I am not happy with my marriage for seven years already but yet I felt constraint to stay in this marriage for the sake of my kids and financial consequences of divorce. I am thinking of asking for separation when the kids are older (ten years from now, by then my girls will be 17). At the same time I felt it is not fair to my wife and myself to ask for separation that late. By that time she will be 53, I will be 52. It may be hard for us to find another soul mate since we both are older.
So my questions are:
Do man and woman really need each other? Are we bound to have a soul mate. If after divorce, I fall in love with another lady and then end up with another unhappy marriage. Isn’t that really sad. Do man and woman really need each other?
2006-08-20 13:08:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't believe we need each other but want each other.
2006-08-20 13:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
My short answer is no. (My long answer is also no, but I have more to say.) If you and your wife are not happy don't stay together for your children. Get counseling and see if you can't stay together for each other. If you had the same wedding vows I had at my marriage, you heard your self say that you would stick together when times got rough. It is hard to stay in love. It takes work. The same thing will happen if you ever marry again because you are the element in the picture that needs to change. Eventually a relationship will always require that you work at it. So, do it for this wife and your children, or do it for another wife down the road. Or just plan to spend a lot of time alone.
Children are not better off in an intact family where the parents are not loving and respectful of each other. If you model this for your children then someday they will repeat this scenario in their own lives. It will be what they learned from their own parents. This is what is meant by "The sins of the father...." Good luck whatever you decide to do.
2006-08-20 20:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that we do need each other. Our nest is emptying and I cannot imagine life without my husband, even though we aren't really soul mates. We have learned to give and take, and helped one another through so many things, we have become very happy with one another.
Seven years is a tough time (hence the movie called "Seven-Year Itch"). There are times in marriage when things seem rough. But that's what commitment is all about: you work through those times and come out stronger for them.
You don't say why you are not happy. That's a major thing. Figure that out... talk it over with her... and perhaps get some counselling to make things better. I don't think soul mate is the point. I think that, no matter who we live with, we must learn to help one another and make the relationship work.
Even Oscar and Felix had to do that.
2006-08-20 20:22:39 · answer #3 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when we fall in love, we always thought that the road ahead is so wonderful. But after marriage, some couple realise that everything is not as wonderful as they thought. Some will go for counselling but some will just give up. I hope you are not the person who will give up your marriage just like that. Find out the reason why you so unhappy with your marriage and talk it out with your wife.
Its true that if we failed in our marriage, we will have phobia for our second one. Actually man and woman do not really need each other. If marriage brings unhappiness, why marriage?Some single are just live happily and enjoy their life. Life is not just about finding soul mate..... I think you worry too much.
2006-08-20 20:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by rose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"not happy with my marriage"
Do you think that YOUR children will copy this behavior?
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1)Do man and woman really need each other?
to contiune as a species until cloning takes over!
2)Are we bound to have a soul mate.
I think we all do have at least one soul mate however, soulmates may never meet.
3)If after divorce, I fall in love with another lady and then end up with another unhappy marriage.....
That's the SAME RISK as when you met your current wife, isn't it?
4)Do man and woman really need each other?
looks like we can't keep our heads about us "with each other" or "without each other"... ...any advances in cloning yet?
2006-08-20 20:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe that men and women truly need each other to complete their lives. I also believe that you will meet another soul mate to suit you when the time comes. We all keep growing in our emotional lives, and meet soul mates who match us in the different times of our lives. If you are lucky, the first soul mate also changes with you so you remain happily married. If not, you may divorce and find someone who suits you better.
If you are not happy, 10 years is a lot of time to spend on a bad relationship. I would never waste that much time of my life.
2006-08-20 20:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah i believe so.
It is hard when a relationship breaks down.
But its fantastic when you are in love with a person.
2006-08-20 20:17:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No
2006-08-20 20:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋