my friend is ALWAYS talking bad about all my friends and other people she hasnt even met! sometimes i even wonder if she is talking about me behind my back with other people. everytime she tells me something about someone i would either ignore it or say nothing and keep looking at something else. should i tell her something or stop hanging out with her. what do i do?
2006-08-20 12:40:50 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can be sure she is talking about you that way or will start soon. If you want to keep her for a friend, it might be a good idea to take her aside privately and explain that all this negative talk is getting you down. You wonder if she would ever say those kinds of things about you. Explain to her you value her friendship, and you expect your friends to be loyal and discrete. It's possible she's just jealous of you and wants attention. In any case, it's time to stop the mood-poison. Good luck.
2006-08-20 12:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a total downer get away from her and you can bet she is talking about you too behind your back. Have friends that are happy and not two faced and that are fun to be with. You walk through this life once don't carry bad baggage around with you and be proud that you pretty much made up you own mind she not a good person to hang with.
2006-08-20 12:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by mustang.suzy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
before each little thing money for what? Like if I forgot my lunch money I requested to borrow it from a chum, on occsian yet i'm a senior now, with a job so I in no way have this example. per chance you could locate out what the money is for and who she is getting it from. could she be saving it for a particular reason, or does she sense you at the on the spot are not giving her sufficient money ( i have felt that way a time or 2)....talk including her, her friends, and instructors about it. brilliant desires and that i wish the anwser helped
2016-11-30 21:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have very go intuition and should follow what your instincts tell you. You may wind up being guilty by association by being around her when she is bad mouthing others. People will not want to be around her other than to cause trouble. You would be well served by finding another friend, but tell her why you are going to distance yourself from her. She may use it as a wake up call and change .....or not. her call....
2006-08-20 12:52:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time she says something bad about your friends, CALL THEM right then and there and ask them if it is true right in front of her.
Like this:
"Hey FRIEND, Bad Friend says that you (FILL IN THE BLANK) Is that true?".
It's like putting hot sauce on a baby's thumb! They will stop!
It is always good to defend someone in their absence. People will then know that you have character.
Plus Gossip is a sin!
2006-08-20 12:48:38 · answer #5 · answered by extremelyradicalman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How much do you value her friendship? You might try to communicate with her, be kind and non-judgemental and tell her that you feel uncomfortable talking bad about other people and don't want to be involved in that. Let her know you can enjoy talking about other things. Also, ask her if she talks that way about you, let her know how hurt and disappointed you would be if that were true, that friends should stand up for each other, not tear each other down. Good luck.
2006-08-20 12:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
don't hang out with her cuz i had a friend like that and i almost got killed because of her arrogant comments and i advise u to burst her bubble and let her see she is worser than them for only a person who is retarded gets into someone elses life& and Another thing look for people who you think are less problematic
cha cha bye now
2006-08-20 12:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by stupid lol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel about her talking about people and if she continues to do it just start hanging with other friends... she'll get the hint. Be prepared though people like that when they feel hurt will turn the tables on you and thats when you'll know your true friends. Sounds to me like you wouldn't be losing anything to just make other friends.
2006-08-20 12:46:56 · answer #8 · answered by kitkool 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i hate ppl who does that and if u stopped hanging out with her she would do the same to u and start talking about u .so ignore her and make some good excuses for that
2006-08-20 12:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by Angle heart 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should stop hanging out with her. You don't need negative people in your circle. And yes, she is talking about you behind your back. With people like her, no one's immune.
2006-08-20 12:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by gravytrain036 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋