married 7 years have 7 children arnt planning anymore but feel sometimes the romance is gone
please help.
2006-08-20 12:57:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
geez with 7 kids no wonder you feel like that. You probably don't have time to talk to each other let alone have sex. Not sure what your financial situation is like but I would try to get a sitter (don't tell your wife your planning this) for the entire evening and take her somewhere nice for dinner, maybe a nice walk afterwards then if you can afford it get a hotel for the night. Get a bottle of wine or something and just try to enjoy each other. It sounds to me like you both could use a little rest and relaxation. Wish you the best and I just want to say it is nice to see a husband trying to better the relationship.
2006-08-20 13:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wau! So powerful!
In order 2 bring back her interest, u've 2b patience.
Just imagine, 7 yrs of marriage, brings u 7 kids!
Starts slowly from the beginning. Once a while, take her 4 a vacation. On & off, have a short trips together with her only. Try 2 manage someone who can take care of ur kids. Don't let ur wife has the worries over the kids. Give her some faith.
Try 2 bring back the sweet memories u have b4. Think of her interest, what she likes most, then, do it just bcos of her. Let her feels that she is still in luv.
Do ur best part. Good Luck!
2006-08-20 23:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by cancerlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to set aside some time each week, even if it is only an hour to be by yourselves.
Then I think you need to spice things up a bit, like buying some toys or role playing, whatever turns you on.
You do need to make her feel sexy though. Maybe you should buy a book on the subject, that could help too.
I think it is natural for the romance to go a bit after 7 years though
2006-08-20 20:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by katie girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 7 children you are lucky your "package" isn't gone! You want a better sexual relationship, how about taking care of all the kids for a few days to let here relax and catch up on her rest.
After she has rested for at least two days and not had to worry about the kids, send her to a spa for a complete body massage.
When she gets home surprise her with a romantic get away for just the two of you.
You will be surprised yourself at how much better she feels and how much better the sex can be.
2006-08-20 20:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The romance is gone because sex to her = pregnancy. Seven kids in seven years? Are you insane? Give you wife a break for a year. Masturbate and help her raise the kids.
Honestly, are you serious when you say you have no clue why the romance is gone? What were you thinking?
2006-08-20 20:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by fugutastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on the little things, and build/enhance your communications. These two are foundations that will last decades. The kids will evolve, just like your marriage should. Work on what 'you' can do to make her feel special. Start with yourself too, and improve who and what you are. Learn new skills, become better at listening, the active and positive kind. Give her compliments---but MEAN them, don't be pandering to her interests....... actively and positively promote her
2006-08-20 20:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by megettingbetter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your wife's too tired in taking care of 7 children and the house and you :) and maybe she's afraid tha she'll get pregnant again! talk to her..then think back..what are the things that turn your wife on and work ur way from there :)
2006-08-20 20:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by just me:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember what you did when you were dating. take her out somewhere where she would not expect you to make out take another honeymoon. and do something you never done before. make her feel she is still beautiful to you. talk to her and whisper inher ear sweet nothings while in front of kids, tell here what you want to do to her when the kids are aound and go to bathroom and get a bunch of quickies
2006-08-20 20:05:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring some sexual toys in the bedroom. Or role play.
2006-08-20 20:03:10 · answer #9 · answered by joesy617 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 children probably make it all but impossible for her to feel sexy!!
give her a day to relax, be pampered... and when it comes to sex, do what SHE likes for longer than 5 or 10 min (and make it worth her while...)
2006-08-20 20:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by bigbadwolfe_2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋