well my babyfather told me he dont want me he want to be with other people so i said fine i been trying to move on from this realtionship but he is contacting me saying how my pussy doing and how is his daughter doing i am not getting why he wont leave me and his daughter alone. But he told me he will never leave us alone i am trying to find someonelse but he trying to still be in the picture and i want to know why is he contacting me when he said he dont want us anymore???
2006-08-20 12:06:58 · 45 answers · asked by cowanelmo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
your baby father just sounds like he wants to have control over whats going on your side and his.when the truth is, it aint none of his business. if he said he dont want nothin to do with you or your daughter, he needs to make up his mind before you make it up for him.before you take him to court and get child support established(if you havent already) and let him know that his ignorance isnt needed, if he wants to act like that, and that his money will suffice.
you arent some kind of game from the dollar store that he can just play with, and disrespect you one minute and then the next try and be all in your face.when will some of these men learn?it sounds to me like he wants to be able to go out and do whatever he wants to do, but keep a short leash on you as well, find another MAN that is willing to step up to the plate, and be there all the time, not just when he gets ready, you'll be a lot better off my sister.
2006-08-20 12:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by 0000000000000000000000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could handle this a few ways, 1. call the police and see if you can get a restaining order 2. file a harassment charge through the local police
or you could tell him that you will let him see your daughter once a week or agree on something like that, depending on how he is, i dont know him and dont know if that is a good idea or not. you might just tell him that for awhile you need to be left alone and that you can have your daughter write him a letter or something untill you figure it out or forgive him enough, if you can.
he might be feeling sorry for how he left, he probobly found out that he doesnt like anyone else as much as he likes you and wants you back, ive seen that happen, but now you cant really trust him cuz he left you once and he might have been cheating, i would talk to the police and see what they say about it. you can even try telling him you will do that if he tries to contact you again
just a few ideas, I hope this helps and I hope the best for you, but dont be afraid to do something about it, it can only get worse and you dont want it to
2006-08-20 12:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by penguin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him out of the picture you need to work with DHS and a lawyer (which they can help you acquire for little to nothing) to gain full custody of your daughter. If he gets any visitation rights and you are not comfortable about the situation ask for monitored visitation. Sounds to me like you need to be the one to step up to the plate and say enough is enough. Take it to the courts, get child support, and cut him from your life as much as possible. He will never completely go away because he is your daughters father, but there are limits to how much contact he has with you and the child. As for the phone calls and such, inform the law and phone company. If the calls are harassing in nature and frequent, they can have his phone shut down because of it. Good luck with what ever you decide.
2006-08-20 12:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by pagudus6669 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My baby's real father is like that too. We have been separated for two years now since I decided to leave him for physical and emotional abuses. But even if I told him to left us alone, he still continues to bug us because of his daughter. So possibly that is the same reason why he is bugging you all the time because of your daughter. If he trys to threaten you or your baby.. ask around for a TRO(temporary restaining order) and also try to ask how you can get a child support from him.. I mean he was the one who asked to see other people. If he wants to be part of his baby's life ask him to give child support and thats the only way to get into her life.
2006-08-20 20:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real loser for dissing his baby like that, and his actions could be one of two things:
1) He felt he had to ditch you for whatever reason, but there is enough of a real man in there that he feels lingering guilt about treating you so badly.
2) He's a total loser and is finding that as time goes on, more and more girls are catching on to him, so he wants his 'stuff' back. I am not saying this is cool or anything, but if this is the type of guy he is, he likely sees you and the kid as his 'stuff' and thinks he is entitled to you.
If the answer is number 1 and you feel like it, it might be worth checking out. If it's number 2, he's a jerk. Start writing down the stuff he says and does in case he tries to do an legal crap to get custody or rights with your kid.
2006-08-20 12:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by But why is the rum always gone? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably torn between not wanting to abandon his kid but also not wanting to be in a committed relationship... So instead he tries to cut himself out of the picture but at the same time he's trying to ease his own conscious by making the occasional check-up on his daughter while doing his best to eliminate what he deems as 'unnecessary contact' with the 'middle-woman' you.
In other words he's a scared little boy with a guilt trip he's trying to compensate, but it's up to you whether you want to allow him in your daughter's life, because now he's acting out of guilt. And guilty cut and runners never make for good parents until they can learn to grow up...
2006-08-20 12:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by Rick R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guys messed up, yeah if he ran out of your life then he's got no right to be affecting your relationships with others, Its ok that he calls and asks for his daughter but as for him to still be after you thats not right, try calling the cops on this dude, or some relative and tell him you need help with this guy, oh and becareful with him he might hurt or your baby, you could also move away from him!
2006-08-20 12:13:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still contacting you because he wants to feel like he has somekinda control over you still. He wants to have everything his way. If I were you I'd get child support for the baby and when the baby is old enough, she can decide for herself if she wants to be in anykinda relationship with her deadbeat dad. Find yourself a man that will love you and the baby and treat you the way you deserve to be! I'd cut off contact with him, he's not good enough for you or the baby!
My husband said that maybe he don't like you but he's still interested in the baby. But that he should still be paying child support.
2006-08-20 12:16:13 · answer #8 · answered by Hottestwallflower 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was he mad when he said that?? Maybe he didn't mean it. I think he still has a right to call and check on his daughter but for you move on. Maybe then he will get the hint. When he does contact you tell him anything he wants about his daughter but when he asks you something tell him not to worry about you.
2006-08-20 12:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by michelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He regrets loosing you, and he is lonely, and doesn't want anyone else to have you. He is doing all the negative things that men do in this situation. Ask him to email you rather than call if he needs something. It sounds like you may want him back too. Do what you want. Don't let your friends or family map out your life for you. You will learn whether it is righ or wrong, easy or too hard... Best of Wishes
2006-08-20 12:13:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋