My wife left me about 3 months ago after we moved half way across the country and has been saying shes divorcing me although I havent seen or heard anything yet.. I am really hoping she comes home and tries with me to make it work instead of taking the easy way out..
I feel terrible for even thinkiing like this.. but I am bored and pretty damn lonely lately.. theres this girl at the grocery store that I keep running into.. always has something interesting to say and very pretty.. I really am not looking to get involved with anybody else.. even if the divorce papers come through,I want my wife back, but im tired of sitting here alone all the time.. I am a firm believer that even if your spouse leaves you until the divorce is final you cant do anything like that.. but what do you think.. would you consider just going out to dinner or a drink or something cheating? I dont want to do the morally wrong thing here.. I would rather my wife just come back and I wouldnt even be thinking this
2006-08-20 13:01:09 · 13 answers · asked by althor989 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel very sorry for you Sweety If she has said its over its over there is nothing that you can do. But a divorce can take a long time and can be very messy. So if you have found some one that you think will keep you company even if it is only social company and nothing more i don't think that will do any harm even if you wanted to take it further there is no harm its not cheating if your wife has left you. Having someone just for company is not a crime and should not get in the way of your morals but you must think did your wife have any when she left you. As it sound you packed up your life to move to start another and she has left you to do it on your Owen so if i was you i would not delay starting one i know it would be hard but you might find she could get her noes put out knowing that your not sitting at home mopping over her. I wish you all the best and take care.
2006-08-20 13:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by sweety yhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but your wife has abandoned your marriage. Only you know the real reason why, I'm assuming. You are right that she took the easy way out and even if she did come back would probably do the same thing again. You can't teach a runner to stick it out and at least try. I realize that you would like to have her back, but think of yourself also. Would you want her back to play with your emotions and then to run out again? Is that a marriage? Is it fair that you are the one suffering?
I don't think that a dinner or a drink is cheating, without involving any more. But first, I think you need to take some time for yourself to understand what it is you would like to do. Once you have found your answer you will feel better about your decision as to wait or to say "hello".
2006-08-21 00:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by Tweek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would your answer to this be if this question was from your wife? And by the way, you don't have to sit alone all the time. Get a bunch of friends from work together to see a movie or have dinner. Join a bowling league, take evening classes at a local college. You don't have to go against your morals in order to have an evening out.
2006-08-20 20:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you need to comeback with your wife,try to communicate with her first, before you go out with the girl at the grocery store. why? because you can say, you will go out with this girl just for dinner,but as a man you know that every relationship start with that; and everything can happen between a man and a woman.if you feel lonely,talk,visit your friends.Sometimes for men and women is very hard do not have sex for weeks or days or maybe months.Try to do the best you can.Good luck.
2006-08-20 20:18:15 · answer #4 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, if you jsut go out to dinner and have a drink that is not cheating, unless you take it to the next step. If your wife is not coming back, then you do need to move on, but I agree with you, no sex until the papers are signed. I dated after my husband left me, but I did not have sex until the divorce papers were served and done.. Good luck
2006-08-20 20:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything stupid you will regret because if there was a chance you might lose in the end. Of course your lonely your missing the woman you love. Try staying busy doing something besides thinking of being that way. Have you tried talking with her or is there no contact since she has been gone?
2006-08-20 20:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make up your mind what you want to do before taking any more action. You say that you want your wife back, then you say you want to take someone to dinner. You can't have both. Decide what you want most then go for it.
2006-08-20 20:08:46 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, do what you have to do. Your only human and your wife can't expect you to wait around until she decides which direction to go in her life. I can tell you love your wife but please go out and have some fun. That's not cheating. Good luck and all the best.
2006-08-20 20:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there, almost the same situation. Be careful getting involved with someone to quickly and then getting attached to them can blow up in your face, as both of you realize it really wasn't going to work. I really don't consider it cheating, you have been dumped, if she changes her mind later she will just have to accept whatever situation you are in.
2006-08-20 20:23:29 · answer #9 · answered by whatshisface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do things that will complicate your situation..contact ur wife ans tell her to go home and talk about..if she wants out, give it to her..at least u know where u stand and u can move on with your life too without her...if u cant contact her and she doesnt come home soon, then , life's has to go on..dont count on her anymore..let go an go on with ur life
2006-08-20 20:11:47 · answer #10 · answered by just me:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋