well my babyfather told me he dont want me he want to be with other people so i said fine i been trying to move on from this realtionship but he is contacting me saying how my p***y doing and how is his daughter doing i am not getting why he wont leave me and his daughter alone. But he told me he will never leave us alone i am trying to find someonelse but he trying to still be in the picture and i want to know why is he contacting me when he said he dont want us anymore???
2006-08-20 12:13:30 · 9 answers · asked by cowanelmo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Guy always want to be in control. In this case, he is asserting his control by contacting you and trying to gain a response from you. By you responding to his comments and remarks, you are allowing him to continue an open path of communication. You need to set a ground rule for yourself and establish that you will either
A. Never talk to him again, and allow only communication from him to your child (and not to you).
Or
B. Allow him into your life
There is no middle ground. If you allow him in, he is in and will try to gain control. But if you do not let him into your life, he will want to try harder (testing your will and patience), until he finally gets a clue. Face it, guys want what they cant have. Therefore, DONT GIVE HIM WHAT HE WANTS!!
2006-08-20 12:27:05 · answer #1 · answered by Knick101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweety it like this he may not want you but like others have said he wont let any one else have you. So do the smart thing tell him he can have contact with his child as it is his baby but tell him the only contact you want with him is on birthdays doctors appointments and other special occasions if he asks you why say that you need your time to move on and find some one that wants to be there for you not to use you or have a permanent hold on you. You must be strong as he is using you as a doormat don't let that happen or he will keep doing it.If you are that Cretan that you don't want him back get custody of your daughter tell him he can have every second weekend with her but that does not mean you. Put your foot down the longer you let it drag the more it will go on even go stay with a Friend or relative till he gets the picture your not interested.
2006-08-20 13:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by sweety yhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are very fickle. He doesn't want you but doesn't want any other guys to have you either. If he is asking about his daughter then he might want to remain in her life and your moving on probably scares him because he doesn't want to be replaced. If I were you I would not allow him to stop you from moving on. If his contacting you and claiming that he will never leave you alone bothers you then you should contact domestic relations and inform them and they will tell you how to deal with the situation.
2006-08-20 12:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by heavensentraven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what you call a "typical man" sweetheart. Problem is you'll always be connected to him because of the daughter you share together. If he wants to be a part of his daughter life he should be, the child should not be deprived of her father, provided he knows how to be one. Far as you are concerned though, tell him to take his co*k and shove it up his a*s because you're not interested, there are better men on the horizon.
2006-08-20 12:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by Firebird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it`s this way,he leaves because he wanted someone new,because your time was busy with the kid.now that he has the cake is wants to eat it to. you are just a piece of a.s.s. to him,he really doesn`t care about you and he doesn`t want you to move on.he thinks that you will always be there for him if he decides to come back.for alittle while. leave and don`t tell him anything just go.
2006-08-20 12:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want you but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either.
2006-08-20 12:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because he is a loser, and does not care for you and your daughter.
2006-08-21 02:11:14 · answer #7 · answered by IndyMM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry! Can't read "Street"!
2006-08-20 12:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by Frank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what?
2006-08-20 12:19:28 · answer #9 · answered by fan_of_metal_gear_solid_4_life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋