is this prejudice?

Question

i'm medium-skinned black and i'm afraid to date or marry a dark-skinned guy because i don't want dark kids.

Answer 1

sounds like it

Answer 2

Why would you be upset to have dark kids? Just because you are light and the daddy is light the baby can become darker than both of you from grandparents genes etc?

Marry a man you love and be blessed that you are able to have children, whatever skin tone god decides to bless you with.

Answer 3

I don't know if it's prejudice but it sounds like self-centered fear.

Actually, if you think about it, its a good deal for dark skinned blacks. Because the only people who will date them are open-minded blacks that can see past color and love them for their character, not their skin color.

That's the type of person I'd want to raise kids with than someone like you.

Cheers!

Answer 4

A lot of people like to throw that "racist" card in at you, but it's not prejudiced. The word prejudiced is a word with the prefix "pre" before it, meaning a judgement BEFORE a thought. You sound like you've simply decided what you like and don't like in skin color for your kids, and that's as much a freedom of choice as anything I've ever seen, so, go for it free of some guilt trip some people would like to put on you. God Bless you.

Answer 5

I don't think so. You're not going to be attracted to everyone. That's okay. Don't let anybody make you feel bad because of it. I have bright red hair and many men have told me they don't want kids with my red hair (back in my dating days). Some girls won't give one of my sons a 2nd look because of his red hair as well. So you don't like dark skinned men, so what. I think you just need to ignore everybody else's judgemental and harsh answars. You are who you are. And that is perfectly fine.

Answer 6

if you choose to not want something in life because of the color of someone then you are prejudiced, just because your the same colour as the colour that you dislike doesn't get you off being prejudiced against something..sorry..i have thought about this too myself .that if your dark and you put down another dark person then are you a racist??and the answer is yes you are you are still discriminating.

Answer 7

yes, it does. it also makes you a possible bad mother. so, what if you get knocked up by the whitest, palest peson in the world- but your kid comes out black as coal. then what? are you not going to love your child the same b/c its dark skinned?!? you need to be whooped, and so do your parents for allowing you to be so ignorant. you disgust me. kudos to you for having the balls to ask, but, you're a disgrace to the black ethnicity nonetheless

Answer 8

The Paper Bag Test
Author Marita Golden Tackles the Color Complex
Issue date: 2/28/06 Section: Black History Month
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The issue of color among people in the African diaspora is something most blacks have had some contact with; whether it was during a game of dirty dozens at recess, listening to relatives recall the curious selection policies of their fraternity or sorority during their HBCU heyday or having to listen to elders comment about the color of a boyfriend or girlfriend. Before the days of slavery and in the days afterward, colorism remained a daily complex of the black race.

Author Marita Golden, president and co-founder of the Hurston/Wright Foundation, probes this issue by exploring its myths and truths, as well as including her own experiences with colorism in the workplace, literature and Hollywood, in her book Don't Play in the Sun. She recently sat down to talk to Hilltop contributing writer Abdul Ali.



AA: Prior to reading your book, I had never heard of the term "Colorism", can you define it?

MG: I define colorism as the belief in the superiority of light skin over darker skin and an adherence to the belief that, as a result of skin color, lighter skinned people are superior to darker skinned people in everything from appearance to intelligence.



AA: Why do you think Colorism is still a reality in our culture?

MG: In my research I discovered that the wounds of colorism are very deep and persist to the present. The roots of it in America are in the system of slavery which divided Black people in so many ways and especially along the color line. It was important for me to include not only the history of colorism but the voices of people who live with the effects of this form of prejudice and discrimination that we inflict on ourselves, with the help of the larger society.



AA: Why do you suppose Colorism is such a difficult topic for black folks to discuss?

MG: Well, that's because it is a hard topic. It induces a great deal of shame. It's far easier to talk about what white people have done, than what we do to one another.

Answer 9

I am Irish Anglo American, so I do not know the answer. When I was young, I would not have married an unattractive man, because I did not want funny looking children. You have the right to choose your mate anyway you want to.

Answer 10

No you're not prejudiced but weird. So you gonna marry a Chinese or Japanese so that your kids will be whitish black or you gonna marry a white skinned fella to get some greyish mix?

Answer 11

Yeah, it is. But it's very common. At least you recognize it. We've been conditioned to think there's a such thing as "too dark" and that being dark means you're not as attractive, smart, trustworthy and don't posses myriad other important qualities.

We're all products of our environment.