I have often heard that romance is a small part of marriage and the rest of it is work. What is it that is involved when it comes to the work part of being married? When I get married what can I expect to "work" on and what can I expect to be responsible for when it comes to my part in the relationship?
2006-08-20 13:33:51 · 13 answers · asked by Joe K 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to much work its not worth it DONT DO IT MAN
2006-08-20 13:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by tattoo282001 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
There's the physical work of taking care of things instead of running and having fun. Like housekeeping, maintenance stuff, car stuff, etc. and then there's the overlooking stuff that drives you bonkers... my pet peeve is the dirty socks on the floor. Picking your fights and being able to resolve issues. Consulting each other before major purchases. Conflict can be a bad thing and can drive a heck of a wedge in a relationship. Communication is key. Also spending time together is important and spending time away from each other can be a blessing. It is work to keep things in harmony. You must possess skills to do that. Also sex -when, where, and how. Can lead to lots of resentment if you are selfish and think only of your own needs. This is a huge question with no definite answer.
2006-08-20 13:49:21 · answer #2 · answered by b's wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"work" meaning that marriage is not all happy go lucky......
In a marriage you have to be willing to not always "win" the fight. You may not get the car you want because your spouse may need a car before you. You may not want to go to the in-laws house for the holidays. You may want to spend time with just "the guys." Marriage takes compromise, communication, and trust, along with other things, but often these things take "work" You may not want to compromise, but in a marriage it is a must at times, you may not want to talk, but in a marriage communication is very important, and trust is something that has to be built and not broken.
2006-08-20 13:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromise and a lot of give and take. Working through the gray periods and the difficult times. Being willing to put your spouse's needs ahead of your own at times, and vice versa. Not keeping score of who does more/gives more in the day to day living like chores, paying bills, raising children, dealing with elderly parents when they are ill. Agreeing to disagree on certain issues that you don't see eye to eye on. Learning to endure what can't be mended, if you are truly committed to the relationship.Nurturing the relationship.
2006-08-20 13:54:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATION is #1. And that in it self is alot of work. Respect, honesty, trust, compaction and most of all forgiveness. Sometimes people get their feeling hurt or hurt others without even knowing that they did. These are a few that both people need to work on. Once you have them worked out you will be a very happy couple. But like I said it is alot of work but don't give up. Good luck.
2006-08-20 13:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the work you are speaking of is the work involved in really knowing your spouse. You must be willing to understand your spouse in such areas as emotions, her needs, her fears, her desires her likes and dislikes. You must work on a relationship to keep it running smooth in times of arguements, financial difficulties and other problems couples may face. You must "work" on keeping the relationship alive and "growing" in the loving strength it is supposed to have.
Your part is sharing, caring and communication with your spouse.
2006-08-20 17:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by Tweek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromise, mainly. Alot of things. Learning to communicate, learning to put the other person first but at the same time making sure you're honest to yourself and how you're feeling. And, of course, getting used to the fact that you're married which means no messing around with anyone else. But, if you marry the right person, it shouldn't be a problem. Alot of things. No one can teach it to you. It's something you learn as you go along. But always make sure to show the person every day that you love them.
2006-08-20 13:41:57 · answer #7 · answered by RollTide 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because life is mostly work.
If lucky it includes romance.
Work at being the best you AND accepting the parts you find you don't like(no one is perfect except me) about your partner is REALLY work.
Marriage used to be easier when people did not live as long! Only kidding- I think!
2006-08-20 13:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by uncledad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it is too early to tell what the "work" involved is. Things like that come to you in time and the only way to know what the things are and when you need to work on them are when she lets you know it is time. Trust me, you will know.
2006-08-20 21:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to still be romantic, take your wife out sometimes etc. etc. even though you don't feel like you "have to," like when you were dating.... It is 'work' for guys to be warm and cuddly as well as thoughtful... don't wait for your wife to ask you to go out -
2006-08-20 14:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by Mishy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love, respect, commintment, acceptance of who they are
2006-08-20 13:40:36 · answer #11 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋