my husband and I have been together for 12 years about a year ago I lead on someone else cause my family and husband try all they could to keep us apart, so i confined in someone else we didn't have sex we just talk and go out to eat twice the affair last for 1month and a half after my husband saw him laying beside me and he assume we have sex and my husband got the other guy number and told his wife what happen and then they started communicate and she try everything to break us up and finally she did she told him her husband told her he had sex with me. So to top everything off after 8 month my hubby started dating someone at his workplace but he lied to the young lady and they have been on and off since then, but now he is in a relationship with her because he said he can't get it out his mind that I cheated on him and he feel that I'm not telling the whole truth about the affair. My hubby cheated numbers of time (having sex) We have 3 kids and now he talkin about DIVORCING ME
2006-08-20 13:45:27 · 8 answers · asked by Jennifer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce HIM!
p.s. you both sound like amoral slime buckets. I Wonder how your kids will turn out?
2006-08-20 13:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to start the divorce proceedings first. Believe me, I know from experience and I hope that your husband will not be able to bring proof of this guy you were talking about to court otherwise you could lose everything. Do you have any proof that you can bring to court about his cheating? Another thing is to learn as much as you can about the laws in your state about divorce and child custody. My ex husband cheated on me with my sister and another person. (not at the same time) I did not find out until after the divorce. He got everything in the divorce except the youngest child but that was because she was a baby and he could not raise her but he got the other two older children. All because I had an idiot lawyer and didn't know anything myself. You and the kids will be better off in the long run. I know it don't seem like it now but you will see. Good Luck to you..
2006-08-20 13:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by sadeyes99_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all don't stay together for the kids. that is the wrong way about it. you and your husband need to get on the same page. both of you guys must be honest or the 12 yrs are a waste. the answer must be in both hearts. HONESTY is the first start. then you and him must answer the question do we love one another.
2006-08-20 14:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by wayne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I saw my wife of 12 years laying beside another man divorce would be the least of her (or his) worries. Good grief, you should LEAN on your husband and CONFIDE in your husband.
2006-08-20 14:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not going to believe you no matter what you say. Maybe if you were honest in the first place this wouldn't be happening. The time has come for you to move on. Good luck and the best to you and your family.
2006-08-20 13:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before he can get over the affair, he needs to get all the truth.
Give him all the dates & times...the conversations, attractions & cricumstances.
Back everything up with facts...phone bills, emails, texts. Get the guy & his wife to back you up.
If he feels you've come totally clean, he will be able to put it behind you.
2006-08-20 13:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by hellsbells 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What exactly is worth saving here?
Does not seem like much of a marrige to save.
2006-08-20 13:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by rjm96 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kick his *** out,and to the curb, once a cheatter always a cheatter.
2006-08-20 14:11:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋