if u were a victim of something drastic in ur life such as....rape,how do u get over the situation and learn 2 love some1that loves u 4u(i needd help)
2006-08-20 13:14:50 · 23 answers · asked by Chrisy F 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
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2006-08-20 16:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Emily S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always sad to hear about the drastic things that happen in lives. Unfortunately bad things do happen to good people.
A way for a victim to get help is to see a counsellor. Checking the local yellow pages for a elephone number under the "Women's Orginizations" and there should be a rape crisis line listed.
Finding someone to talk to about the situation is a good way to start healing.
2006-08-20 13:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, I can speak from experience on this. I was raped when I was 20 years old. I had to see a mental health specialist and a psychiatrist at the same time. I suffered from post traumatic stress disorder. I took anti-depressants because I was so depressed. After I finished counseling I decided that I needed to stay away from the male species for awhile. I didn't date for over 2 years. Then I met this guy at my work and we went out and I learned how to have fun again...through him I met his best friend who is now my husband of over 6 years. My husband loves me and makes me feel safe. You learn to make what happened to you a part of your life and move on. I still have some fears of places that are secluded...and I feel that if I look too nice that I will attract unwanted attention to myself. I am very reserved unless I am with my husband. I am happy with my family and they support me...my kids are my joy. Thankfully, I did not have to face my attacker in court because he was shot by police during a robbery. I believe that my faith in GOD carried me through the dark times and continues to help me everyday. Find a therapist for yourself...get your feelings out and learn how to put the pain behind you...find strength in your human spirit and don't let anyone take that away from you. You will find love someday...it takes time to heal. I wish you the best!
2006-08-20 13:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been a victim of abuse by many men my mom dated 1 guy grabbed me by my skin of my stomach & threw me over a car kicked me in the chest so hard i left body print in a wall & punched me in the eye had black eye for 5 weeks another boyfriend of hers cut my leg so bad needed 60 stitches ......i shot & killed him when i was 17....was 17 in jail lookin at 2nd degree murder charge ....was thrown out by grand jury as self defence ... but no matter what happens to you ,,,,you decide wheather or not you let it keep hurting you....dont let it keep hurting you or he won.... i suggest you do something self impowering something to keep you from being a victim in the future ...buy a gun no 2 guns learn how to use them get a carry permit & please dont go quitely into that good night ....i truly hope ive helped you & im sorry for what happened to you & all victims 1 in 3 women are raped & most women hate guns i cant figure it out its like most women dont realize only you can protect you!!!!
2006-08-20 13:36:08 · answer #4 · answered by assaultwpn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would neveer get over it. I would never trust to anyone.
And I swear in my life, I would chase him down, and take out his loungs with my bare hands and stuck it into his mouth.. actually just killing him would be enough. nothing more. i dont even want to touch him.
then i would kill his parents. i wouldnt touch his wife... Kill his brothers.
and to the rest of my life i would hate men kind. I am not joking. This is my weak spot... I know I would, that is where that beast lies inside of me...
Just never. Ever... It's just me, other women might manage to go on... But I cant. I would hate myslef if I would do it.
Sorry for not helping you, but that's how it would work in my case.
In your case, dont even come closer to her,before she gives you a sign u can.
DO NOT URGE HER anything!!
2006-08-20 13:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by ~Lana__ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never know. But I guess, life must go on. Does the experience still haunt you till now? If it does, you may need to see a psychiatrist (spell right? I mean a shrink doctor). If it doesn't, then believe me, not all men is as jerk as that rapist who did that to you. You have my prayer.
2006-08-20 13:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by papadaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a long time. You have to wait until you feel you can trust someone again. If you find the right person, they should be understanding of this. Talk to them about it and explain why it is hard to trust/love again.
2006-08-20 13:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by angib18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is talk to someone and get it out in the open so to speak. It helps alot if you confront the situation head on.
2006-08-24 09:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by brandyalexia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to try and realize that everyone isnt the same...u have to see that being alone because of a bad incident doesnt make u any happier...one of my friends went thru this and she had alot of ppl to support her and help her out...now dont get me wrong, itz going to take a little time, but trust me, it will happen....when u try to get into a relationship, take it slow...dont rush into anything because it will break u down if u get hurt again....just dont rush into a relationship just yet.....try and realize that u dont want to make anybody else pay for some jack ***'s mistake...good luck to u gurl=D
2006-08-20 13:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by ~*Juicy Mrz. Brown*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was raped..so i know where your coming from if that is your situation..and i have just found..the love of my life..but the way i had to do it..was unhealthy...id' FORCE myself to forget everything..but you need to come to terms with it..learn from it and realize that it can no longer hold you back..he can no longer hold you back...and you dont learn to love...you just do..take a day..and think about it..think about how its changed your life..and how it has made you smarter and srtonger..no..its not easy..its taken me 9 years to get over mine..the way i proved to myself..i was over him..was i had sex..i forced myself to have sex..with a dude..i hated..DONT..please...DONT do that..it makes everything more painful...and if the person loves you..as you say they do..they will do nothing but help and support you..
2006-08-20 13:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think suffering a trauma like a rape would require the help of a therapist. I don't think you can overcome this level of trauma on your own
2006-08-20 13:21:28 · answer #11 · answered by SalseraNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋