrible things and feel terrible after I tell him mean things.

While we were having sex last night I made him stop and told him I'll finish this myself. He started crying. He is the WORST LOVER EVER.

Answer 1

No you are the worst lover for him. What ever happened to being open and talking. Can't you show him what makes you feel good? Tell him where to touch you? And so on........Poor guy.

Answer 2

22 guys and he's the worst? What did you do, decide to make him wait until marriage in some ploy to regain your respectability.
How could you have married him with your attitude? You told him to stop! You are lucky he's sensitive and cried, because that would have caused a more violent reaction with most guys, including a toss into the front yard. If he is the worst its because you apparently have no concept of asking for what you want in a civilized manner. Given that your comment was so demeaning
you are probably getting what you deserve.

Answer 3

Well, if you really love him and he loves you it seems as though there should be a better way. I have said the same thing if not worse to a certain individual and rightfully so different circumstance, this person doesn't know how to stop when no has been said 3 or 4 times. In Your situation, talking through this may work for you, tell him what you want him to do.

Answer 4

You telling him he's a lousy lover isn't going to help him be better that's for sure. Can you train him (teach him) to be better by showing him how you like to be touched, what feels good, what doesn't? What about him makes him the worst lover ever?

Answer 5

you are very mean................. how can you expect him to do any better when you are putting him down all the time, and i wouldn't be proud of the fact that you have been with 22 men, that seems slutty. If he is so bad in bed then help direct him to what you want. Don't put him down, what if he said to you "your to loose it may have something to do with the 21 men before me?" Would you like that? think about the things that you say before you say them, i feel sorry for your husband

Answer 6

Let me guess you were fusterated - he obiviously loves you a lot or he wouldn't have cried. I agree with everyone else - that was harsh what you said. My husband's foreplay methods stink but I knew that beforehand so we talk about what we need from each other. He asks what I need him to do - I tell him, I show him and we get ideas from the internet. I think it is your turn to make him feel better - show him what to do - or how about some oral sex.

Answer 7

He may not be the best lover to you but if you keep treating him the way you are he won't be a lover to you at all and probably not a husband either.
What makes you so great that you can judge him.

Answer 8

just think if the shoe was on the other foot would you want him to come out so nasty or would you want him to tell you how to fix the problem its not allways so important to be sreaming jumping off the bed acting a fool a nut is a nut.so what help the poor guy out and help him pleasure you it couldnt hurt . be alittle patient with the guy he is trying you choose him remember so work with what you have

Answer 9

If he's crying, then you're probably a little too mean for him. That's kind of funny though. How about this, instead of crticism, show him exactly what you want him to do. Take a little bit of a teaching role. If he can't follow directions, then you might have a problem. Everyone likes something different.

Answer 10

I'm pretty sure this makes you the worst lover ever.