First Date... ever... help!?

Question

Hi,

I'm 17 and I have never been on a real date. I just met this girl on MySpace who lives close to me, and I asked her out and she said yes... but I'm very worried about what to say or how to act. I just know I will be so nervous that I won't be able to keep a conversation... she said she talks a lot and I'm hoping she brings up topics that I can work with. Please help, I'm extremley nervous and I don't know what to do.

Answer 1

its easy to say just relax or just be yourself, but those are so trite and so easily said but not so easily done. the best thing is to go and do a bunch of stuff and keep yourself as busy as possible, so you wont think about it. also, all the stuff you do will give you things to talk about when you are dining out

Answer 2

Be sure to seem attentive, nod, ask questions so she knows you're paying attention. When you meet up, compliment her on something, her hair, her smile, her eyes, her shoes, whatever.

Do try to go armed with a few questions in case she doesn't talk as much as you thought or she is nervous like you. See what movies are our recently, ask her about those. You can ask her about how she enjoys MySpace, what she likes about it, whether her friends use it as well, etc. Have you figured out any mutual interests yet? If yes, that could be a good topic of conversation as well.

No matter how old and how experienced, know that everyone gets at least a little nervous when they first meet someone so don't go into this thinking you're some freak for being nervous. It's completely understandable. Chances are that she'll be nervous as well. But if all goes well you'll enjoy each others' company and will forget about that quickly. If not then this is probably not really meant to be and it will be over in a few hours anyway.

Answer 3

This will absolutely work. Trust me. You'll need to do a little homework first to find the right places.

First, pick her up and bring her flowers - a simple red rose will do (cheap).

The secret is dinner - a Progressive Dinner. Every course (appetiser and/or salad, entree, and dessert) is at a different resturant. The places don't have to be fancy. You don't have to spend a lot of money.

By going to 3 or 4 different places, you are in different environments. Those different environments will yield different experienced and conversations (about the food, the waiter, the people around you, etc). Since you are moving around alot, you won't get stuck in a verbal rut.

When it comes time for dessert - if the night is going well - you can share a dessert. Very romantic.

Answer 4

Hello. Your question is one that many have. First date problems. Like other advice givers have said to you, be yourself. That is the most important thing to do on any date. If the other person doesn't like you for you, are they really even worth the time of day? Not in my opinion. I remember my first date, my boyfriend and I met online and we decided to get together for a date, and we were both so nervous. It eventually blossomed into an amazing relationship. I hope it works out for you, and if you need anything else, just ask. Bye!

Answer 5

Okay you've probably had discussions with her online and by phone right? Take a deep breathe it's all good just relax be who you are and pick a place you'll both be comfy at and that is set up so you can hear each other coffee shop, diner etc. pick a place you can talk and get to comfy if the date goes well y'all can head to another place and continue the date. Treat it like seeing a friend (just be yourself and polite, friendly just not overly) Good eye contact, actually talking and listening to what she says, it's getting to know someone interesting, relax and have fun..don't put all the pressure on yourself or her that's a date killer just relax and pick somewhere you like, surroundings can make the difference (keep her in mind too)

Answer 6

Just seeing your concern over this shows respect and attention.
If she is sharp, she will appreciate that.
Look her in the eye when you talk, and mention her name everyso often as you make a point about something. Everyone likes being directly addressed in conversation.
Good manners, and joke around a bit.
Forget she's a girl and think of her as a person you want to know more about.
You will do fine.

Answer 7

Just be yourself. I met my bf on myspace and we ended up talking for 8 hours straight the first time we met. we have been together for 2 years. don't be fake or cocky. Girls hate that. Also be a gentlemen. Open doors for her, pay for the date. In terms of what to talk about, ask her about herself. What kind of music does she like, anyone can talk about music. If she likes to talk then just ask her a question and let her talk. But make sure you listen too so that you can respond what she says.

Answer 8

The most important thing to do is relax. Talk about the same things you talk about online. and expand on that. Dont be afraid to talk but make sure you listen too. Remember she said yes to the date so she already likes you. Be Cool!

Answer 9

Ok first off don't ever talk to people and try to meet up with them ever again!! But since you did, like everyone else said be yourself and make sure you open doors and act like a gentleman!

Answer 10

...be yourself. It sounds like you are articulate.

Tell her the story you just told us. What makes you think she is any less nervous. Hopefully you find her physically attractive as well as enjoying her personality.

If she talks a lot, just be a good listener.