Last night was a first "date" with a woman I've been getting to know at a distance for several weeks. She's in my former hometown. Our evening was full & spontaneous; dinner & drinks at a restaurant run by friends, a stroll through downtown & into her favorite shops. We went to her place, watched indys & boxing. It was late & dark, but she wanted to drive around & show me some housing areas for my mother. Back to her place, where we talked until 2:30. I had a hard time telling if she's still interested in me. Her body language/things she said threw me off. I didn't know how to take comments she made about having resigned herself to not ever finding someone special. When we sat down on her couch, she flopped into a far corner before I sat down, and I didn't know if that meant something. But conversation was good, we laughed a lot. During boxing, I noticed her mirroring all my comments. On the drive, she was trying to convince me to move back to town. But she was guarded in her posture.
2006-08-20 11:39:03 · 10 answers · asked by joe friday's grrl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I should add that this woman was hurt terribly by her last lover, who jilted her at the worst possible time in her life ( the death of two close relatives). She has never stopped working since then, or really grieved, and she admits that the experiences of lost have left her very hard.
2006-08-20 11:41:39 · update #1
One more thing: Her eye contact was pretty constant throughout the evening, and when we sat on the couch talking, she kept looking at me kind of sideways, smiling openly, and her pupils were very dilated. I'm told that's a sign of interest. Also, the first thing she chose to show me on TV was a short documentary she'd recorded about gay marriage.
2006-08-20 11:59:39 · update #2
Proceed slowly. She likes you, but not well enough to open up to you.
You can really afford to be careful with her.
2006-08-20 11:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
This woman sounds like she likes you but doesn't want to show it b/c she's afraid that you might hurt her like the last guy, and she's not ready for that. On top of that she is still probably grieving deep inside but trying to stay strong at the same time. More than likely she kept her body language to herself so that she wouldn't open up to you too quickly or she didn't want to throw you the wrong signs about her or how she felt. Ask her on another date sometime and if you're lucky she'll open up to you, if not than give her the space that she's silently asking for
2006-08-20 11:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by juicesonlycoco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman I have to say that I wouldn't spend that much time with a man I didn't like. If she has been hurt maybe she is just being standoffish to see if you stick around for any length of time. I also beleive that the reason she sat at the other end of the couch is to see if you would sit close to her. Women like to have control and feel like they are being chased per say. Show her you like her by being foward but no too much to scare her. Be confident. She wouldn't spend her time on you if she didn't like you. It sounds like she didn't want the night to end.
2006-08-20 11:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if she is, although guardedly, trying to open up to you. Her constant eye contact is suggestive of her scrutinizing your responses to what she is saying and trying to discern your sincerity. You should go out with her again and tell her that her posturing could be deterring anyone with a genuine interest in her from making a move. That should open things up pretty well! I think she's interested, you just need to decide if you're interested. If you are, then flush her out!
2006-08-20 16:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The body language stuff says she's not ready to get physical, but the rest of it says she likes you. Go slow if you're interested in her.
2006-08-20 11:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she like syou but becareful. get to know her first. a friend of mine failed to heed my warnings about the relationship she was moving way 2 fast to get into and now shes stuck in a horrible relationship and can't get out, even though it is easier than she thinks.
2006-08-20 11:46:02 · answer #6 · answered by mat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's interested, but go slowly with her.
2006-08-20 16:23:01 · answer #7 · answered by ~?~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should show some affection to see how she reacts, but not to strong
2006-08-20 11:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by sexymami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds great!
but she is gonna take it slow
2006-08-20 11:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by ☺Everybody still loves Chris!♥▼© 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it slow dont rush !!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-24 03:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by crazzykid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋