My boy and I were friends for a long time, about 3 years. I finally felt like I could trust him enough to let him know that I am gay and everything was cool as he did not have a problem with it. Now he is married with kids, but he is also messing around on the side with another woman. I have come to have a huge crush on him, which I think is love,and it kills me when he tells me of his sex life with women. But once in a while, I will get a bit of a "signal" from him, that he would not mind messing around with me either (mostly when we are drunk). Any opinions on this crazy **** situation? I have never been in something like this before.....and it kills me to want something I cannot totally have.
2006-08-20 11:46:21 · 23 answers · asked by TotallyMessedUp 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
the most you'll ever get is to blow him when he's drunk and don't think its you he wants. he's drunk and horny he'd hump a goat, for him it's better than masturbating. and he may blame you and end the friendship when he's sober or just pretend it never happend. he may also just drop by for a bj everytime he's drunk and horny.its a s**t situation to get yourself in if you already have feelings for him, you're just gonna wind up hurt...........so as much as you don't want to hear this it's a bad idea don't do it! good luck!!
2006-08-20 21:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay the heck away!!!
First off - adultery is adultery. Doesn't matter if it is with a gay or straight person. Adultery is just plain wrong period.
You need to find new guys. One of the worst things I could have done was to fall in love with a straight guy. Bad idea! You don't have to cut him off, but you do need to get a life.
If your friend is really your friend, think long term. Do you want to be able to come by and see him years from now and still be able to get drunk and reminisce over old times? Do you like his wife and kids? Then leave him a lone. Don't be like the man who killed the goose that laid the golden eggs. Don't ruin a friend ship over a 30 minutes of cheap sex. If you are really a friend to this man, council him to be true to his wife and not to go whoring around all of creation. His wife and kids need him. Treat him like you would your brother. Anyway, you know that when the chips fall, he'll choose them over you and that you will be out of a friendship.
Find someone that loves you. You don't need a man with a wife and mistress. I don't care how cute he is or how good his azz looks or what.
2006-08-20 21:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As PVD RI said, you are both selfish, overly-lusted men. You are probably falling for your friend because you feel that you and him are a lot in common, which you are.
I'm sure you are just feeling lust. Go out to a Gay Bar or something and meet more guys. Or you could always switch back to women (which are much better) but that's your choice.
Whatever. I'm sure your friend doesn't want a girlfriend AND boyfriend at the same time, especially if he has a wife and kids.
Oh yeah, and get a video of your crush and his girlfriend flirting or whatever, and show it to his wife. It'll be doing him a favor.
2006-08-20 20:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been in similar situations and have occasionally made the wrong the choice. Having done so I can say that the right choice is not to have an intimate relationship with this man. You do not want to be the "Other..." nor do you want to risk the possibility that you could be responsible for the dissolution of his marriage. You should tell him that you do not wish to hear about his exploits with other women because you don't feel comfortable discussing his infidelity.
2006-08-20 23:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SO you're in love with a guy that is married with kids and is cheating on her with another woman and YOU think that HE might do something sexual with YOU when the two of you are drunk. OK, do YOU not see everything wrong with this situation? You are a very selfish person, as is he....so YES I guess the two of you were meant to be.
2006-08-20 18:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! It may be tempting and you may think you want it but it won't satisfy you at least past the sex. Him being "straight" and married I'm sure this would put your friendship in a very awkward position. Would you want to lose a friend over one night of sex? I wouldn't. Now that being said, I would have sex with a single friend if they wanted it and everything was mutual =)
2006-08-20 22:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by JR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similar situation. My Adolesence friend, and i use to play around sexually with each other, until he discovered girls. he married now, 2 kids, but we occasionaly get together, he loves to suck me off, and i get to "f "him. we hang out as regular guys, as far as friends and family are concered, but thats all i can hope for. He knows i love him dearly, and he loves his wife that way too. Even if he was to divorce his wife, i think he would still pursue a girl over me. So unless you do a sex change, you may be stuck with the "drunk, quick get off suck job".
2006-08-20 22:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by dvx9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the person above.
Get out of the house and meet someone else.
Even if he did have sex with you...you'd be in a triangle of frustration once he goes back to his wife and kicks you to the curb OR she finds out and makes a big stink about it.
Either way....sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen.
2006-08-20 20:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by Chad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My God the story of my life! I go sometimes thru that, I have alot of straight friends and they tell me everything like Im one of the guys. I feel sometimes my "Gay-Dar" going off, but its "wishing-Love". Always remember this: a straight guy will always be straight and you will never change that. Sounds like you're really making a effort of "convincing" him. I rather you tell your friend, stop being a man-whore and go sit in the fridge for a bit. Be sarcastic, but you're telling the truth.
2006-08-20 20:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by zuegma1977 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What's in this for you? He'll let you blow him, but in between he has a wife and a girlfriend?
Every relationship should be based on some degree of love, and full respect for yourself and the other person. He obviously doesn't respect his partners, and would likely not respect you either. And if you fall for it, you're not respecting yourself.
2006-08-20 18:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by michael941260 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋