I was the one who wanted the 3 way but unsure of being ****** by a room full of guys .
2006-08-20 12:34:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I like the 3 way .it took 5 years of talking now he wants me to try 5 or 6 guys this coming weekend this is way to fast .And yes the other guy wore a condom
2006-08-20 12:50:18 · update #1
Its wonderful that you and your husband have this most awesome relationship, open and decent.!! However, slow it down so that you BOTH can have a grasp of everything.
Definately take things slow...... suggest you and your husband agree to a break to 'feel' and 'think' about how all this has turned out. Sexual fulfillment between you and your husband is paramount, yet the inclusion of another for sexual pleasure is a choice you both make, and is to be well thought out. Seems like you did that. If/when you are willing to go farther, then do so.
The issues regarding swinging or including another have danger signs when the marriage isn't the priority, when your communication, trust and respect isn't top-notch. Definatley ensure your marriage is your priority before going further.
The benefits of spice and enjoyment from this are nearly boundless when your marriage is rock-solid, your communication is effortless and the trust/respect are obvious to on-lookers.
There are many decent resources on the internet for reading up on the practical matters of swinging, including a third person (and even the room full of guys). Definately share them back and forth with your husband as you consider your options.
Do note that your relationship HAS changed because of this... what 'you' do with that change is up to you. If this activity was best as a one time thing, ok......... accept that and go on..... if you both wish further experiences, great..... make sure you both understand each other fully, talk for many dozens of hours about the various possibilities for your relatinsihp, and the intimate encournters that your future may hold..... and get mutual agreement before doing anything further.
On the medical front---always either wear condoms for the guys, or positively ensure EVERYONE has recent (within 10 days) of a complete set of STD tests...... not just HIV. Your LIFE depends on this commonsense aspect.
Finally, have your husband read these threads and those of your other posts...... especially to enhance your communication with him.
Hollynfaith certainly has common sense advice here!
I wish you the best of luck as you go forward.
2006-08-20 12:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by megettingbetter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said it was your idea of a three way right? And hubby liked it, as did you I'm assuming. Why not leave it at that? Who's idea is it to be with a room full of guys? If it's his, well then the next step would be for him to be in a room full of women...can you handle that? I'd suggest you set limits on exploring your new sexual endeavors before it gets out of control.
2006-08-20 12:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just too weired for me. Why? What pleasure does ur husband get out of seeing multiple guys bang the hell out of his wife? I've heard of guys wanting to bring in other women, but the guy thing is wayyyy out there. Has he expressed feelings of wanting to be with a man? Watch out......While ur being distracted by a gang full of D***s, he may be getting a REAR full, too. If U know what I mean.
2006-08-20 13:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by Timber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to try it with all of them then go ahead but you and your husband need to lay down the ground rules before you go any further.
It can be fun, but if it took so long for him to agree to have a threesome and all of a sudden to want 5 or 6 men to do you, it would seem kind of unusual, I think you and him need to talk in depth about this before you go any further. If both of you know that you can handle it and you both really want it then go for it!
2006-08-20 19:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my ex and i had a three way with another woman. Then she wanted two guys at once so we did that too. Then we split up and now she's with him. And you know what? Best damn thing I've ever done. Now HE'S the miserable one, lol! Anyway, whatever you do, just know that you may be risking your marriage over physical pleasure.
2006-08-20 12:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by Tim C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you opened up a big ole can of worms there girlie. Fantasies are fantasies until you act upon them. There is nothing wrong with having a fantasy, but when you act on it (esp when you are either married or in a committed relationship) you are only asking for TROUBLE!!!!!
2006-08-20 12:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I have heard from other people (both men and women) that once you have a threesome, the relationship will never be the same - good or bad.
I honestly believe that anyone that does this, especially in a serious relationship, is opening a Pandora's box. Good luck and I hope your marriage survives this.
2006-08-20 12:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by Shane Pitt 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did You enjoy it? Next time try it with a Women. Three ways are Fun.
2006-08-20 12:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by canivieu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 06:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you got what you wanted. He tried it your way and now he likes it. What is the problem? You started it with your low morals and lack of respect for your marriage vows, now you can deal with the results.
2006-08-20 12:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋